Entry 623

4-24-00

            I could not be more frustrated with my life right now!  My Dad’s still in SC with my Grandma, he’s supposed to be back Tuesday, or Wednesday.  As far as Sam and I go, I have no clue about the future or exactly where we are right now, and I don’t know if I want to know because that may just ruin my whole perspective on the situation.  I’m finding myself still in love with him and I don’t know if that’s a good thing or bad.  I hate analyzing things so much, but it’s just like in my nature.  I thought about him all weekend long, something I haven’t done in like 2-3 months.  I’ve never stopped loving him, but I thought I had fallen out of love with him.  But just within the past week it all came back to me and I dunno what to make of it.  I’m trying to protect myself because I can’t afford to hurt like that again, but there’s so many mixed messages flying around between us.  I just wish I could be satisfied and happy with the attention and flirting, but when it comes to him and my heart nothing is ever all that simple.  He said he needed to talk to me about “us” sometime.  Plus, for the first time pretty much since we’ve broken up he called me Liz, and yeh I know it’s stupid, but just hearing him call me that made my heart melt.  Yet I guess from past experiences I can’t shake the feeling that I’m only setting myself up.  I’m so frustrated and angry at myself and I end up with another heartbreak from all of this I might as well just beat the crap out of myself as punishment.  I had two dreams about him this weekend and both of them once again seemed so real like they really happened.  Both of them also had the same plot of us getting back together, I’m not complaining about the dreams, I’m just hoping I’m not getting my hopes up for another huge fall.  I need to restart writing some more poetry.  I have all these emotions and nowhere to really express them, but paper.  Of course, going back to my old ways of only writing my feelings down isn’t so bad.  There’s just no one that’s close to me right now, that I trust enough to open up to completely.  Naturally I was like that with Sam, but so much time has gone by and I’ve gotten quite used to writing about them anyways.  It’s just like I said I’m protecting myself.  The first and last time I did that with him a couple of months after we broke up he spit it all back in my face.  So I have forgiven him, but it’s really hard for me to forget the feeling of betrayal because the only reason I did share those things with him was because he told and promised me he wouldn’t do any of what he ended up doing.  So now he has to work twice as hard to earn that 100% trust he once had from me.  He has gotten just a tad back, and it may take awhile, but if things continue the way they are between us he’ll earn the rest eventually.  Personally right now, I prefer pen and paper, it’s how I’ve dealt with majority of my problems in my life, or at least within the past 5-6 years.

 

Entry 624

5-3-00

            Alright well I can’t really say much for my life at the moment.  I’m not really sure if things have been going up hill for me, or downhill; in a way both.  There’s much confusion on several things, but at the same time a lot of the things, I’ve been stressing over have been cleared up and I feel a little relieved, but not quite as much as I should.  I think I’ll never understand anything completely; I’m starting to despise my Mom; I’m so angry at her for everything.  I know I can’t really trust anyone that much anymore, but it disturbs me.  I used to be so innocent and sweet.  I didn’t really understand the crudeness of the world in front of me.  In the past 5-6 months I’ve put myself through so many agonizing situations that I don’t think I really even comprehend the concept of how I got to any of these situations.  There’s like a war going on in my life, and another one only within me.  There’s one going on between what my heart wants, and brain wants in 2 different situations.  One involves Sam, which pretty much self-explanatory, the other has to do with whether or not I should maybe go and stay in CA for a bit with Kathy and Keith.  Then the constant feuding between my Mom and I stands as another one.  My sister wants me to actually move to CA with her because she sees how bad it’s getting for me to stay in that house and she thinks it’d be easier, and I’d possibly be better off and happier.  She says it’s easier because if my Mom got caught then there’d be a custody battle and they may end up saying something like Kathy can’t afford to keep me.  So I don’t know, it’s all a big jumble in my brain and too confusing for me to even think about right now.  I don’t ever wanna go home anymore, I get treated like shit every time I am there.  My Dad thinks I lie about everything.  My Mom just lays on her ass all day and night except when she’s working, or when she has to go and get me and Dad something to eat.  I think she’s forgotten how to cook, clean, and wash clothes.  I do practically everything for myself.  By the time I get home I’m usually exhausted from staying up so late, the previous night doing things.  I do all my homework at school it seems like.  I dunno, I don’t really have room to complain and I don’t want anyone’s pity.  I just…I want to smile and not have to worry about everything that’s going on.  It’s continuously getting harder and harder for me.  I think I’m starting to become much more frustrated with myself more than anyone else and that frustration; I’m letting out on my Mom.  Or maybe I am just lost about everything and I don’t think I’m able to figure much of it out anytime soon.

