Entry 658

7-21-01

            Okay last night I insulted Barry very badly and I feel horrible.  I didn’t mean too, but he wanted me to continue a thought so I did, and as it turns out it pissed him off and made me feel like shit and personally I still do.  While I was writing up on the roof last night he came up there, we didn’t talk at first, but then I started to joke around with him.  So we talked for like an hour, while I took a break from writing.  Eventually we got on the ever so popular topic of religion at least that’s how it seems to be on this trip.  Barry started to say he felt he was called to be in the ministry, so I simply rolled my eyes and told him that term seemed quite unprolific as in like just somewhat an excuse…or something of that sort.  By telling him that I pissed him off beyond belief, so badly that today we have not said a word to each other except when I said, “You know we need to talk right?”, and his response, “Yeh,” then he walked off.  I am a very sensitive and worrisome person and that kills me in times like these.  This morning when we went to the Vatacan and St. Peter’s cathedral, not a glance each other’s way was received.  When we went to see the Colusseum, nothing, he wasn’t even with us when we went to the catacombs, ‘cause him and Julie went to mass, and I haven’t seen him since, I don’t plan to go to dinner, but he knows where I’ll be waiting for him to come and talk; on the roof.  My quiet spot, where I want to go right now, but can’t because the door to get to the stairs to get up there is locked, hopefully by then it won’t be!  I know he can’t let our new founded friendship go to waste after all the things I’ve told him, and vice versa.  I mean last night he revealed to me his entire story about his first love, as did I and all the crap that went on afterwards including the physical aspects.  I like him so much (friend-wise; figured it out last night) and now after we’ve gotten to know each other on a more personal level, he hates me.  He was the first person out of this entire group to start talking to me, he was the first person here that actually made me feel like I belong, sat with me on the bus, the first one here who I shared an in-depth getting to know each other conversation and it kills me that if I had just watched my actions once again I would not have dug a hole so freaking deep.  At this moment I would give anything in the world to go home.  I seriously am ready.  No this wasn’t a mistake and I have seriously enjoyed majority of my time here.  Some people such as Belle, Ashley, and a couple others have even expressed how much they respect me for coming here without knowing any of the people except from way back in the day.  Truth is, I’m tired of this pressure, I’m tired of not being able to be a smartass, but very contemplative, and serious self at times.  If I come off as withdrawn, when I really just want time to think, and be alone, I come off as having problems and not being nice.  I miss Kasey, I wish I could just joke around with him for like five minutes.  I with I could talk to Amy and just cry my eyes out to her, and then have her crack me up, I wish I could hear Stephanie make fun of all of them to help me feel better.  Finally I am in a place where I can escape all the noise, all the people around me; I am up on the roof where there is absolutely no one to disturb my most personal thoughts.  I just need and want someone to talk to, a best friend with a shoulder to cry on would be absolutely terrific at the moment.  I plan to write for a long time tonight still because I just am in that mood where my stream of consciousness is in the act.  I play to stay up here for awhile just to think.  One thing I have noticed about our group of girls is somehow we segregated ourselves into two separate groups.  Julie, Belle, Ashley, and I are one, and then Heather, Lora, Clarissa, and Leslie are the other.  I am not sure why it happened, but it did, and now all I want to do is jump off this stupid building, fly as far away from here as capable and land on my bed in my room, in my house with Tizzy laying next to me.  Now because of this whole experience I am so thankful I never went to LaGrange and ended up at Callaway instead because I could never have dealt with the second half of those girls five days out of the week with me feeling like they look down on me as if I am totally inferior.  Tonight I decided not to go to dinner, I wanted to be alone that badly.  It’s obvious Barry doesn’t want to be around me at all, because when him and Mr. Cone were in the lobby talking I went over there and told Mr. Cone I didn’t want to go to dinner and a few seconds after Barry got up to leave I didn’t take the elevator though, just to satisfy him since he was.  I took the stairs.  God I can’t stand him hating me like this, I’m so sorry.  He was the one that provoked me into saying it because I told him I did not even want to get into it because it would just spark up another argument.  But he persisted so I did and now he hates me, all because I, the idiot had to open my damn mouth.  I am so stupid.  I wish I could talk to Kasey he always is a good person to talk to about anything because even when he gets offended he doesn’t totally get pissed off and blow up, he still tries to relate to the other person in a rational, and calm matter.  Do I love Kasey?  I don’t know, I would like to think I do, but I am still not sure, and if you love someone you know it.  Helen would totally put things in perspective for me at the moment.  I guess it’s kind of crazy to think I could go on like this trip for three weeks without becoming depressed or lonely.  