Ofcourse we will be upset at times because of the words or actions of another, but we must realize the enactor of therse harmful actions is recieving the most harm, is displaying the anguish s/he still has, trapped inside. All of us has to make mistakes. I have said many defensive words and acted from low self worth many times in my life; how can i blame another for doing the same?

The key is to learn from these mistakes. Only by completely realizing the dynamics of the situation can the knowledge to do so be adaquately obtained. These dynamics are much easier understood from a mind reaching beyond a five-sensory point of view, but growing up in a fractured, control based society, this is not an easy step to take. In such an environment, it will take many mistakes just to see the need for such an evolution.