The Birdies
On July 22nd I was in route to Washington, DC for a business trip. It was all so very ordinary, until we landed in Denver for a plane change. As I collected my belongings from the overhead bin, an announcement was made for Mr. Lloyd Glenn to see the United Customer Service Representative immediately. I thought nothing of it until I reached the door to leave the plane and I heard a gentleman asking every male if he were Mr. Glenn.
At this point I knew something was wrong and my heart sunk. When I got off the plane a solemn-faced young man came toward me and said, "Mr. Glenn, there is an emergency at your home. I do not know what the emergency is, or who is involved, but I will take you to the phone so you can call the hospital."
My heart was now pounding, but the will to be calm took over. Woodenly, I followed this stranger to the distant telephone where I called the number he gave me for the Mission Hospital. My call was put through to the trauma center where I learned that my three-year-old son had been trapped underneath the automatic garage door for several minutes, and that when my wife had found him he was dead.
CPR had been performed by a neighbor, who is a doctor, and the paramedics had continued the treatment as Brian was transported to the hospital. By the time of my call, Brian was revived and they believed he would live, but they did not know how much damage had been done to his brain, nor to his heart.
They explained that the door had completely closed on his little sternum right over his heart. He had been severely crushed. After speaking with the medical staff, my wife sounded worried but not hysterical, and I took comfort in her calmness.
The return flight seemed to last forever, but finally I arrived at the hospital six hours after the garage door had come down. When I walked into the intensive care unit, nothing could have prepared me to see my little son laying so still on a great big bed with tubes and monitors everywhere. He was on a respirator. I glanced at my wife who stood and tried to give me a reassuring smile. It all seemed like a terrible dream. I was filled-in with the details and given a guarded prognosis. Brian was going to live, and the preliminary tests indicated that his heart was OK, two miracles in and of themselves. But only time would tell if his brain received any damage.
Throughout the seemingly endless hours, my wife was calm. She felt that Brian would eventually be all right. I hung on to her words and faith like a lifeline. All that night and the next day Brian remained unconscious. It seemed like forever since I had left for my business trip the day before.
Finally at two o'clock that afternoon, our son regained consciousness and sat up uttering the most beautiful words I have ever heard spoken. He said, "Daddy hold me" and he reached for me with his little arms. [TEAR BREAK...smile]
By the next day he was pronounced as having no neurological or physical deficits, and the story of his iraculous survival spread throughout the hospital. You cannot imagine, we took Brian home, we felt a unique reverence for the life and love of our Heavenly Father that comes to those who brush death so closely.
In the days that followed there was a special spirit about our home. Our two older children were much closer to their little brother. My wife and I were much closer to each other, and all of us were very close as a whole family.
Life took on a less stressful pace. Perspective seemed to be more focused, and balance much easier to gain and maintain. We felt deeply blessed. Our gratitude was truly profound.
The story is not over (smile)!
Almost a month later to the day of the accident, Brian awoke from his afternoon nap and said, "Sit down Mommy. I have something to tell you." At this time in his life, Brian usually spoke in small phrases, so to say a large sentence surprised my wife. She sat down with him on his bed, and he began his sacred and remarkable story.
"Do you remember when I got stuck under the garage door? Well, it was so heavy and it hurt really bad. I called to you, but you couldn't hear me. I started to cry, but then it hurt too bad.
And then the 'birdies' came."
"The birdies?" my wife asked puzzled.
"Yes," he replied. "The birdies made a whooshing sound and flew into the garage. They took care of me."
"They did?"
"Yes," he said. "One of the birdies came and got you. She came to tell you I got stuck under the door." A sweet reverent feeling filled the room. The spirit was so strong and yet lighter than air. My wife realized that a three-year-old had no concept of death and spirits, so he was referring to the beings who came to him from beyond as "birdies" because they were up in the air like birds that fly. "What did the birdies look like?" she asked.