My world of reality is such a horrid picture at the moment that once I step off this roof and set the pen down I Will have to return, so I feel the need to write and never stop, because I don’t want to ever return to that reality; I’m just not ready just yet.  At least I have something to brag about what I did this summer.  I’m having more trouble coping with the fact that I’ll be a Senior, there’s no one left to look up to, no to try and impress in the hallways because they’re older.  It’s not so much the being on my own part I’m worried about anymore because I basically started doing that when I was in eighty grade at the age of fourteen where I was supposed to be carefree and happy going, but was far from anywhere near that.  The fact is, I am who I am; every experience I go through just makes me more knowledgeable, and stronger.  I am not an innocent who hasn’t faced the horrors of the world, unfortunately I had to at an age way before my time.  But I am not the only one in the world who has problems.  I am not the only one who is having a struggle through my spiritual wake, this whole trip I feel like I have been forced to defend myself beyond belief, with no one on my side, so obviously there’s no hope in argument with these people when it’s basically just me against all of them.  Why the hell do I have to defend who I am and what I believe so damn much, can’t they just accept that that is the way I am.  I don’t want to have to conform what I believe just to fit into a certain religion.  In my eyes God would not want me to give up certain things I believe so strongly just to become a bible bearing Baptist, or other things of that sort.  I’m sick of all of this and I feel I can’t handle it, I want to scream at the top of my lungs.  I am the outsider of this group, I thought I could be accepted, but that was just an illusion created by my subconscious to make me think that.  They’re all being nice to me just because they feel they have too.  They don’t really like me, hell Barry hates me now and they never will.  Yeh there might be an exchange of telephone numbers with a few, but it won’t develop any farther than a couple of phone calls.  How can something feel like the best experience of your life, but at the same time the worst; because that is what I feel this whole trip has been.  I can’t figure out how to call my house which is more frustrating than ever.  As much as I am angry at my Mom and Dad they are still my parents and they are the only ones I have and uch more they are my only link to home.  I am so exhausted but I can’t stop writing because I have all of these overwhelming emotions I’ve kept to myself this whole trip and I will explode if I don’t open the gate and release them.  The sunset is beautiful right now, I wish I could sit up in the clouds and disappear, but I guess sitting on the roof of a seven story building will have to do for now.  I really really hope our next hotel rooms are just doubles.  I really really hope Barry comes up here to talk to me tonight because the guilt of how much he despises me now because of what I said kills me.  I can’t help that that is what I think but it is, I’m not sorry that it is my opinion, much less for saying it because he is the one that asked me to, I am sorry for pissing him off and losing one of the only real true friends I possibly had found on this trip.  Belle and him are probably the only two I feel really connected to, so I almost feel a need to maintain the same relationship, but it’s impossible to tell what will happen until or if I even talk to him tonight, upon which I pray to God I will!  Soon I will be home laying in my bed not having to deal with any of these people again, so I shouldn’t have to let it get to me, right?  Then why in the hell am I?  This is what happens when I put my trust in someone too quickly I should have known better than to get attached to anyone on this trip, much less tell them my most intimate secret of all, or even bother to show them some of my poetry, knowing the one I showed him was pretty bad and all my best ones are at home, hello, what the hell was I thinking??  How could I have told three people about my parents; how stupid can I get??  I can’t believe I did that, I don’t even know these people…obviously one of them fucking hates me now.  They were probably just pulling my leg; just acting like they care so they can get the scoop!  I’m such a dumbass.  Barry was probably just looking for something to get mad at me about, so he would have an excuse not to be around me anymore because of my parents problem!  Wait…what am I saying?  Barry’s not like that and deep down ya know know it; I am just writing ridiculous things right, to help me feel better about this entire situation.  Unfortunately in reality it is nowhere near  working and I still feel like the lowest scum of the Earth for whatever reason.  That just really pisses me off, I’m in fucking Italy, a once in a lifetime opportunity for me since I’m not loaded with money and all I can do is sit on top of a hotel roof and write about my sorry life and wallow in self pity!  It’s just stupid of me!  I’m tired as well, so that may have a bit more to do with my mood as well!  I’m wondering if I should write Barry a letter.  I dunno…he will probably come up here to talk when he gets back, but I must try not to get my hopes up because that is never a good thing.  Just as I have almost come to the conclusion it is not a good thing to put your faith and trust in someone.  I just seem to know from too many experiences that the result seems to never be positive.  Oh my God, that food being cooked down there smells so good, and I am famished, but I really need this time alone full of peace so sacrificing a meal is worth it I guess.  I probably won’t eat all day tomorrow either just because of money except dinner, which is always free.

