GeneralLDR

General Long Distance Relationships: (e-mail me your story and I will submit it).Well even though you might not fit under a "category" general LDRs are just as important...stay strong.

Last year on my high school senior trip to Cancun Mexico I met my boyfriend, Manny. I saw him across the room at a club and all we did was stare at each other but neither of us said anything. From the moment I saw him I felt something inside me. His friend and my friend were talking to each other through my friend. I asked my friend for his name but that was it. The next day we were at another club and his friend asked one of my friends if we wanted to dance and when we went he was there and we started dancing. We didn't say a word all night, all we did was dance very closely. At the end of the day he asked what hotel I was staying at and I said I couldn't tell him and kissed and said bye. The next day I saw him at another club and we danced again, didn't speak much but we communicated alright!!! We danced all night and at the end we went to sit with my friends, his friends had left and he said he had to go. So we kissed and he went to go look for them. The next day we went on a cruise to Isla De Mujeres in Cancun and we spend the day together on the Island. On the last day there, we were at another club and I was dancing with someone else and he grabbed my hand and took me to dance and left the guy standing there. At the end of the night he said he had to go and asked me for my number and he gave me his. He took a paper and pen out of his pocket and accidentaly took out a girls number out with it. Right there I thought to myself "he is not going to call me". We exchanged numbers and had a long passionate kiss. I felt like I wasn't going to hear from him again, I thought about him all night. The next morning we left and he was on my plane. When we got to Los Angeles, where I live, he had to get another plane to go to San Diego, where he lives. He came up to me and we had a great big kiss like the ones you see in the movies. He said he was going to call me and said he wished he could stay. When I got home he called and that first weekend he came on the train to see me and stayed for about 4 hrs. then left. It's going to be 11months on 05/29/00 that we have been talking and seeing each other and it's been great. I love him like I never loved another guy before and I feel he is the one for me and will work at this because he is worth it.
-Martha A. Castillo

I am engaged to a guy that lives in Alabama and I live in South Carolina...If that distance (341 miles) wasnt enough...he is in a band that tours all the time...a Christian punk band...and I am planning on moving to California within the next year...it has been amazing though...even though we dont see each other for a while...when we do see each other...it is a blessing...and our love just grows stronger day by day.
-Liz and Matt

I have known my boyfriend for about 2 months. I miss him more than I have ever missed someone before. I love him so much, although I am not "in" love. He lives in Ohio and I live in Indiana. Our churches get together every 2 or 3 months. Right now its about 70 days till I get to see him. We keep in touch by talking online and on the phone every single day. If I'm not talking to him , I'm talking or thinking about him. He feels the same. We are only 15 but want it to work out soo bad. I really hope it does. He's a great guy!
-Amy

I've known my boyfriend Jay for about 4 years yet we never talked much. We had like one class together and that class I remember looking forward to it becaues I would get to see him. I was always nervous when trying to attempt to talk to him because he was always reading a book. He soon left to go to college in Chicago and every now and then I wondered about him. Always thinking such dreamy thoughts and never knowing actually why. Three years later my friend asked me to go up and visit him and his roomate. So we went. I remember that night like it was yesterday. It was a very joyous night and we had a lot of fun and did a lot of talking. I thought he was really interesting. We began hanging out and spending a lot of time with each other for the next 2 weeks. This was in June of 99. He uplifted my spirit and rejuvinated my sould. I soon found out that I had to leave to go to Nevada to finish some unfinished bussiness and now it's March and soon I will be in his arms once again. It's been very hard and painful, yet I feel as if that pain only makes the 2 of us stronger. We did the email and talked and wrote. And now I am coming hom! After ahwile I started to feel as if I was loving someone and something that was clearly imaginary. A lot of people laugh when I tell them my boyfriend is far away. They are really negative about the whole idea, yet I believe when there truly is true love, nothing will stop your sould from that connection.
-e.