 

Entry 625

5-9-00

            I WANT:    My Mom to stop using drugs, to get over her heart problem, to come back to me, to be my MOTHER!  My sister to stay here, to not have to move so far away.  My grandma not to die, to stop being so sick.  For Sam to stop hurting me, for things with him and his family to improve, his future not to be ruined by what happened at Staples, him to not need to take medication, him to be happy, him to never forget me and what we had and be able to find that with someone else one day.

 

Entry 626

6-7-00

            Ever felt so lost and confused that the water flows out of your eyes like a river, then once you feel it’s over, you don’t even realize what you’re so broken-hearted over?  Sometimes I think I’m crazy and I belong in an institution; I wanted to be happy.  It hurts to smile because I have to force it and I know underneath that smile is just a girl that’s tearing herself up for little nonsense things.  A girl who feels like she’s failed in making her parents proud of her, who hears her father’s echoing words of, “We may love you, but we’ll never like you,” and longs for him to love her back and actually prays for that day to return, but it feels like a lost hope, a lost cause.  A girl who has deep dreams, but knows that they shall never occur because of past mistakes that shall affect her for eternity.  But after all I am just a girl whose struggling with the trials and tribulations of becoming and introducing the girl I am to the woman I’ll be.  I may be sixteen and been having my period since I was 12, but that doesn’t mean I’m all grown up, by no means.  You can see a lot in peoples’ eyes, some are filled with life, happiness and the key secrets of obtaining these precious things, people with eyes like that have souls, and have a reason, a will to continue living.  Others there eyes reveal a secret, a secret of loneliness, no hope, the emptiness that fills the inside so that it forces it to be let out before their faces through tears.  These others are like me, they feel no need to continue through life for they already lost their souls long ago when they lost their ability to feel and gave up, and let themselves die.  All of us are already dead, our eyes began to show it the day we stopped feeling.  I already hate this world enough, and each day I continue to live in it, I despise it more and more.  I despise it more because each additional day is filled with more cruelty and violence and less beauty as before.  Soon there will be no beauty left in the world, nothing left to admire, to cause inspiration, or make your heart feel like it shall burst if you don’t express it right then and there.  Therefore I can’t allow myself to live in a world where true beauty is becoming extinct.  Without beauty there can be no true love, without true love there can be no sadness, or no emotions at all; proving a world without beauty will soon become hopeless as it already is.  The light is melting out of my life, and the darkness is creeping in.  It’s scary to have no light and be in the dark, but it’s absolutely horrifying to be stuck in the dark and be alone.  It’s not as if I’ve been keeping it all to myself.  I have talked to someone.  I attempted to explain to them what was going on inside me, but I don’t believe they understood exactly what I was saying.  I guess it doesn’t really matter one way or another.  I still have an unbelievable amount of thoughts to get out and analyze thoroughly, but I’m full of sleepiness, so I think it best I rest for now.

 

