"my sistah" ... I will pray for you. You didn't really know me from Adam, but I suppose my spirit assured you that I could respect everything you confided in me, and "absolutely" keep it to myself. Well, I can't promise you that, because I have this habit of passing information on ... the truth is, by now I should be an expert at holding things in, because - people have always told me "everything", (and I do mean "everything"... ? hence, the evolution of this column...) but, the first thing I did with your "pain" ...was to give it away, to someone I know can help. I couldn't do anything with it, honestly. We've all made mistakes, but the person I explained your situation to, he doesn't care about your past, and he won't throw things back in your face, nor make you feel insecure about your future. In fact, one day you'll realize he knew what you were going through far before you ever decided you had to get it off your chest.

Please don't be mad at me because I told. I had to. And I'm glad I was in your presence at the time that I was, ...they always say that 'things happen for a reason'. Just allow me for a brief moment to describe the person I confided your circumstance to ... he's loving, not at all judgmental, and very willing to help. If you decide you don't want to be bothered with him right now, that's okay too - 'cause he'll be there for you whenever you're ready. He's a "healer" with an unearthly strength, but so gentle, he'll reassemble all the fragments of your life in such a way, you'll look back one day and wonder why you let any of this bother you at all! ... I'd say, he's got your back!

His "instruments of choice" don't always have to be ornate or complicated. He quite often uses simple things, people for instance, even someone like me. So understand that as compassionate and sincere, as I appear to be, as a human, it's not always within my ability to offer loving advice and keep my opinion out of the equation. But, it is the desire to be obedient, and please my friend, the "Great Comforter" of all human spirit, thereby allowing him to annoint my speech, and give you the reassurance, that it will be alright. He's sent many "kindred spirits" my way, and now, I "too" am one. It will be fine, remember - when you "let go", you "let God".

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