Brian answered, "They were so beautiful. They were dressed in white, all white. Some of them had green and white. But some of them had on just white."
"Did they say anything?"
"Yes," he answered. "They told me the baby would be all right."
"The baby?" my wife asked confused.
Brian answered. "The baby laying on the garage floor." He went on, "You came out and opened the garage door and ran to the baby. You told the baby to stay and not leave."
My wife nearly collapsed upon hearing this, for she had indeed gone and knelt beside Brian's body and seeing his crushed chest whispered, "Don't leave us Brian, please stay if you can." As she listened to Brian telling her the words she had spoken, she realized that the spirit had left His body and was looking down from above on this little lifeless form.
"Then what happened?" she asked.
"We went on a trip." he said, "Far, far away." He grew agitated trying to say the things he didn't seem to have the words for. My wife tried to calm and comfort him, and let him know it would be okay. He struggled with wanting to tell something that obviously was very important to him, but finding the words was difficult.
"We flew so fast up in the air. They're so pretty Mommy," he added.
"And there are lots and lots of birdies." My wife was stunned. Into her mind the sweet comforting spirit enveloped her more soundly, but with an urgency she had never before known. Brian went on to tell her that the "birdies" had told him that he had to come back and tell everyone about the "birdies."
He said they brought him back to the house and that a big fire truck, and an ambulance were there. A man was bringing the baby out on a white bed and he tried to tell the man that the baby would be okay, but the man couldn't hear him. He said the birdies told him he had to go with the ambulance, but they would be near him.
He said they were so pretty and so peaceful, and he didn't want to come back. Then the bright light came. He said that the light was so bright and so warm, and he loved the bright light so much. Someone was in the bright light and put their arms around him and told him, "I love you but you have to go back."
The story went on for an hour. He taught us that "birdies" were always with us, but we don't see them because we look with our eyes and we don't hear them because we listen with our ears. But they are always there, you can only see them in here (he put his hand over his heart). They whisper the things to help us to do what is right because they love us so much.
Brian continued, stating, "I have a plan, Mommy. You have a plan. Daddy has a plan. Everyone has a plan. We must all live our plan and keep our promises. The birdies help us to do that cause they love us so much."
In the weeks that followed, he often came to us and told all, or part of it, again and again. Always the story remained the same. The details were never changed or out of order. A few times he added further bits of information and clarified the message he had already delivered. It never ceased to amaze us how he could tell such detail and speak beyond his ability when he talked about his birdies.
Everywhere he went, he told strangers about the "birdies." Surprisingly, no one ever looked at him strangely when he did this. Rather, they always got a softened look on their face and smiled.
Needless to say, we have not been the same
ever
since that day, and I pray we never will be.
(Thanx Dee)
I maim without killing. I break hearts and
ruin
lives.
I am cunning and malicious and gather strength
with age.
The more I am quoted the more I am believed.
My victims are helpless. They cannot protect
themselves against me because I have no face or name.
To track me down is impossible. The harder you
try, the more elusive I become.
I am nobody's friend.
Once tarnish a reputation, it is never the same.
I topple governments and wreck marriages, I ruin
careers and cause sleepless nights, heartaches and indigestion.
I make innocent people cry in their pillows.
Even my name hisses, I am called Gossip.
I make headlines and headaches.
ASK YOURSELF BEFORE YOU REPEAT A STORY; IS IT TRUE? IS IT HARMLESS?
IS
IT NECESSARY? IF IT ISN'T, DON'T REPEAT IT.
When an old lady died in the geriatric ward of a small hospital near Dundee,Scotland, it was felt that she had nothing left of any value. Later, when the nurses were going through her meager possessions, they found this poem. Its quality and content so impressed the staff that copies were made and distributed to every nurse in the hospital. One nurse took her copy to Ireland. The old lady's sole bequest to posterity has since appeared in the Christmas edition of the News Magazine of the North Ireland Association for Mental Health. A slide presentation has also been made based on her simple, but eloquent, poem. ...And this little old Scottish lady, with nothing left to give to the world, is now the author of this "anonymous" poem winging across the Internet. Goes to show that we all leave "SOME footprints in time".....
