� Because of your thoughtful nature, you need others to express sincere interest in you or the relationship. This offers the secure feeling that you seek.
� You may be a matter-of-fact person who may be critical of the shortcomings of others who display a more emotional or outgoing side.
� Others may see you as disciplined and self-controlled. You have seen the problems of being overly optimistic when planning to depend on others following through.
� Others showing genuine sincerity and acceptance impress you. You do not like a shallow expression of feelings or thoughtlessness of others. You will get along with most people you meet because you don't cause hostility.
� During times of stress or tension, you may withdraw inside yourself and appear as somewhat cool and aloof. You need to be alone when thinking through projects, problems or solutions.
� You usually assume a cautious and reserved demeanor when meeting new people. Your relationships must grow naturally and in sincere ways. You will not confide in others readily because of your need for security.
� You are usually astute in social situations because you take little at face value, will listen carefully and accurately, and will watch others carefully.
� You attempt to influence others not by showing great emotion, but by appealing to the logical nature of people. Those who are more emotional and excitable may sometimes ignore your approach.
� Some people may inaccurately perceive you as not liking people. You may be misread by others, because you approach social situations with logic and objectivity, judging others by their competence--you may sometimes be misread by others.
� You tend to listen rather than talk. You may place a premium on display of emotions. As a result, "reading" you at times may be difficult.
� Because of your need to be quiet rather than rambling, you are somewhat introspective about events and activities. You may not communicate readily and rapidly with others, but this does not mean you don't support others.
� You may want to base relationships on a nonemotional respect for each other's abilities, and base your level of trust on directness and straightforwardness.
� You may be somewhat reticent and retiring when with others, especially in a large group. As others grow louder, you may become quieter. You value control of emotions, and are more reflective than rowdy.
I need a partner that does this.
� Support results, not the person, if you agree.
� Ask specific questions--preferably "WHAT" questions.
� Stick to the topic.
� Show patience, especially when drawing out information.
� Respect quiet demeanor.
� Prepare for demanding questions, and perhaps objections.
� Provide time to analyze the data before making a decision.
� Present ideas logically--be efficient.
� Be brief, clear and to the point.
� Have facts and ideas in a logical order.
Things I bring to a relationship
� You are good at "troubleshooting" potential problems in a relationship.
� You tend to be tenacious about solving problems, not liking to give up until something is resolved.
� You don't tend to get distracted by superficial issues.
� You generally don't like to back away from a challenge.
� Like games of competition and skill.
� You like to initiate new activities.
� You place a high value on being direct and honest when expressing thoughts and feelings.
� You like to analyze problems and discuss their possible solutions before taking action.
Things I may want
� Time away occasionally--you value your privacy.
� A supportive environment where you do not have to display great emotion.
� Opportunity to talk about your ideas and prove your skills.
� Opportunity for personal involvement.
� New challenges and problems to solve.
� Freedom to act independently from time to time.
� Rewards for your ideas, and results for your actions.
� Objectivity and logic in relationships and activities.
� Straight talk and straight dealing.
� Respect among peers and friends for your quiet manner.