My AOL handle used to be LthrBearMI... Now I am LthrBearIL.

No, I am not a biker.... I am a gay man.

I came out in June of 1993.  I had an idea that I was gay before then, but I really wasn't 100% sure.  So, I did what any curious man would do... I went out and had sex with two men.  For a while, I swore that I was bisexual..... ok, you can stop laughing.  After about a year, and a few other men, I decided that I was 100% gay.

I knew that I was attracted to hairy, bearded men.  However, I didn't know that there was a sub-culture in the gay community completely devoted to that.  I discovered the BEARS in 1994, when I started to date my first lover, John.  We went to The Bike Stop in Philly and ran into the local bear club, Delaware Valley Bears (DVB).  Since then, I was vice-president of the DVB for about 2 years, a member of the District of Columbia Bears Club (DCBC), Motor City Bears and the Great Lakes Bears of Chicago.  I have met a lot of great friends in the bears clubs and also have had my share of ex-boyfriends in them as well.

My first ex got me into leather.  I liked the look and the feel.  He broke me in slowly with a vest.  Before too long, I had chaps, pants, caps, boots, armbands, jocks, jacket and gloves.  I am not involved in any club.  I really haven't had the time.  I have a few friends in several clubs who have tried to get me involved, but I haven't stuck around in one place too long to do it.

If you'd like to know more personal details about me, email me.  I don't like to give everything away.  Besides, I don't need my family finding out about my extracurricular activities.  They know I am gay, but they don't need to know the dirty details.

When it comes to dating, I am a romatic at heart.  I love to cook dinner for that special someone, and enjoy desert in bed.  I prefer to be in a monogamous relationship.  I tried an open relationship once.... it didn't work out.  I can be moody at times, but, with love and attention, it tends to go away fast.  I believe in equality in a realtionship.  The only roles that are played in the relationship are the ones in the bedroom.  I tend to be attracted to men that are honest and caring..... lots of facial and body hair helps as well.  However, relationships built on superficialities don't work.... the wrapping may get your attention at first, but you gotta live with what is on the inside.

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