An Old Lady's Poem
What do you see, nurses, what do you see?
What are you thinking when you're looking at
me?
A crabby old woman, not very wise, Uncertain
of habit, with faraway eyes?
Who dribbles her food and makes no reply When
you say in a loud voice, "I do wish you'd try!"
Who seems not to notice the things that you do,
And forever is losing a stocking or shoe.....Who,
resisting or not, lets you
do as you will, With bathing and feeding, the
long day to fill....Is that
what you're thinking? Is that what you see?
Then open your eyes, nurse; you're not looking
at me. I'll tell you who I am
as I sit here so still, As I do at your bidding,
as I eat at your will.
I'm a small child of ten ...with a father and
mother, Brothers and sisters,
who love one another.
A young girl of sixteen, with wings on her feet,
Dreaming that soon now a
lover she'll meet. A bride soon
at twenty -- my heart gives a leap,
Remembering the vows that I promised to keep.
At twenty-five now, I have
young of my own, Who need me to guide and a
secure
happy home.
A woman of thirty, my young now grown fast, Bound
to each other with ties
that should last.
At forty, my young sons have grown and are gone,
But my man's beside me to
see I don't mourn.
At fifty once more, babies play round my knee,
Again we know children, my
loved one and me.
Dark days are upon me, my husband is dead; I
look at the future, I shudder
with dread.
For my young are all rearing young of their own,
And I think of the years and
the love that I've known.
I'm now an old woman ...and nature is cruel;
'Tis jest to make old age look
like a fool.
The body, it crumbles, grace and vigor depart,
There is now a stone where I
once had a heart. But inside this old carcass
a young girl still dwells,
And now and again my battered heart swells. I
remember the joys, I remember
the pain, And I'm loving and living life over
again.
I think of the years ....all too few, gone too
fast, And accept the stark
fact that nothing can last.
So open your eyes, nurses, open and see, ..Not
a crabby old woman; look
closer...see ME!!
....Remember this poem when you next meet an old person who you
might
brush aside without looking at the young soul within ...... We will one
day be there, too!
(Thanx Softtouch & Bou)
The Box
The story goes that some time ago a mother punished her 5 year old daughter for wasting a roll of expensive gold wrapping paper. Money was tight and she became even more upset when the child pasted the gold paper so as to decorate a box to put under the Christmas tree. Nevertheless, the little girl brought the gift box to her mother the next morning and said, "This is for you, Momma."
The mother was embarrassed by her earlier over reaction, but her anger flared again when she found the box was empty. She spoke to her in a harsh manner, "Don't you know, young lady, when you give someone a present there's supposed to be something inside the package?" The little girl looked up at her with tears in her eyes and said, "Oh, Momma, it's not empty. I blew kisses into it until it was full."
The mother was crushed. She fell on her knees and put her arms around her little girl, and she begged her to forgive her for her unnecessary anger.
An accident took the life of the child only a
short time later and it is told that the mother kept that gold box by
her
bed for all the years of her life. Whenever she was discouraged or
faced
difficult problems she would open the box and take out an imaginary
kiss
and remember the love of the child who had put it there. In a very real
sense, each of us, as human beings, have been given a Golden box filled
with unconditional love and kisses from our children, family, and
friends.
There is no more precious possession anyone could hold.
(Thanx Raven)
Kyle
A kid from my class was walking home from school. His name was Kyle. It looked like he was carrying all of his books. I thought to myself, "Why would anyone bring home all his books on a Friday? He must really be a nerd." I had quite a weekend planned (parties and a football game with my friends tomorrow afternoon), so I shrugged my shoulders and went on.
