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Life before life

We all dread the inevitable question from our kids:  what happens to people after they die?  We can simply say we don’t know or we can offer some explanation from our faith.  Either way, it’s a dreaded question.


But my recent experience was unexpected:  where was she before she was born?  Allison sees pictures from our wedding and always asks if she was there.  “No, Allison, you weren’t born yet.”  Then last night, she got really upset about it and was determined to find out where she was if she wasn’t at our wedding.  First, I gently tried to explain that our wedding was five years ago and she was born only three years ago.  No dice.  Then, John and I looked at each other and offered two possible scenarios:  either you were living another life, or you were in heaven (or wherever) waiting to be born.  She sort of jumped on that last scenario and created for herself a way station—at Grandma and Grandpa’s old house.  There were lots of people there just waiting for their families.  She went on and on about how she waited for us there and everyone else left until she was the only one left.

It reminds me of how she often says funny little things about how when I was a little girl she was my mother.  She also takes information from what’s going on around her and personalizes it.  For example, when John had surgery on his shoulder, she would say, “When I had surgery…”  And when Johnny broke his arm she talked about the time when she broke her hand…  Well, that never happened, either.  It makes me think of some of my old Psychology classes when we learned about some legal cases where they took a child’s testimony at face value.  Or when they would give a kid a doll and say “show me where he touched you.”  Allison tells stories all the time, and I guess if you didn’t know her, you might think she was telling stories from real life.  I hate to think that someday someone will hear one of her fabrications and think it was true. 


Well, the moral is, don’t believe everything a three year old tells you.  And if you know where my kid was before she was born, please call me.

2009-05-09 13:21:10 GMT
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