Entry 627

6-8-00

            Sometimes when I feel the knife slide across my skin, I pray for the courage to press down hard enough to release myself from it all.  I do cause a little scratch here and there at times; it helps when I see the blood flowing out it makes me feel as if the pain is seeping out with it.  I must be crazy, actually I don’t believe I was ever sane.  “I’m fucked up in the head,” remember as Sam once called me, or how about, “a bit disturbed,” which I’ve heard from a few people such as, Haley and Lewis.  Those statements made about me by my friends are the reason I choose not to tell anyone about this.  No one knows I still cut myself, and no one will ever know unless of course I ever get up enough courage to press down hard enough, then I guess it will be obvious.  I tell myself I don’t trust people, that I don’t trust this world in general.  I have faced the harsh reality of this world and what I saw didn’t upset me, nor did it scare me, but I just didn’t like it.  I’m trying not to make it seem as if I’m some narrow-minded, primitive individual, but what if that is what I really am?  The fact is I’m not completely sure of who I am, but I have a pretty good idea, or at least more of an idea than other teenagers my age.  Sometimes when I cut myself I make sure it’s where no one will see it.  Majority of the time it’s around my chest area.  Usually the area I get compliments on at that, well that and my hair and every so often my eyes, but the ones that comment on my eyes are usually the romantics at heart, or want a quick way to jump my bones.  It’s not like I have anything against sex.  I mean right now I believe I’m more sexually frustrated than ever before.  I’m 16 and still a virgin, but yet my actions classify me as a whore.  I look at myself in the mirror sometimes often while I am holding a knife, and feeling the cool metal scratch softly across my skin, and I think deeply, I make an attempt to reach deep into my subconscious and discover the things I hate about myself only to cause more anger and pain.  I stand there and almost study myself, I wait for the tears to come, but they never do.  It’s then at that moment that I have no feelings, no soul, no life.  I may be living, but I really died long ago.  The sad part is, I don’t even think it matters to anyone.  I’m so good at hiding it, it’s almost scary.  It’s almost like I have somehow developed multiple personalities.  I haven’t had the slightest idea of what all of this is.  In the beginning I tried to find things to blame for it, and I got the idea that if I clinged to those problems then I’ll have an excuse to be this way.  It was my Mom’s problem for awhile, but my Mom hasn’t smoked “stuff” in like 3-4 months.  Then Sam and I breaking up, but that shouldn’t matter anymore especially if we’re still going to have sex together.  Not that I’m really fond of the idea since I really don’t trust him that much and when I’m hearing so many different things he’s said from others, I don’t know what he says half the time is a truth or a lie.  Amy says he’s just using me for sex, Helen says I shouldn’t, he’s told her about all the supposed times, he’s had sex and done all these things with other girls, but I just don’t think I care anymore.  I know I’m going to regret him being my first or maybe even doing it with him altogether, I can guarantee that, but I just don’t want to die a virgin…haha.  I’m going to see my cousin Bill tomorrow, he’s 30 something I have a deep admiration for him like I do for my brother, Mel.  Bill and I have a lot in common I look up to him so much.  I love talking to him one on one, we have some of the best conversations, and they’re actually intellectual which I enjoy very much!  It’s rare to have a conversation that actually challenges your intelligence and where the person actually listens and takes into consideration what you’re saying and doesn’t sit there and think of the next thing they’ll say to you to convince you they’re right and their opinion is the only one that matters while you’re talking.  That’s why I chose not to participate in arguments anymore and just tell the other person what they want to hear so they’ll shut their ignorant, closed-minded mouth up.  I guess it all is a part in maturity in realizing the psychology of things, similar to the above statements, involving the human mind.  I know I tend to be wordy when I write, but without words we have really nothing, so I chose to put as many as I in my sentences so I can help pull the reader into what I’m feeling and thinking.  Maybe I won’t necessarily even live long enough to see others lay their eyes upon this.  I guess that’s why I share some of my most intimate secrets and I don’t hold back anything.  Once my pen touches the paper my hand just keeps going and going.  I do have the small hope though all this ink isn’t being put to waste, and one day at least one person will read these words and hopefully they’ll somehow affect them.  I think it was my friend, Heather who once asked me how I can find this much in my life to write about.  At the time I gave a little laugh toward the question and shrugged it off.  Then for some reason I began to think about that question and I scanned through all that I had written, not just in here, but in my old journals as well.  Then I realized I don’t just write about my life, I write about everything, I write about all of my thoughts, everything that happens, my “friends” my opinions of them, and everything else.  Although I have succeeded in getting myself out of depressed moods it’ll only last for awhile, it returns soon enough, I promise, I must be crazy, huh??  Anyone else who sees this will probably think so at least, I think I already said that earlier but I don’t believes it matters all that much.