As I was walking, I saw a bunch of kids running toward him. They ran at him, knocking all his books out of his arms and tripping him so he landed in the dirt. His glasses went flying, and I saw them land in the grass about ten feet from him. He looked up and I saw this terrible sadness in his eyes.
My heart went out to him. So, I jogged over to him and as he crawled around looking for his glasses, and I saw a tear in his eye. As I handed him his glasses, I said, "Those guys are jerks. They really should get lives." He looked at me and said, "Hey thanks!" There was a big smile on his face.
It was one of those smiles that showed real gratitude.
I helped him pick up his books, and asked him where he lived. As it turned out, he lived near me, so I asked him why I had never seen him before. He said he had gone to private school before now. I would have never hung out with a private school kid before. We talked all the way home, and I carried some of his books. He turned out to be a pretty cool kid. I asked him if he wanted to play a little football with my friends. He said yes. We hung out all weekend and the more I got to know Kyle, the more I liked him, and my friends thought the same of him.
Monday morning came, and there was Kyle with the huge stack of books again. I stopped him and said, "Boy, you are gonna really build some serious muscles with this pile of books everyday!" He just laughed and handed me half the books.
Over the next four years, Kyle and I became best friends. When we were seniors, we began to think about college. Kyle decided on Georgetown, and I was going to Duke. I knew that we would always be friends, that the miles would never be a problem. He was going to be a doctor, and I was going for business on a football scholarship. Kyle was valedictorian of our class. I teased him all the time about being a nerd. He had to prepare a speech for graduation.
I was so glad it wasn't me having to get up there and speak. Graduation day, I saw Kyle. He looked great. He was one of those guys that really found himself during high school. He filled out and actually looked good in glasses. He had more dates than I had and all the girls loved him. Boy, sometimes I was jealous.
Today was one of those days. I could see that he was nervous about his speech. So, I smacked him on the back and said, "Hey, big guy, you'll be great!" He looked at me with one of those looks (the really grateful one) and smiled. "Thanks," he said.
As he started his speech, he cleared his throat, and began. "Graduation is a time to thank those who helped you make it through those tough years. Your parents, your teachers, your siblings, maybe a coach...but mostly your friends. I am here to tell all of you that being a friend to someone is the best gift you can give them. I am going to tell you a story."
I just looked at my friend with disbelief as he told the story of the first day we met. He had planned to kill himself over the weekend. He talked of how he had cleaned out his locker so his Mom wouldn't have to do it later and was carrying his stuff home.
He looked hard at me and gave me a little smile. "Thankfully, I was saved. My friend saved me from doing the unspeakable."
I heard the gasp go through the crowd as this handsome, popular boy told us all about his weakest moment. I saw his Mom and dad looking at me and smiling that same grateful smile. Not until that moment did I realize it's depth.
Never underestimate the power of your actions. With one small gesture you can change a person's life. For better or for worse.
God puts us all in each other's lives to
impact
one another in some way. Look for God in others.
(Thanx Dee)
The List
One day a teacher asked her students to list the names of the other students in the room on two sheets of paper, leaving a space between each name. Then she told them to think of the nicest thing they could say about each of their classmates and write it down.
It took the remainder of the class period to finish their assignment, and as the students left the room, each one handed in the papers.
That Saturday, the teacher wrote down the name of each student on a separate sheet of paper, and listed what everyone else had said about that individual.
On Monday she gave each student his or her list. Before long, the entire class was smiling. "Really?" she heard whispered. "I never knew that I meant anything to anyone!" and, "I didn't know others liked me so much," were most of the comments.
No one ever mentioned those papers in class again.She never knew if they discussed them after class with their parents, but it didn't matter. The exercise had accomplished its purpose. The students were happy with themselves and one another.
