| Hi I'm Seth. Just because Mary is my Mom that should not mean that I will be bias in giving you an honest reference about her. In fact, I can give you the best information. The good the bad and the ugly. My mom is not only my best friend who I do not always utilize but she is my teacher and I have lots of things in my life because of her. I learned that everthing I do makes a difference in peoples lives. I also learned that she puposely put elements in my life that I treasure as do many other people. Like, I am fearless because that is what I always saw around me. I try new things because that is what I always saw around me. I know how to love people regardless of their position in life because that is what I always saw around me. I am not a coward because courage is what was given to me. I also cook pretty good now too and try new food from all over the world because I had no choice. Either i ate it or I would leave the table hungry. Even if it was some raw spinach concoction. So today I am a very well blended person because of the way my mom raised me. I do find myself in a pickle alot though. I did not always like the fact that my mom acted like a drill sergeant with chores but those things paid off too. I like work because of it and nothing is too hard to learn. She always had our door open to everyone and people were always in our home and that showed me that everyone is important and that we share our lives. She is kind. I would like to say that my mom is tough though. If I did something wrong or lied or got in trouble she would not forget to punish me. and stick to it. She did not make me feel like a loser but I knew when I hurt her and was always able to talk to her. That is the best thing about her. You can talk to her about anything. She is not smart. she is wise. mom didn't treat me different when I stammered or stuttered she just made sure I knew I was important and said, "moses stuttered too." Now for the bad side. Mom remembers details. she remembers whole days. She remembers what you said to her 10 years ago. Not always good. The worst things about my mom is she likes things done a certain way and it takes a lot to get her to change the plan. Like how come i had to fold the towels a certain way just to fit them on the shelf. Silly stuff. If you say something she expects that you mean it even if you change mind. If you want to change the plan you have to talk. I don't want to have to talk so wish she just let me change without explaining. She is spontaneous with fun stuff but not with home stuff. Unless it is something like, Seth go mow the lawn out of the clear blue or go chop down a tree she just felt like needed to come down. She will see a carnival and say, "hey lets stop in for a while," even if we were on our way somewhere else like the mall or movie, I remember one day she said, I want to go to the beach and within 30 minutes we were packed and on the road. I forgot I had other plans, but it was too late. but with house things she does not change. maybe with somethings like lets have stuffed pitas over the burritos I asked for but i know what she expects from me and what to expect from her. The worst part was mostly I had to keep my room a certain way or I wouldn't hear the end of it. She harps sometimes. I remember standing on a chair washing dishes when I was a little boy and matching socks all over the living room floor. I hated that but she made me do if I wanted to go out and play so I did it. now I don't let my socks build up into a whole basket I do it as i go along. Another bad thing about my mom is she will up and move. I lived in lots of places. 4 years here, 3 years there. 8 years in tulsa was good but I moved when I was bigger and it was hard. If someone called her from Africa and wanted her to come she would go and that is not good in my opinion. she also lets people walk on her. Mary can you come over and do this? "yes." Mary I need you to ... "ok". she is not bashful to talk or say what is on her mind but that alone does not change things with people using her up. she lets things go on without guarding herself. this is not good. To her she thinks you should help everyone and to me I don't think everyone deserves help. She also doesn't think she needs to explain things to me when I ask why. Now she does, but when I was young she said, "cuz i said so, that's why." another bad thing you should be aware of is my mom will make too many "friends" NOT ALWAYS good. some people are not friend material. she tells me who is alright and who is not alright to hang with but she doesn't follow that rule sometimes. she also will talk to homeless people when we are visiting cities and drunks n bums. that is not so bad just as long as I don't have to. another thing is she will start singing in the most inappropriate times. like in the check out line at the grocery store or while sitting in the bleachers at a game. And even during commercials. She sang a song in an airport once to her friend and when she was done 50 people at the gate all clapped but I was red. oh yeah and another thing that you should know is she is touchie. not moody but touchie. she does the massage thing and has a pro table and all the books and reflexology and lotions and oils. I can't remember the last time we watch a movie together that she left my feet alone. That may never come up with you cuz she is my mom and you are on the outside of that comfort zone but she hugs when she meets people, the rest of the world shakes hands. she has lots of things that may make some feel uncomfortable like talks to waitresses waiting on us and asks cashiers hows it going? looks at their tag and adds, Erica! She writes alot and won't talk to me while she is writing. That still pisses me off. I don't mean she writes i mean she writes alot. and now I will stop before I become my mom. oh too late. email me about ANYTHING and I will be happy to respond Seth |
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