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1: 12 demands of the child to his parents
2: Education in liberty of religious compulsions and dogmatise
12 demands of a child to his parents / educationists
1. Don't spoil me!
I know exactly that I cannot get everything. I only want to move you to the test.
2. It isn't anxiously, in the contact to me to remain steadfast!
Your good attitude is important for me because then I feel saver.
3. Avoids to scold me in the presence of others, if possible!
I will give your words more meaning if you speak quiet and lower your eyes to me.
4. Aren't, aghast if I say to you: "I hate you"!
I don't hate you but, your power, to foil my plans.
5. Don't always protect me from the results of my actions!
I have to make also embarrassed and painful experiences to ripen inwardly.
6. Don't permanently bleat!
Otherwise I protect myself by the fact that I become deaf on you.
7. Don't make rash promises!
If you don't observe your promises, I feel terribly let in the sting.
8. Aren't inconsistent!
This makes me unsafe and I lose my confidence in you.
9. Don't interrupt me and listen to me if I ask questions!
Otherwise I consult others to get my information there.
10. Puddle not about my fears!
They are frightening real but you can help me if you try to take me seriously.
11. Don't think that it is under your dignity to apologize to me!
Honest excuses wake feeling of affection and understanding inside me.
12. Don't call yourself perfect or infallible!
The shock is great if I find out you aren't.
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To your comfort let be said to you that Sigmund Freud said there are three "impossible tasks" to human beings: healing, ruling and educating. And since I grow up so fast and it is certainly hard for you to hold step with me, I thank you for each day on which you try it.
"As I am young I look for an older man who is ready to learn from me. If I am old I look for a young man I who can teach me ".
(Berthold Brecht)
2: Education in liberty of religious compulsions and dogmatise
Lets teach our children,
...that they are enough for themselves. That the need nothing outside of them to be happy.
... that they are perfect in God's eyes. That they don't have to struggle for God's favor, by being better as they are.
... that they aren't separated with God. That God lives in them as well as in every other nature. That what bandages us is God.
... that they take the fullness inside themselves and must compete about nothing not even about God.
... that they aren't better if they believe in this than others who believe in that
... that they shall not work good only, to come into heaven, and shall not refrain bad only, from fear of the hell. Shortly: That they don't have to bargain with God.
... that there cannot be an eternal far from God, for what separates us from God are our illusion. And we are alone responsible for our illusions.
... that God is unconditional love that requires nothing. Where could boundless love have a limit?
... that in reality there isn't superiority.
... that they don't stop analysing. Also not if persons who think they know more and know no more say: "God doesn't want you to know this" or even condemn this analysing.
But: Let's teach our children not by discussens not by our words but by our deeds and by our lives.