It was the summer of 1998 and my best friend was telling me about her cousin who lived in N.J. (we live in N.Y.) who had just broken up with his girlfriend and he saw a picture of me and thought I was cute. Well she called him one day and put me on the phone. We talked for hours and continued to do so for the next couple of weeks. We decided to meet each other so I went to N.J and stayed for a week. I feel so deeply in love with him that week that I did nto want to leave, but of course I had to I was only 14 and my parents weren't hearing that. After that we spoke everyday on the phone and I visited every chance I go (which wasn't a lot). We broke up a few times but we'd always find each other calling one another like a month later. Well it's 2000, I'm 16 and I want to be with him soooooo bad I cry histerically everytime I have to leave him. He only lives an hour and a half away but I dont have a car and my father doesn't like me going out a lot. It hurts so much..I find myself just wanting to just leave and go there...Theres a bus that I get on and I don't know why I just won't do it. I'm just scared of the consequences I'll have to face if my parents fine me...All I'm sayin is if your in a long distance relationship it's definetly going to be hard but just htink how happy the 2 of u will be when u can be together anytime u want and fight the pain..Because as I know it can hurt a lot...
-NiKKieB0o

I went on a trip to Colorado with one of my friends this summer and met the most amazing guy I've ever met in my whole life. We spent every night together just talking and looking at the stars and getting to know everything we could about each other. Not only was he extremely gorgeous, but he had an awesome personality to back it up with. Well, the trip came to a close and I had to-regretfully-tell him goodbye. We exchanged addresses and phone numbers and planned to talk to each other soon. The day after I got home he called just to make sure that I had a safe ride home. Thankfully, we live in the same starte and I plan on seeing him in about 4 months when I go to a concert. We're both going to be seniors in high school, and though this may seem like "puppy love" to some people, I truly believe that our relationship can work out and I have all the faith in the world in it.
-Jezmay711

Most of the time when I hear about all of this long distance relationship stuff...I was always like "How do people do it???" and "Never me"! Well, that all changed about 6 months ago. From the beginning..in June of '99, my best friend and I made a new friend, Mathew from Massachusetts who had been a good friend of one of my cousins for the past 13 years and I had never known of him. Anyways, my best friend stated to talk to him on the computer and they taked everyday and it became this big thing I guess...or so I thought it was going ot be...THANK GOD IT DIDN'T! haha! Anyway, at the time I was talking to one of his really good friends, Kevin. So, one weekend in August after talking to each other for a little over 2 months, Matt, Kevin and their good friend Timmy came to NY from Massachusetts to visit me and Danielle. The weekend went great and everyone had such a good time together, but I realized that I liked Kevin as a friend and nothing more and he did the same. Danielle never told Matt that she had a boyfriend named Jeremy, so he was not only puzzled but I guess dissapointed at the time for thinking that something might come of the trip. But I was glad that happened otherwise I wouldn't have him now..haha..well, we all moved on and Danielle did her own thing...However me and Mathew grew to be very close over time. Overtime, he had found a new girlfriend named Michelle that I gave him advice about a lot and I started going out with a guy named Nicholas. So we were both doing our own thing. I was in a really bad relationship and Matt knew everything that was going on and tried to get me out of it. As time went on and we learned so much about each other, he liked me but I didn't know it. Then I knew it! hehe- and my feelings were the same but not as strong at first. We started out as two people who made fun of each other all the time and called each other names...to 2 people who e-mailed everyday ans shared special things together. It was the most amazing feeling ever falling in love with Mathew more and more everyday...and i still am 6 months later! I was coming out of a bad relationship and I was scared to get into another one b/c of getting hurt, but I know Mathew would never do anything to hurt me. No one has ever loved me more then he does and I know it. When we are together nothing else in this world matters. We see eachother a lot for 2 people who live in 2 different states I think. But we do it even though it is very rough sometimes. After next year when I finish high school, I will be going to school in Boston and afterwards, hope to live there together. So to anyone who says that long distance relationships dont work...they are full of it!!! lol~ It takes a lot from each person and the key is trust...but if you have that it will work. We are a perfect example I think...I love you! : ) ~
-TeReSa

I met Carl over two years ago in Kansas. Oddly enough, he is from Tennesee and I am from California, the only reason we were both in Kansas was to attend college. We met the last semester that I was going to be in Kansas. He was going to continue to attend school there for one more year. I received a basketball scholarship to attend another university and I ended up moving. After one semester I returned back to California due ot medical reasons and he went abck to Tennessee. Due to financial reasons I haven't been able to move to Tennessee as I planned and as each day passes, I miss him more and more. He is my first love, and although we've been through tough times, I love him more and more each day. Not one minute goes by that I don't think about him. As of now, I am hoping to move to Tennessee this coming January to begin a new chapter in this love story.
-Ria