 

Entry 659

7-23-01

            Okay all day yesterday we rode on the bus from Rome, Italy to Venice, Italy.  I sat next to Barry the whole time and you can guarantee we talked about religion the whole time, not argue, but discussed.  Then last night I was so frustrated, I was literally having a panic attack, I just wanted everyone to disappear so I could sit down and take deep breaths, and imagine I was home!  So the whole night I was ready to drink!  I mean I wanted to get trashed!  Well, I really did, unfortunately!  Clarissa had been getting on my nerves all day, and I already think she’s a bitch, then when I got enough alcohol in me she did one thing that pissed me off, and I went off on her!  I told her she was a bitch who was stuck up her own ass, spoiled rotten, and she can’t even look around her without seeing nothing but herself.  Then it just progressed, I could tell I had really messed up.  Barry was so pissed off at me, and I felt like everyone else on this trip was too, except Belle, Ashley, and Julie.  I was so upset last night after I actually sat down and thought about what I said.  This morning when I got up I was so worried about seeing Clarissa, Barry, and everyone else for that matter, but Julie, Belle, and Ashley made me feel a bit better.  So I saw Clarissa, we didn’t say a word to each other, Barry and I did not even talk.  So I just kind of stayed away from them, plus I wanted to figure out how the girls and guys felt.  As it turns out none of them really cared.  Clarissa was the only one I didn’t talk to, and I am not going to apologize either.  Julie, Ashley, and Belle were glad I said it.  None of the guys really even gave a shit except Barry.  I ate lunch with all the girls except Julie, Ashley, and Clarissa, they went with the guys.  The girls even asked me what I actually said, but Belle ended up telling them.  I was just like I don’t want to really bring it up, but while Belle was telling them I couldn’t help but laugh.  Yet all of them could really care less, they don’t have much of a problem with me, if any.  I think Barry started to cool off because right before we left to go to lunch he said something to me can’t remember what, but it wasn’t anything mean.  Hopefully he’s over it by now.  I learned something last night, a very valuable lesson.  The more I drink the more I crave the feeling and the more I crave the feeling the more I will want to keep drinking and never stop.  Drug addiction of any sort including alcoholism runs in my family just like depression does.  From now on I am not going to drink, smoke or anything else, I quit.  I don’t care anymore.  I can’t afford to get like that on a regular basis.  It was immature and stupid of me.  I am not going to screw up my life.  I should have never picked up that vodka over a year ago and drank on New Year’s Eve, never drank in London, Paris, Switzerland, or Italy, it stops here because I’ve started smoking cigs too, and all of this only causes more problems.  I really hope Barry doesn’t hate me, I hope we leave this trip as still friends and not enemies, I hope we still sit by each other on the bus because I totally enjoy his company.  He is the only person here who I can actually have an intellectual conversation with and I need that since Amy, Helen, Kathy, or Kasey are not here.  You will never believe what I just did!  I let Belle, and Lora cut my hair.  At first I was terrified, but everyone keeps telling me they like it.  I dunno I am still a bit self-conscious…  They’re making me where a skirt and tight black sleeveless turtle neck shirt.  I’ve had these clothes for awhile, just never worn them.  I wonder what Helen and Amy will think.  I am too nervous to even think straight.  I wonder what Barry will think.  Not that it matters, but I am still curious.  I wonder what my Mom will think…she will love it.  It’s my Mom, so ya know, that’s just how they are.  At first I was almost in tears because I wanted it to be cut a little bit because I have been growing it out for almost two years now.  I think after this I won’t cut it again because I want my hair to be long and beautiful.  I just got off the phone with my sister and feel a lot better; I miss talking to her, I miss her being around to comfort me.  I should be in bed right now, but neither one of my roomies are in the room so if I go to sleep and they come in, it Will just wake me up all over again.  This trip has gone by so fast, but yet seems so long.  I wonder if I should call Kasey.  Maybe Stephanie would be better.  I can’t believe I have made it through this trip.  There’s so much I know I need to write about, but my mind is so blank right now.  I want to find Barry, I want to talk to him, but I don’t believe he does…I dunno.  I am just ready to get home.  It’s hard for me to think I keep going into dazes, which shows how sleepy I am.  Everyone drank tonight, but me, including Jeremy, who is such a sweetheart.  But he wasn’t even buzzing.  Jeremy and Thomas are the funniest guys.  On this whole trip I have revealed way too much to a lot of these people though.  I should have never said anything about my Mom’s problem, I should have never said anything about religion.  I really should have just stuck to myself, and not allowed myself to ever get so close to any of these people as I have.  I should learn to become more reserved and private around people I am not sure of.  I think I will actually begin to put that to action.  The more I think about all that’s happened between I and these people I can hardly believe I got so close to them so fast…and I wonder, was it all worth it?  Did I really make any friendships worthwhile?  Then again I have also been around no one, but these people for nearly three weeks.  Can I deal with a healthy conscious though with all the things I have said and done?  I doubt it, I mean now I crave a drink just for the feeling.  I really really want one right now, but I know if I walk out that door I will come back off my ass drunk that is.  I feel sick for some reason right now.  I told my sister all about what happened last night between Clarissa and I, she asked me if any o fit was true, and I told her yeh.  She said well, just don’t say much to her, and when you are around her just basically kill her with kindness.  Today she told me how nice my hair looks and she even started playing with it; it was a bit odd, but at least there’s not much conflict.  Last night I thought the whole group would just completely shun me, but I could not be more wrong.  I am so ready for Friday to come though, I mean I am ready to hop on that plane, and get home as fast as I can.  I am so happy I came on this trip, and I don’t regret it one bit, the experience within itself; the places I’ve seen can never replace any of this!  I can not wait to get my pictures developed.  Just to look at it all, all that I did in less than three weeks, even spark a few memories I have already forgotten.  Belle, Ashley, and Barry, and a few others are out drunk and drinking even more.  It’s amazing to watch them, I know I act just as retarded if not worse.  These guys whom came in here just now are like so gone it’s not even funny, now I see how I was acting last night.  I am quite retarded even without alcohol in me, then with it flowing strongly and thoroughly through my veins I am like 1000 times worse.  Now that everyone’s back I am wondering if I should go up to my room, but since they are drunk out of their minds, I doubt I should go up there and try and sleep.  Even though my eyes are drooping terribly.  I think I will go up and see though.

