If you're experiencing a loss, support is probably one of, if not *the*  most important things you'll need.  You will go through many emotions.  Sometimes these emotions will go from one extreme to the other in a matter of minutes.  Don't try to hurry your grieving time along.  That's the mistake I continue to make.  I feel like a real weenie sometimes because I'm still in such deep pain.  I look around and everything is still going on.  It's terrifying in a sense to see things moving on as before. It makes you want to yell, "Hey!  Don't you understand somebody just died here?"   But as bad as it hurts, the world still does keep moving forward.  I sometimes find myself not wanting to or being able to move forward, as if moving forward erases the present.  But, of course, it doesn't.  

I spend a lot of my time reading the support groups listed below.  I don't want to say misery loves company.  But it does help to hear from others who might be going through what you're going through.  And I, personally, have found that those people help me more than family and friends can.  Family and friends mean well, but somebody ultimately will say something that will cut right through your heart even though they only mean to help you.  And at some point you'll feel like you're the only one grieving and missing your loved one. But keep in mind that when somebody has never experienced what you're experiencing, they don't know what helps you and what hurts you, and they're only trying to help you.  

If you feel that your grief is more than you can bear, please seek support.  If your hospital didn't put you in touch with a support group in your area, your doctor can point you in the right direction.  The following support groups are a few that I have found very helpful.  I had some computer problems and lost everything in my favorites file, but I will find them and put the links here as I get each of them back again. I wish you well in your healing.
Hannah's Prayer
ONE DAY AT A TIME

I'm only human.  I'm just a woman
Lord help me believe in all I can be
and in all that I am
Show me the stairway I have have to climb
Lord, for my sake will you teach me to take
One day at a time

One day at a time, sweet Jesus
That's all I'm asking from you
Just give me the strength to do everyday
What I have to do
Yesterdays gone, sweet Jesus
And tomorrow may never be mine
Lord, help me today
Show me the way
To one day at a time

Do you rememer when you walked among men
Well Jesus, you know, if you're looking below
It's worse now than then
They're pushing and shoving, crowding my mind
Lord, for my sake will you teach me to take
One day at a time

One day at a time, sweet Jesus
That is all I'm asking from you
Will you give me the strength to do everyday
what I have to do
Yesterday's gone, sweet Jesus
And tomorrow may never be mine
Lord help me today show me the way to one day at a time
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