...so what'z up with this older woman, younger man thing? "Cougar" my foot... "mzstephens" just wants to know how u ladies expect the charisma, intellect, and financial fortitude of an established and mature gentleman when you're pulling you're dates out of "KIDS 'R Us" or "myspace?" We as women, ought to know better, but unfortunately many of us are not using common sense, these days, and when it all boils down to it, "u get what U pay for".

Maybe we're thinking we can groom these "young pups" in to the fine, articulate and chivalrous, beings we want them to be... - except this isn't gonna happen because ... they are "not grown yet!" they don't want and aren't ready for what U want - so don't get mad and start name callin' when things don't go the way you want. You know... "Mama's Boy" (actually - when a man is close to his mama, that should be considered a good thing)... "Sorry",... "Triflin',... "dog",... etc., etc. Don't ask him why he can't stand up and "act like a man", ... he's not finished growing into one yet! It's "You" who has the issue, "Home-girl" (can someone say "insecure?"), and while I'm not speaking to any one specific individual, some of us could afford to re-evaluate ourselves and our priorities and desires in life. Just because you've reached the conclusion that you're ready for the "real thing" doesn't mean he is! And in actuality, he's not doing anything wrong, he's developing at his own pace, and bumpin' his head in life, just as you did - many years ago. You had your chance to find "you", it's his turn now. Stay out of "ROMPER Room" when looking for a love life. If his companionship is what you desire the most, nine times out of ten - it won't pay your rent or mortgage, and keep your lights and gas on. And guess what? If you have found one who can be financially responsible for himself and you - he may be look'n for "R & R" just like you are, except that it may be more along the lines of expensive toys and gadgets, and not in the form of quality time.

Take your time and let GOD lead the right person your way. In essence there is somebody for everybody, and there is somebody for you! Stop jumping the gun all the time, and if it doesn't work, bow out gracefully like the "lady" you shoulda been in the first place...Boo. Instead'a pickin up the "young bucks" in da' club, ... take your "happy behind home" and read a good book.

Comments and Questions are absolutely welcome, but please understand that "mzstephens" reserves the right to edit and remove any inappropriate and offensive material. I'm 'cool' on that 'bad language' mess, so please - ...keep it clean y'all!