 

Entry 660

7-24-01

            I am so ready to go home.  I am really just at the point where I honestly don’t care.  I’ve been true to no one while here, much less myself!  I miss my long hair so bad, and it will take forever to grow out.  Belle is beginning to get on my nerves, as well as Barry.  Julie, Lora, and Ashley are the only ones who I am even remotely fond of.  What the hell was I thinking??  God I seem to have absolutely no common sense.  I wish I had talked to my sister more, so I could have gotten some advice from her.  Belle told me last night I needed to decide if I want to be a sensitive little girl, or a bad ass.  I told her I shouldn’t have to be one or the other, I just want to be me.  I’m not here to live up to anyone’s expectations and never will be.  I make my own decisions sometimes not based on the best judgement such as my hair, but I my eyes it’s all for a reason.  I just want to go home get away from all these people who I can’t be myself around, get away from all the religious controversy, call Kasey and talk to him for as long as possible, go see Stephanie, make fun of her Dad, laugh my ass off, fight with T.J, talk to Helen about sex, and all the guys she’s met and she how her and Brandon are doing if they are still together.  My Mom told me a few nights ago she got a letter from LaGrange College which needed notification of my address or something of that sort so that means I got accepted for post secondary option.  We register this week while I’m gone of course.  So when I get back it is going to be a pain for me to deal with all of that.  I’m so happy I Will get out early next year.  We start school Aug. 7th or 13th, I can’t remember which one.  I am more worried about that than anything.  God I can’t believe I have been here this long.  It seems like forever.  The first day we were here is so surreal like it never happened.  My God, I’m so thirsty, but I don’t have any money, German that is.  It feels so good to say we only have two days left.  Belle just completely irritated the crap out of me last night.  She was trying to say she has gone above and beyond completely out of her way to make me feel accepted, and I didn’t do a damn thing for her in return.  I just kept my mouth shut, then she got mad because she told me to take a hot bath and relax, and I was tired as shit and I told her I was and I just wanted to go to sleep.  She basically straight out called me selfish.  I am just really tired of everyone, I want to get back to my normal life where I see these people once in a blue moon if even that.  I just don’t care, I really don’t at this point I could care less.  I don’t care about Belle, Ashley, or even Barry.  I mean they’re cool and all, but it doesn’t matter if I talk to them after this trip or not it really doesn’t.  I’m ready for school to start back, I’m ready for my Senior year to fly by so I can just leave!  I’m ready for my life to actually start.  I’m ready to turn 21.  I am going to make a vow to myself, excluding special occasions, I am not going to drink or smoke until the day I turn 21, because if I do I just might not make it to 21.  I will never touch a cigarette or any type of drug again.  It’s not good for you and all it does is slowly kill you.  I’m tired, but as hard as I try I can not sleep on this bus.  I think everyone’s out but me.  I’m just sick of these peoples’ bullshit!  The ones who I genuinely like are Will and Jeremy.  That’s because they stay out of everyone’s business.  Plus they’re both sweethearts!  I hate to say it, but majority of these guys and gals on this trip are spoiled rotten.  Stephanie was right all the girls do drive Hondas.  Mostly 1995 and up.  

