it's "mzstephensbizness" to receive and review some of your thought provoking questions and issues, with my OPINIONATED self! Keep in mind y'all that these are just my OPINIONS, and my OPINIONS only, (even though everyone is entitled to one, in this case, since you are visiting my column, mine is the one that matters! ... and I mean that in a nice way ... O.K. Boo? ) don't worry, no one will leave here with 'hurt feelings', cause that's not my style - I'm very sincere in what I say and do (most of the time), and even though I may not have lived through what you're going thru, since I was raised at a time when women and young girls not only knew what they were, but they owned 'slips' and wore them ... (oops, sorry y'all, ... I'm way off the beaten path here...) I'm old enough to have survived a few scrapes, and would love to share some inspiration, and at the same time help you find your way out of th' drama. I'm by no means a psychologist, but absolutely a 'realist'. And even if my standards are not up to par for today, who care's? I'm old enough, not to have to! (If you got a 'Big Mama' in your life, I'm sure she says whatever she wants to, how she wants to, and you bet' not question it) ... I'm a little like that, but I promise not to be so hard on u. Log on and receive some of "mysistah's" outlook to get u thru the week. Please post only first name, age, and hometown when leaving your questions. copyright pending 2007