Hey! I was really excited to see that they actually had a site for long distance relationships. Right now I'm miserable and struggling to be happy while I'm away form my one true love. I'm only 17, and most people say you can't trully love someone at that age, I beg to differ. Six months ago I began dating the greatest man alive. In 1999, I switched schools and began attending a county school. It didn't take long and I was in the swing of things, making friends and meeting new people. I saw Rene, my boyfriend now, at a Halloween party one night with his girlfriend. From the start, I thought he was cute and sexy. Well after the party, I kinda forgot about him until I saw him again when we changed semesters at school and he was in my first block. Well I totally fell for him, his cute smile, and beautiful eyes. Well we began talking and haven't quit since. We have been dating for 6 months now and I love him more each day. Well, October the 9th I had to leave him. My stepdad changed jobs and we moved from Georgia to South Carolina. It was the hardest thing I ever had to do. Leave the love of my life. Right now I'm totally miserable without him. He was so much a aprt of my daily routine. We have talked everyday since I have been gone and I will probably get to see him in a couple of months but it is still so hard. I have faith in our relationship and think that if we both are strong it will last. We totally trust one another. I just miss him so much and am having a really hard time dealing. But every time I see his face or hear him call me baby or tell me he loves me I fall in love all over again. I want to marry him someday and spend the rest of my life with him. He is honestly the greatest man alive and I am so lucky to have him. I pray every night God will take care of us both and make us even stronger from this and will keep us together. Thank you so much for hearing me out!! I love you Rene!! You will always be my baby!
-Lindsay & Rene

Around Labor day weekend my family and I went up to go visit my brother over at Liberty University in Lynchburg, Virginia. After 3 awesome days we were getting ready to leave back up to good ole' Ohio and decided we would all go up to Red Lobster for lunch before we left. I was sitting at the end of the table devouring my French fries when I looked up and saw this guy peering through a space in his booth, which was only about 10ft across from me.
I didn't think anything of it and returned back to my French fries when I looked up again and noticed he was talking to his friend and then looked back through the space again at me and smiled...this time I smiled back and couldn't help but look back up every now and then. All of the sudden he got up and walked over to our table. My heart was beating really fast and I was trying to think of something i would say, but of course my mind went completely blank. And before I knew it he was already there only..he wasn't coming to talk to me..instead he turned out to be one of my brothers friends who came over to introduce himself to my family. It seemed to have only lasted 2 minutes at the most before he had gone back to his booth. Well a month had gone by when I received an e-mail from a guy named Raj. He said he knew my brother who told him to write me an e-mail. So of course I e-mailed him back thinking.."oh I probably won't hear from him in 2 months or so", well...the very next day I heard the three little words that would change my life.."You've got mail!". It was him..I couldn't believe it! We started writing each other everyday becoming more and more comfortable with each other and not to mention becoming closer. I soon discovered that Raj was the guy at Red Lobster who came over to our table..and said that Steve(my brother) and shown him a picture and thought I was really pretty and wanted to write me but wasn't sure what to say. From there on we just hit it off...we talked about everything because we just felt like we could tell each other everything and anything. Months had gone by and our friendship was becoming so much more....I realized this when he was on my mind 24/7, being so excited to hear from him, and just the thought of his name made me smile. We started sending each other little cards and long e-mails that seemed to go on forever and ever..about how we were and what was going on in our lives..etc. I just felt so comfortable with him cause he was so easy to talk to and it seemed like I had known him all my life. it's an indescribable feeling, that I have never felt before in my life! I mean I have had my crushes and "flings" but no feeling had ever been so strong as the one I had for him. He boosted up my self-esteem and made everyday the best even if it was the worst. He moved the clouds away from the sun and made my life complete. We always talked about what would become of us..since he was in Virginia and I was Ohio and always said that we would always be the best of friends and would grow old complaining about our dentures..hehe. But both of us wanted it to be sooo much more. :) We finally got to talk on the phone a few times which seemed like eternity even though each only lasted about 15 minutes. I knew this was something and someone I couldn't loose. Our e-mails started becoming less and less though our hearts where still as close as they had always been. So I e-mailed him and called him as much as I could even though both our schedules were so hectic.. I wanted to keep it alive because I just couldn't picture my life without him. Well 6 1/2 months have gone by and we're still as strong as we had been when we first started writing each other. I'm just so thankful to God for placing him in my life and for giving him the courage to write me, cause if he hadn't..I would have missed out on something so incredible!! =)
- Jenny