 

Entry 628

6-17-00

            On last Tuesday, June 13, 2000 somewhere between 8 and 9 A.M. I lost my virginity to Sam.  I’m no longer a virgin, no longer me, or innocent, or pure, or a girl.  Am I happy over this?  I don’t know, I’m confused about it all. There are times where I wish I could go back and stop it from ever happening and I believe those times majorly outweigh the ones that I’m so emotional and thrilled that it all occurred.  I don’t know…  My worst fear was of Sam doing something to piss me off and us being through again, but I soon realized that was a ridiculous thought because this was much more meaningful and important than anything else we did before.  We now have a bond that can never be broken.  He still loves me that much I know for sure.  We talked about it tonight and although it wasn’t said while we were making love we both felt it.  It’s just neither of us said it because of fear over what the other would say and the impact it would have on us once reality hits us again.  Of course if it wasn’t for reality we would have said it and once again became captured in our own world where time stopped and our lives were only full of us.  It was great, I just don’t believe I was quite prepared for the emotional side of it all.  Sam told me so much the night before we did make love.  He told me tonight the reason he said all of it was because he knew while we were making love he’d have the urge to say that (I love you) and so he wanted to go ahead and try and get it out of his system and tell me as best to his ability how he felt without using those three words.  HE basically told me how much he missed me and the relationship with me, how we each set aside time each night to talk on the phone.  He told me I’d always hold a very special place in his heart, or at least much more than anyone else.  He said many other things I can’t recall, but I guarantee all f them made my heart melt, and even brought a few tears to my eyes because I knew he was being absolutely truthful and meant every word of it wholeheartedly.  We were very careful so there is a very very slim chance I’m pregnant, but I still have this deep fear in me that I am because there’s no absolute guarantee.  So I did go out and buy a pregnancy test just to not have that deep fear insinuated inside me for nearly a month until I start my period, or am supposed to start anyways.  So I probably won’t take it for about a week or two, because the longer you wait the more accurate the results should be, I just am having a bit of a hard time dealing with the anticipation, but I’ll be okay.  Right now it’s hard for me to picture myself with anyone but Sam.  I know that’s stupid of me, but it’s the truth.  At least now we’ve created one of the many bonds between us which can never be broken.  Sam can just take my heart and treat it so delicate and just make me feel so wonderful both in an emotional and physical sense.  I guess all this happening between us is making us both uncover those emotions we had hid away in our subconscious purposely.  Emotions mainly from the past of how we feel about each other.  Never before have I been on this close of a level with someone, that it’s almost scary how well we know each other.  Tonight we were finishing each others’ sentences and reading the other’s thoughts.  Then again for the most part when we’ve been this close in the past we’ve always been able to read the others’ thoughts.  Now honestly, I’m glad I have this back because I didn’t really realize how much I missed it all.  I’m not talking of the relationship, but more like the friendship we had throughout the relationship.  It feels good to have a friendship with him that’s very intimate and on a high emotional level and a bit of the physical portion added to it.  Okay well more than a bit, but no matter how far we go it will always have true emotion behind it, by true emotion I mean love.  Also it will never be just sex, it’s always going to be making love with him.  I won’t allow it to be anything but.  Honestly I don’t think I could ever have just sex.  Even when I’ve been married for like fifty years it will still be making love, no matter how kinky or how bizarre we get.  As long as there is that strong emotion behind, it shall never be just sex.  One thing I haven’t mentioned yet is Sam and I will continue to make love.  Both of us have come to an agreement that we won’t allow it to be casual and happen every time we’re together like other stuff while we were together.  I know for a fact I will not let us do that twice within the same week.  My innocence and purity is banished now, but with giving my virginity to him and my “girlhood” which does consist of the lost innocence and purity, I gained so much in return.  I may not exactly explain completely what I did gain other than only a much more special bond between him and I, I can most certainly feel all the things I’ve gained emotionally, especially in my heart and it all only makes me closer to him and love him all the more for providing me with all of these things, which I definitely will cherish for eternity.

 

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