That group of students moved on. Several years later, one of the students was killed in Vietnam and his teacher attended the funeral of that special student. She had never seen a serviceman in a military coffin before. He looked so handsome, so mature. The church was packed with his friends. One by one those who loved him took a last walk by the coffin. The teacher was the last one to bless the coffin.
As she stood there, one of the soldiers who acted as pallbearer came up to her.
"Were you Mark's math teacher?" he asked. She nodded: "Yes." Then he said: "Mark talked about you a lot."
After the funeral, most of Mark's former classmates went together to a luncheon. Mark's mother and father were there, obviously waiting to speak with his teacher.
"We want to show you something," his father said, taking a wallet out of his pocket. "They found this on Mark when he was killed. We thought you might recognize it."
Opening the billfold, he carefully removed two worn pieces of notebook paper that had obviously been taped, folded and refolded many times.
The teacher knew without looking that the papers were the ones on which she had listed all the good things each of Mark's classmates had said about him.
"Thank you so much for doing that," Mark's mother said. "As you can see, Mark treasured it."
All of Mark's former classmates started to gather around. Charlie smiled rather sheepishly and said, "I still have my list. It's in the top drawer of my desk at home."
Chuck's wife said, "Chuck asked me to put his in our wedding album."
"I have mine too," Marilyn said. "It's in my diary."
Then Vicki, another classmate, reached into her purse and showed her frazzled list to the group. "I carry this with me at all times, " Vicki said and without batting an eyelash, she continued: "I think we all saved our lists."
That's when the teacher finally sat down and cried. She cried for Mark and for all his friends who would never see him again.
The density of people in society is so thick that we forget that life will end one day. And we don't know when that one day will be.
So please, tell the people you love and care for, that they are special and important.
Tell them, before it is too late...
(Thanx Dee)
Friends A-Z
A friend ...
(A)ccepts you as you are
(B)elieves in ''you''
(C)alls you just to say ''hi''
(D)oesn't give up on you
(E)nvisions the whole of you (even the
unfinished parts)
(F)orgives your mistakes
(G)ives unconditionally
(H)elps you
(I)nvites you over
(J)okes with you to cheer you up
(K)eeps you close at heart
(L)oves you for who you are
(M)akes a difference in your life
(N)ever judges you
(O)ffers support
(P)icks you up
(Q)uiets your fears
(R)aises your spirits
(S)ays nice things about you
(T)ells you the truth when you need to
hear it
(U)nderstands you
(V)alues you
(W)alks beside you
(X)-plains things you don't understand
(Y)ells when you won't listen and
(Z)aps you back to reality
(Thanx Dee)
His name was Fleming, and he was a poor
Scottish
farmer. One day, while trying to make a living for his family, he heard
a cry for help coming from a nearby bog. He dropped his tools and ran
to
the bog. There, mired to his waist in black muck, was a terrified boy,
screaming and struggling to free himself. Farmer Fleming saved the lad
from what could have been a slow and terrifying death. The next day, a
fancy carriage pulled up to the Scotsman's sparse surroundings. An
elegantly
dressed nobleman stepped out and introduced himself as the father of
the
boy Farmer Fleming had saved.
"I want to repay you," said the nobleman. "You
saved my son's life."
"No, can't accept payment for what I did," the
Scottish farmer replied, waving off the offer."
At that moment, the farmer's own son came to
the door of the family hovel. "Is that your son?" the nobleman asked.
"Yes,"
the farmer replied proudly.
"I'll make you a deal. Let me provide him with
the level of education my son will enjoy. If the lad is anything like
his
father, he'll no doubt grow to be a man we both will be proud of."
And that he did.
Farmer Fleming's son attended the very best
schools
and in time, he graduated from St. Mary's Hospital Medical School in
London,
and went on to become known throughout the world as the noted Sir
Alexander
Fleming, the discoverer of Penicillin.
Years afterward, the same nobleman's son who was saved from the bog was stricken with pneumonia. What saved his life this time? Penicillin. The name of the nobleman? Lord Randolph Churchill. His son's name? Sir Winston Churchill.