I wanted to share our story with anyone who cares to read it , i hope that it brings hope to those who are going through the same thing .
My name is Sarya , im from New Orleans and im the mother of 4 teens , one who is disabled with autism .
3 years ago , i met Joe , he responded to my poetry page and said he liked my poetry .
i had just broken up with a man from London who shattered my heart with lies,,i had said no more LD relationships for me ...no way !! ( This jerk married someone else and didn't bother to tell me till SHE called and wanted to know why her HUSBAND of 2 weeks was making 1,500 pounds worth of phone calls to my number )
About 4 months later i heard from Joe, he even installed icq to meet me ( although i didn't know that then )
We kept missing each other and left messages , very platonic ones back and forth for some time ...then one day we both were online at the same time .We both were happy to be online at the same time . We talked and got to asking the usual questions all was going well till i asked him where he was from ..he said around London ...at that moment i thought it was my ex playing a cruel joke pretending to be someone else just to talk to me ..i just hit the sign off button without a good bye and cried .
The next day i was checking my messages and there was one from Joe , asking where i went to , if i got booted or if he said something wrong ?
   I confronted him and he said , truly im NOT him Sarya , please believe me ..i can prove it you know, let me call you .... at first i said no , its not safe to give out your number but yet my heart tugged and i gave in and he called ........ his voice was so sweet and gentle and i felt like i knew him as we talked more and more .
About 6 weeks into it , i knew we both were starting to fall for each other ...my off-line friends and my family said i was nuts ,that online romances were just games .
I had seen his picture and i found him so handsome , although i am a more wild type , his gentle settled nature calmed and gave me comfort ....i had lost much that year , my son at 17 had been killed in a car crash the Jan. of that year ...my dad died of cancer that may . Joe had lost his beloved father who was his best friend the year before.
I had so many hurts and old memories of loves that fell apart ... Yet when he told me 3 months after we met that he got plane tickets to flew from the UK to here in new orleans i was so excited .... we made such plans .
I decided with his helping me to find us a new apartment , so that when he came we could have a romantic place in the French quarter for our first Yule time together . I put down money on a place that needed work it was all i had and Joe had put a lot of his money into the move too ....it was to be ready Jan 1st 2000 .
   In the mean time he would call my mom and she adored his accent she was 78 and set in her beliefs at first that Internet love affairs were always bad ..soon she started telling me she felt he was the one ...see i have 4 children now , one who is severely handicapped with autism so , usually when guys hear of that they flee , its a hard thing to accept . But Joe's love was unconditional and real .
My mom was so excited that he was coming here to the states , he told her he would go meet her the day after he got here , which was to be Jan 7th ....she was so happy , she told me he was the one to not let him go ,,the more she knew him the more she loved him and she couldn't wait to meet him in person .... me too i was so afraid ..what if he didn't like me , what if i didn't look pretty enough for him ..all the while he worried the same thing .
My life again shattered on Dec 28th ......they found my mom dead in her chair of a sudden heart attack ..again i lost someone who loved me .....i was so so alone ..i called the UK crying , so lost ,,Joe cried with me and he tried to get his tickets changed but he couldn't ....so i buried my mom alone on Jan. 4th , i knew he was with me in my heart and he assured me Jan 7th was coming and he would be with me .
    The day came , i went to the airport as people got off the plane i scanned each face ..... there was no Joe ....suddenly i thought ..oh no maybe it was all for nothing maybe he just didn't come ..i watched the stewardess get off and didn't see any more folks getting off , i started to turn away and then i glanced one more time,,,there he was ,,he had let the others with big bags and small children go before him ....( i think he was scared too )
We hugged each other and walked out to the car and kissed till the windows steamed up . !!
We were so happy yet sorta shy too ....i will never forget his jet lag and the fact he couldn't sleep poor baby .
Then all hell broke loose , due to my moms death i couldn't get moved into the place that we paid for yet ...we went to check on the place ..the landlord said it wasn't ready which was horrible for we HAD to move out of my old apartment , someone new was waiting ....
so on his second day here with no sleep and for the next four days we moved to a place we paid to get , we paid double the landlord who didn't have our place ready hauled ass with out money as well ......2,000$ gone .
On the 6 the morning i awoke and he was dressed up in a suit and tie , looking so handsome! I asked where are you going ? He said we are going to see mom , i promised your mother you know...at first i was a bit stunned and asked him,,umm but my mom is dead .
He looked at me and said Sarya , a promise is a promise and i have some things to tell her , we drove the hour away to where just the week before i had laid her to rest , he had bought her a dozen pink roses ( her fav) As he knelt by her grave he said " mama im here, just as i said and mom your lil girl is beautiful ...just as i promised you mama i will love her forever and never let her down ...
I was beyond touched my daughter and i just cried as he talked more telling her of the future he had planned for me and the kids,,how my days of struggle and being alone were over now .
I knew when i looked at him he was my forever from that moment on .
So much has happened since that day .....
We have endured so much being an ocean apart although he has come about once every 3 months to be with me .
The times apart are agony and his calls each day i live for .
Last spring im ashamed to say i hurt him and broke off our relationship ...the distance had got so hard on me and i admit i was stupid to fall for anthers temptations , but soon i knew it was again someone playing me and i cursed the fact i had lost the only real love i have ever know !!!
We spoke still at times, he would ask about the kids , how he missed them , how he still wanted to be in touch with them and to in time be my friend .....After the guy broke my heart it was Joe who asked if i wanted him to speak to the new guy ....i said no its over and i deserve all i got , i was a fool and then said bye and signed off..
The phone rang ....it was him he said Sarya , lets try again please , let move through it together ..... i couldn't believe it i had been so stupid yet he still loved me ?
I said yes and we started rebuilding our lives again ....after 2 months apart .
Then last august again fate struck in a cruel way , life's lessons are so painful for us all at times ... i awoke with a bad headache that day ..it was worse then i had ever known ....as i was talking to my son in the kitchen , i fell and my son realized i had suffered a stroke ... a stroke at 39 .........................My life again changed , when i awoke my entire left side was useless ,paralyzed totally .
I told Joe that it was best he move on that i truly couldn't burden him with my disability , i wasn't sure what i would end up as ,,he is 7 years younger then me and truly i didn't wish to hold him down .... i had lost my health , my job in management all in one day .
Since then he has been my rock , my knight in shinning amour and he has helped me learn to walk and talk again .
he understands what the stroke has done , yet our love is so very strong ....... On Dec 30th on a rare cold new orleans night when the joke was ( cuz it was so cold and the saints won ) that hell itself froze over he got down on one knee and asked me to be his wife and slipped a ring so beautiful on my hand ... we will marry next valentines day !!!!
Right now we face a battle with immigrations it seems , its a lot more involved then we thought but we are in love and determined to be together forever with no more ocean parting us anymore !!

