I thought it was imperative for me to put down my experiences in
my own experiment and those around me for the benefit of others who are in a similar
position. Love and romance are matters that have been expressed, discussed and debated
with far varying connotations over the ages.
It would seem extremely rude and barbaric to describe love as a facilitator provided by nature for the promotion of sex and hence propagation of the species. But to put it plainly this is the rational and most practical and plain explanation that could be given to love. As I mentioned earlier it would be cruel to describe and mention that has been held with highest regard throughout the ages in such a mean manner. Poets and authors have found no better subject to inspire their works, wars have been fought for love and against love, men had died and men have been killed for love and cause of love hearts have been broken and hearts have found solace in love. It could be said love is one major contributor to the present state of the world. One cannot imagine what the world would have come to without the emotion.
I was once challenged by one gentleman for my materialistic definition for love. He said why people have loved and lived for one single person when he/she could have found the solution in another of the sex. I believe that is a fair question, but again I would say what he is talking about is less than .000001 percent of the society. The rest of the people in the world would have forgotten their lost hero in less that a month provided he/she was provided a mate that matched her tastes. The story of Romeo and Juliet the greatest lovers of all times, speaks for the fact. Romeo was madly in love with Rosaline and he realized he was getting no where as Rosaline had vowed not to marry. The minute he saw Juliet he fell in love with her, and I believe had he realized Juliet was as hopeless and later on seen another beautiful girl that matched his tastes he would have fallen for her. I believe it was this truth that Shakespeare was trying to bring out to the audience in his story.
I remember one National geographic special program for valentines day. The program was on the research that had been conducted on the emotion called love. I was mighty impressed by the amount of research they had done in the subject and the importance they had given to a rather seemingly trivial subject as an emotion called love. I would like to mention a few facts they mentioned, perhaps a few points all of you out there trying to persuade someone to love you should know. They discovered that fear causes an increase in romantic emotions. They conducted a study on this. They placed a lady volunteer on a tall and narrow bridge that would scare anyone who steps on it. The attractive lady would intercept males enroute crossing the bridge and ask them to fill a questionnaire. She would also show the picture of a lady and ask them to write about the lady in the picture. Towards the end she gave them her phone number to call back if they had any enquiries. The same volunteer was asked to do exactly the same on a broad bridge where one would hardly realize the risk of stepping on a bridge.
The result was that 90% of the people who took part in the study on the scary bridge called her that day for a romantic talk. Their descriptions about the photograph also portrayed a romantic tint. One person said the lady seems to be thinking about her boyfriend who is away. She seems to miss him a lot. The subjects who participated on the safe bridge showed no major emotions. Their descriptions about the picture was also rather barren. One person wrote the girl seems scared about something. As one of the senior researcher commented in the program, it wouldn't be a good idea to propose a girl on the roller coaster or a horror movie, but it would be an idea to take her to an exotic place such as the edge of a cliff and propose her.
Another study the program covered was how long an acquaintance was required to have two people in love. The study involved two volunteers, a girl and a boy in college who were total strangers to each other. They were taken to an isolated room and asked to sit across a small table. A pile of cards was placed in front of them. They were asked to pick the card one by one and follow the instructions on the card. Oblivious to them all this was being recorded on video. The first instruction was to introduce them both and it went from formal things slowly to more and more personal things. Initially both of them were unrelenting and hardly disclosed much but slowly things were taking a u turn. By the end of the program I should say it was a tremendous effort for them to part each other. I wonder if they had already fallen in love, though, that was not the objective of the study.
Another factor that has been oft been researched is the importance of light and ambience on the state of mind. A rather dark environments with light music is the preferred atmosphere in restaurants where you would find filled with couples. So next time make sure you take your girl to a dimly lit room before you open your heart.
You see how easy emotions are created in man, that I should call him an emotional person . Another matter of concern I should bring to attention here is how vulnerable women are to the vulture in men who crave for pleasures from them. There goes a saying "Men give love for sex and women give sex for love". I should say this does have some truth in it. Though it would be unfair to generalize all men and women folk with this, I should say every human is prone to the above said behavior. It is surprising as well as unfortunate that many a times womenfolk sail to see the vulture in the male and most often they prefer real love to these wicked men.
Love is a very strong emotion, battles have been fought for it, palaces and forts built for it, people have killed each other for it, men have died and men have lived for love. And then to summarize that love is just a means to fulfill nature's process of regeneration might be a bit difficult, but then, that is the truth!!!
