An idealist may argue that the woman you love IS the woman you are most compatible with but the realist know, more often than not, they are not the same person. Any further arguments about this would bring us into the realm of 'what is love' and that my friends is something this simple mind - and I'm sure many great minds - have delved into but has not emerged with any univerally agreeable insights. So, let us for the sake of argument - and simplicity - assume that it IS possible that the woman you love may not be the woman you are most compatible with.

Love being what it is, unfathomable & indescribable - able to bring great joy and contentment but unfortunately also great sorrow and despair, should be the cornerstone of every relationship in the mind of an idealist. For what can be more important than love? Though it can cause negative emotions, but wouldn't that just make the positive emotions all that much more vivid? For without experiencing sorrow, how can we truly experience joy? "Love can conquer all!" An idealist would declare with great conviction. All disagreements can be resolved with enough love. Sentiments that I would want to agree with because I believe it should be true. It is a beautiful thought and it should be true in this grimy and often ugly world that we live in. Unfortunately, often the process by which the disagreement is resolved is not often amicable but very often acrimonious.

We may assume, in a relationship with a woman you are not compatible with, you will experience a significant amount of friction. Assuming that love may grant some forbearance, and both partners - or if unfortunate, only one partner - is willing to relent, we may have some leeway but eventually I believe argument enough bad feeling will be generated to cross the line which should never be cross. The thin line which separates love and hate. Very few things in this world is sadder than hating someone you once loved nor as disheartening. Love will allow you to work through the differences. True, but eventually, the work will become the main focus of the relationship. What then may I ask has the relationship become?

In a relationship with the woman you are compatible with but not love, there may not be a lot of passion but there will - perhaps eventually - be a level of fondness and coupled with a low amount of differences may contribute to happy relationship and dare I even suggest, possible contentment? A delusional hope perhaps. For human by nature has a sense of greed which might drive them to quest for the ideal which may not be attainable. So, would a man settle for someone they does not love? Would he have the ideal that the woman he love would be the perfect woman? Would he belief that the woman he love will be better/more compatible than the compatible woman he is with now? This doubt may fester in his heart as doubts do and perhaps eventually cause unhappiness.

So, the question remains, which situation would a simple man prefer?

By Lost Musing