*check out Sayra's and Joe's websites under "links"

While in a less-than-healthy relationship last year, I needed someone
to talk with about my fears and insecurities of starting college and having all
my friends move away. I felt so alone, and my boyfriend at the time wasn't
strong enough to help me. So, as a last resort, I decided to go online
and try to get my thoughts out to someone, anyone, who cared. Unexpectedly,
I met Michael in a rock chatroom one hot August day. I figured whatever he
wanted to talk about was trivial and sex-related, but I decided to talk for
fun. I don't know what made me want to talk to him, but it was the best
decision I've ever made. Though neither one of us is really into chatting
online, we talked about everything over the next few months. He told me that he'd
never been in love, and I told him all about my problems, especially
struggling in college, missing my friends, my impending back surgery, and drinking to
cope. Well, one month later, I found myself falling for him even though I
never saw his face; he has such a beautiful heart. And fate was on my side when I
found that I had become his first true love. Unfortunately, he lives in NC
and I live in MA. But as of today, he's visited me three times (and he's the most
beautiful man I've ever seen! What are the odds?), never left my side
when I was in the hospital, and made me the happiest person alive. Lucky for
both of us, he will be moving up here this winter, and I'll never have to miss
him so terribly ever again. We're finally going to be together for good! He
turned my life around as I taught him about love. Our song is "Stellar" by
Incubus, because that's exactly what he is.

Jennifer

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