" Fortunately, human beings, do show that they care with certain predictable behaviors."
Does she like me? Is she interested in me? Am I wasting my time? That's the question most of us ask ourselves; whether the person we're attracted to is also attracted to us. It is quite difficult to ask the person directly, especially someone whom you just got to know.
Imagine you just met a girl for 2 weeks, then one day you ask her, "I like you. Do you like me too?" If you are lucky and the girl also share the same feelings, Bingo! Congratulations! You lucky bastard! But, how often does this kind of things happen? Maybe the girl is starting to like you but after that question, she might just change her impression of you.
Fortunately, human beings, do show that they care with certain predictable behaviors. So, next time you are with that special someone, look out for these clues.
Attraction reactions
1) Does she look at you more than she looks at other people and things?
Does she return your gaze and maybe add a smile when you look her way? Nine out of ten times, the person someone looks at most in a group is the one she'd like to impress. So if she keeps her head buried in the potato chips when you ask her opinion of your new haircut, the odds are against you.
2) Does he seem to be nervous when looking at you? ( For girls! )
Does he startle when you look his way, and quickly shift his attention to something else? This is the one-out-of-ten guy who doesn't reciprocate your glances or indulge in more frequent looks at you when he feels attracted. Usually shy, or afraid to seem too eager, this guy acts as if you're dangerous stuff because inside he's quaking with his interest in you.
3) Does she continue your conversation, even small talk?
When someone is interested in you, she would most likely feel like conversing with you. If she answers your questions, makes comments and, even better, asks you something about yourself, you're off to a great start. However, if all you get is one word answers and no desire to continue talking with you, she might just be hinting to you to get lost!
4) Does she adjust to you nonverbally during conversation?
The more you like someone, the more you unconsciously adapt your body position and way of moving and talking to his. One researcher observed this pattern repeatedly among people attracted to each other in singles bars. When Mary sipped her drink, John did likewise. When John tapped to an easy listening tune, Mary's foot began to move with the rhythm of the music too. Believe it or not!
Common attractions adaptions include:
Lowering or raising voice volume to match yours
Speeding up or slowing down to correspond to your pace of speaking
Shifting posture to parallel yours
Sitting down if you're sitting down
Standing up if you're standing up
Making similar gestures or movements
Laughing in unison
Breathing in unison
Final word
Please remember that these are just guidelines. I read them from a book called, "How to communicate with the opposite sex." Wait, I know what you are thinking already. I'm not desperate lah. I just happened to browse through it. Anyway, some of the above points are quite true, at least they happened to me. For example, I was very nervous whenever I see Star. In fact, the feeling was still there even when I saw her 6 months ago. Do also note that if your special someone shows the above signs, it means that she enjoys your company. Maybe she likes you just as you like her or maybe she just treats you as a friend. So, don't be too quick to jump to conclusions!
