I can give you limited information as it pertains to Mary being a full-time caregiver. However, I have known Mary for more than twenty years, so I can share with you in depth about her personality and character, dedication, and work ethics.
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First, let me say, my husband and I utilized Mary to care for our children from time to time when they were much younger but our need has never been a full time live-in requirement. Mary would often come and care for our children over a weekend or a few days in the week, usually because my husband and/or I were on the road for business. (We both used to travel quite a bit.) Based on our instruction, when she was in our home, Mary cooked (marvelously, by the way!!) and cleaned and kept our home and children in order. Additionally, Mary stayed on for a few days here and there, even after my husband and I returned home and continued to cook and assist in care giving for our children. Our children are now older (the eldest is 20) and we no longer need assistance in this capacity.
As for Mary's personality and character: She is a go-getter. Mary is not afraid of anything that I know of. She loves to have fun and learn new things and loves to teach new things to others. I, myself, have learned many things from Mary; things ranging from differences in regional cultures right here in the US and abroad (for Mary has traveled a great deal), to her teaching our family how to go clamming (as we all did share some wonderful vacation moments). Mary is adventurous. When I met her, she was a biker. Yet, she is also very deep and quiet and thoughtful. Over the years, I have known her to write some very beautiful poetry, songs, and writting material that will make your hair stand up in awe. Mary is a joy. She does not change. You know what to expect from her. She can be counted on and will make your children happy. Our children still love her and oftentimes ask about her.
As to her weaknesses, I believe Mary has two weaknesses. The first is the most important, I believe, Mary needs to know the boundaries. She can be a large child herself. My husband and I had to set strict rules for our children during a period of time �rules such as those pertaining to their friends visiting in our home, their times of going out, their bedtimes and required study times. In the beginning, when we just assumed Mary's rules would be similar to ours, we found that she was much more lenient with the children than we were willing to be. Thus, once we set clear boundaries and rules (simply outlining to her the rules and boundaries we wish to set with our children) we required her to enforce them when we were away. That worked fine. Once she is aware of what you want she is faithful to stand firm as you would have her to do. I believe by giving Mary explicit instructions regarding your own needs and desires in raising your children, you will find Mary to be a more then competent au pair and your children very happy with her. Mary�s second weakness is probably not a weakness at all, but more of a preferred difference for our family. She does not like to dress up much. Thus, we had to encourage her to do so when the occasion required it. Mary would almost rather become invisible or not attend an event than put on a dress and makeup!! She is a bit of a tomboy; but I was one myself, so I understand the preference of jeans to a skirt and tennis shoes to heels. Nevertheless, I mention it because she may still require a bit of encouragement in such situations.
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