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... u don't do nothin to me & I won't have to do nothin to u...

We live in a time of so much senseless violence, domestic and otherwise. Once when asked my opinion of one individual assaulting another, I had to answer with all honesty (cause that's the type of person I am)... "You don't do nothin' to me, and I won't have to do nothin' to you" ... and I'm sure I'm not the only person who would have responded that way, in fact I expected people to understand that statement, and agree. Instead the room fell silent as those words left my lips, and the first person to finally speak shouted ... "I knew it! I knew there was something about you - you've got a Crazy side to you! I knew it! You're the type of person people gotta watch!!!"...

No. Not true. You don't have to watch a person like me. Just leave me alone. It's that simple. I don't like "drama", or "mess", and I definitely don't like "entertaining" ... (that's what I call all that "loudtalk" and "namecalling") See, we're just not gonna do that ... I'm not gonna go back and forth with a person and threaten or be threatened, I don't believe in it. Let's be clear here, I assure you I can defend myself when need be ... but I'm gonna think about some things first. I'm not impulsive at all. In fact, ...I can wait...

Okay, let me explain... I came up in a time when you were taught to stand up for yourself, ... period. And if you didn't, or you ran from someone, you'd better hope your parents didn't find out about it, 'cause then your Butt was in trouble again. There was no such thing as somebody chasin' you home - but just in case you did get chased home - whoever was in the house when you got there, would lock you out until you won that fight, or at least put your best effort into it.

I wish that life could always be ideal, but it's not. A lot of us have been in "bad places". Unfortunately. I can remember my mama's words though, plain as day, when I found myself once in an unhealthy situation and dysfunctional relationship ... "pick up somethin' and knock em upside th' head, and you'll never have to worry 'bout them botherin' you again" ... and for some people that's how it has to happen.

For some of us, there is nothing like "payback". Making you feel, how you made me feel ... okay, - as they say, "it won't make it right, but it sure will make us even?" ... I guess that's something a lot of us have to work on, I recognize that I myself possess that particular "character flaw", and the only thing to change this will be, God himself. So, I give my issues to him constantly, ...if I didn't I'd be as Crazy as everybody else, and y'all really don't want me any crazier than I already am.

You want to always handle matters in a civilized way, and that is what the "courts" are for, but there will always be people in our society that like conflict, and controversy, and although we don't wan't to condone violence, there will always be someone who'll push your buttons to the point of making you cross a line you really don't want to. Just realize that "their world", is not "your world", and therefore you don't have to step into it. To tell the truth, most folks today don't want to get physical anyway, that's why so many disputes are handled with gunfire or some other weapon instead of how it used to be, a "one on one fight". Me, ... I just try not to put myself in a position where I have to ..."think"... about things, ... because I ... "will".

2008-09-06 04:07:19 GMT
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