 

Entry 661

7-26-01

            Tomorrow we go home, and I am so psyched.  I want to go home, I want to go home, oh by the way did I mention I want to go home!!  I don’t give a shit about these people anymore!  I am so ready to get out of here.  This hotel like totally sucks ass!  I hate this, I hate everything, this is ridiculous.  We’re supposed to go to another bar place tonight, but I am so not going.  It’s so fucking hot too.  I can’t deal with this.  Yesterday we saw Nymphenburg Palace, which was cool.  We went to see a concentration camp, which made me cry my eyes out, I can’t believe people can be so cruel.  I walked through the gas chamber, which I never even realized was so little, I can not imagine squeezing all those people in there, it was terrible, the sense of evil was all over.  I saw pictures of things they used to do, the experiments they did on these people who did nothing wrong.  It disgusted me, made me sick to my stomach.  I cried so bad just thinking about the torture those people went through for no reason at all.

 

Entry 662

7-27-01

            I hate this shit, I can’t get comfortable to save my life, but at least I am on my way home.  I can’t wait to see Kasey.  I am just going to surprise him and Stephanie, I am planning on just showing up or at least riding by Winn-Dixie to see if I see their cars.

 

Entry 663

8-13-01

            Well all those new “friends” that I made while in Europe, um well, let’s just say that once I got off the plane exchanged a few numbers and a quick goodbye, I haven’t talked to them since.  I called Barry once, and other than a five minute conversation that’s all it’s been.  So it’s all bullshit, all those people were, even Barry, except Thomas and Jeremy.  They are both genuinely nice and I really wish I had invested more time in them than I did any of the rest of those two-faced bitches.  I swore I was making real bonds at the time, but now I realize it was just a “ for the time-being” type thing.  I am just realizing more and more how gullible I still am, even though I seriously believed I had changed and was no longer like that.  I am just more mad at myself for putting so much trust in those people and now not even talking to them.  I feel like an idiot.  I tried so hard to keep the images and memories in my head, but I don’t really remember that much at all and I am so confused about what all I did.  I can barely remember all the different places we went to see.  I am grateful I wrote it all down so I can use that as references.  I can’t believe I even began to like Barry, the pathetic part is I still somewhat do.  Yet I like Kasey sooo much!  We went up to Columbus State together (he offered and drove!).  I had to get an application, and a catalog, and he had to get his books.  We went to the mall in the huge food court to eat.  After very much indecisiveness we finally chose Arby’s; he paid for me!  We had a mini food fight.  Then he helped me out in getting a job at Winn-Dixie all I have to do is get my drug test and I am hired.  I just had this thought occur to me…with the stuff my Mom does inside my house, so if I breathe in any of exhaled air, will I still pass my drug test.  Maybe I shouldn’t worry about it ‘cause I’m never actually in there while they’re doing that.  I swear to god though if they make me fail that test I will be so pissed!  I have never in my life done anything other than drink and smoke cigarettes, so I know if I don’t pass it that is the only reason why.  Why am I even worried?  I just get way too paranoid, I’ll pass it there’s no way I couldn’t.  I really need to ask Kasey about it ‘cause he probably knows more than I do, with all the people that apply to Winn-Dixie.  I’m not even going to waste my time being concerned with it, I shouldn’t have to.  Okay I am just way too paranoid.  I sent off my college application to CSU Saturday, so now I’m worried about that.  Even though that’s like my safety college I mean Kasey got in with a 450 on the SAT…hello!  I have a 1000 and could probably make higher if I took it again, I really just don’t feel like bothering with it.

 

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