I say just live and let
live on this topic. if suddenly the whole
world decided that being
a heterosexual induvidual was not the
done thing, [this is
assuming that you are heterosexual] how
would you like to be
abused for your preferences? i have just one
qualm on this issue.
what we are seeing a lot these days, is
young people coming
out, often in their school years where
they’re still growing
up and often need approval and support
from friends.
a female may come out
and tell her female friend that she is
lesbian, and suddenly
the friend backs up and thinks ‘wholly shit,
she’s lesbian, she must
be into me’. not all homosexuals love
you, and if they did
well, they’d understand more than others
would if they weren’t
your type. i dunno, people suddenly
dropping their friends
for being gay i just don’t understand. i
talked to one of my
friends about this and we thought that
maybe they get into
this big freaked out thing that maybe they
would one day be confronted
with unwanted attention and have
to deal with it. but
is really worth losing a friendship when your
friend will probably
need your support now more than ever? you
could always make it clear from the beginning that you’re
straight. that’s another
point. perhaps the reason people get
freaked out is that
when someone close to them changes their
sexual inclination it
makes them question their own. and they’re
afraid of what they
might find.
the idea of the norm
– heterosexual lifestyle seems to show a
prejudice i feel is
limiting what could be many great, beautiful
and satisfying relationships.
it’s hard for me to write this without
giving off the impression
that i’m bi-sexual [although it shouldn’t
affect things even if
i were apart from the reaction i may get as i
mentioned above]. if
i said that it would never happen is just
plain ignorant and totally
hypocritical to the point i’m trying to get
to. anyway, it
seems that bi-sexual people have it sussed. love
someone sexually when
and if you find an attraction to them.
Heterosexuality just
forms a barrier saying sorry, i may love you
or find you attractive,
but because of my chosen lifestyle there
will never be a relationship.
the same goes for homosexual
individuals, but possibly
more so, since they have had a stage in
their lives where they
explored the alternative sexuality.
i think watching ‘chasing
amy’ kinda made me think about this.
for those of you unfamiliar
with this movie, it’s about a guy that
falls in love with lesbian
chick [with a slutty reputation from high
school (with guys)]-
both in their 20’s. the point of her
conversion is because
she didn’t want to rule out females in case
her soulmate was one,
and then she would go her whole life
without being completely
fulfilled just because of her prejudice.
until she realises that
she has again limited herself because this
guy pursuing her may
just be her soulmate. so, in limiting
ourselves, we are potentially
missing out on great relationships,
and focusing on others
just because the partner may be of the
‘right’ gender.