Someone once said:
What goes around comes around.
SO . . .
Work like you don't need the money.
Love like you've never been hurt.
Dance like nobody's watching.
Sing like nobody's listening.
Live like it's heaven on earth.
MAKE THIS A POSITIVE DAY, UNLESS YOU HAVE OTHER PLANS.
(Thanx Dee)
Read Each One Carefully and Think About It a Second or Two
1. I love you not because of who you are, but
because of who I am when I am with you.
2. No man or woman is worth your tears, and the
one who is, won't make you cry.
3. Just because someone doesn't love you the
way you want them to, doesn't mean they don't love you with all they
have.
4. A true friend is someone who reaches for your
hand and touches your heart.
5. The worst way to miss someone is to be sitting
right beside them knowing you can't have them. (Ouch!)
6. Never frown, even when you are sad, because
you never know who is falling in love with your smile.
7. To the world you may be one person, but to
one person you may be the world.
8. Don't waste your time on a man/woman, who
isn't willing to waste their time on you.
9. Maybe God wants us to meet a few wrong people
before meeting the right one, so that when we finally meet the person,
we will know how to be grateful.
10. Don't cry because it is over, smile because
it happened.
11. There's always going to be people that hurt
you so what you have to do is keep on trusting and just be more careful
about who you trust next time around.
12. Make yourself a better person and know who
you are before you try and know someone else and expect them to know
you.
13. Don't try so hard, the best things come when
you least expect them to.
REMEMBER: WHATEVER HAPPENS, HAPPENS FOR A
REASON.
(Thanx Flower)
INNER SKELETON ...
A 63 year old widow was admitted to the
hospital
in Recife, Brazil, suffering abdominal pains. X-rays showed that
she was carrying a 20 inch long skeleton of a foetus which she
conceived
a decade earlier. It had become lodged outside the womb and was never
expelled
from her body.
FEMALE SOFA ...
A 500lb woman from Illinois was examined
in a hospital. During the examination, an asthma inhaler fell
from
under her armpit, a dime was found under one of her breasts and a
remote control was found lodged between the folds of her vulva.
PRICKLY PAIR ...
OUCH! In Michigan, a man came into the
ER with lacerations to his penis. He complained that his wife had ".. a
rat in her privates .." and it bit him during sex. After an
examination of his wife, it was revealed that she had a
surgical
needle left inside her after a recent hysterectomy.
PING PONG ANYONE? ...
A 20 year old man came into the ER with a stony mass in his rectum. He said that he, and his boyfriend, were fooling around with concrete mix, when his boyfriend had the idea of pouring the mix into his anus using a funnel. The concrete then hardened, causing constipation and pain. Under general anaesthesia, a perfect concrete cast of the man's rectum was removed, along with a ping pong ball.
[Boy we live sheltered lives
...
thank goodness]!!
BLIND DRUNK ...
A drunk staggered into a Pennsylvania ER
complaining
of severe pain while trying to remove his contact lenses. He said that
they would come out halfway, but they always popped back
in.
A nurse tried to help using a suction pump, but without success.
Finally, a doctor examined him and discovered the man did not have his
contact lenses in at all. He had been trying to rip out the
membrane
of his cornea.
OUCH AND DOUBLE OUCH! ...
A couple hobbled into a Washington State
Emergency
Room covered in bloody restaurant towels. The man had his hands
around
his abdomen and the woman had hers around her head. They eventually
explained
to doctors that they had gone out that evening for a romantic dinner.
Overcome
with passion, the woman crept under the table to administer oral sex to
the man. While in the act, she had an epileptic fit, which caused her
to
clamp down on the man's penis and wrench it from side to side. In
agony and desperation, the man grabbed a fork and stabbed her in the
head
until she let go.
And you all thought your day was going bad!!!!
(Thanx Squeezy...I think...)
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