My email to Lisa’s Professor telling him of her death

 

 

July 5, 2001

 

 

Professor Claude Caswell

University of New Hampshire

 

Dear Claude,

 

I am typing this note to you on Lisa Frye’s computer, where she sat so many times before, torturously struggling with each and every word that she used in the writings, stories, and poetry that she created for you and the class(es) you taught.   I am very saddened to tell you that my sister Lisa passed away from non-small cell lung cancer on Friday afternoon, June 29, 2001 at 4:20 pm.  Myself, our sister Pammy from Norfolk, VA, and her beloved husband Rusty were with her when she passed on. 

 

The night before she died, and the night we took her to the hospital for the last time, (never imagining that it would be her last night) I spent the night at her computer, reading for the first time, the stories that she had written for your class.  With every story I read, I wanted more ... what a talented, colorful, and brutally honest writer she was.  I hadn’t read any of her stories since high school, when she wrote a story about our lifelong friend, our dog, Suzie.  Her words brought tears to my eyes.   I knew from reading her stories what a great influence you have been in her life, these past years.  I know she would want you to know that she died, and that is the only reason she won’t be in your class anymore.

 

Lisa became very ill since March 2001, but she never gave up hope, and the family and friends who cared for her and loved her thought always hoped she would live.  She was appalled to become totally dependent upon us, but she was grateful, and our family and friends from childhood came together with the common goal of making Lisa well.  She endured 23 radiation treatments at Maine Medical Center, many many tests, drugs, etc. and chemotherapy.   Throughout it all, she was very brave, and I am grateful, as well, to have been able to spend this time with her.

 

I know that you meant a great deal to my sister.  I have been reading her papers, etc. and I know that she touched you too.  I am not as eloquent as Lisa.  She had many irreplaceable gifts that we all loved and appreciated -- brutal honesty; tenderness; love for her children; hilarious laughter; sick sense of humor; always looking out for and sticking up for the underdog; adventurous spirit; the ability to bring people together and to mend fences; many more that I can’t list - please don’t grade me on this letter. 

 

I know that she planned on going back to work, going back to classes and you as a teacher, and planned on seeing her children to adulthood.   Right now she is probably so pissed off that she died of this horrible disease.  I can only hope that she knew how much she was loved, and how much she is missed.

 

I have your journal and papers.  I can mail them, or I can bring them to you?  I would like to meet you if that is ok with you, and maybe we can share Lisa.  Thanks for being such an important part of her colorful existence.

 

Lynn Boston (Lisa’s twin)

 

 

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