This is for anyone who is thinking about going down on a girl for the first time, or has done so in the past and would like to improve their technique.
First of all, you have to know what you're doing down there. I'm talking navigation. There is NO way you are going to satisfy a girl without knowing the basics about her anatomy. You, as a guy, have this whole big giant penis, which is pretty rudimentary - basic - not hard to figure out. Girls have flaps and holes and hair and it is completely understandable if you look at it and get a little confused!
Take a look at this picture below. In it, take note of where the vagina, clitoris, and inner lips or labia (labia minora) are located, especially in respect to each other. Each girl looks very different in her pubic region. It's doubtful you'll ever see two that are quite the same. Some girls are VERY hairy and some have hardly any hair at all. Some girls shave, some don't. (Please don't ever ASK a girl to shave. When it grows back, it itches like HELL. Don't pressure her to go through that torture. If she's willing to do it on her own, FINE.) The inner lips, the labia minora, can look VERY different on different girls. On some they are very small, and on some they are of medium size, and on some they are large and protrude past the outer lips (labia). Basically, you are best to learn the relation of where the clitoris is in relation to the vaginal opening and the inner lips, this will be your best navigational tool.
Ok, so now that you know where you're going, it's important to learn what to do to get there. First of all, don't just dive straight into it. If she is like me, and in my "research" (i.e. College) most girls are, she will desire a considerable amount of foreplay. Not only is this necessary to turn her on, it is to your advantage. You don't want to be down there so long your tongue starts cramping up or something. Seriously spend about 10-15 minutes kissing her, her neck, her breasts, her shoulders, etc. Be tender, don't hump her leg or anything, and don't insist that she pay ANY attention to you and your throbbing member. Remember, you are doing this for HER, right? Give her this undivided attention. She will make it up to you!
If you really want to drive her crazy with lust, during this foreplay, DON'T touch her clitoris or vagina. Think about when you're horny, how much you want your penis touched, how much you yearn for it to be touched when it's hard, and how GOOD it feels when you finally touch it. This basic premise also applies to a woman. During foreplay, don't touch it. It's as simple as that. One thing my fiance does that drives me insane while we're in foreplay is to take two fingers, and run them from back to front, each finger in one of the creases between my inner thigh and outer lips, not quite near my vagina, but in a sensitive area. It makes me quiver with yearning, seriously. Give it a go.
OK, so now, she's wet, writhing, horny, and begging for you to touch it. Slowly, work your way down. When you get there, again, don't go for the trophy right away. Lay some soft kisses on that same crease between thigh and outer lips I mentioned above. Nuzzle your nose into her pubic hair, and breathe through your mouth onto her genitals (this feels divine). If she is grinding her hips a little, you know you are definitely on the right track. Now, finally, lay your tongue onto her clitoris. Start with little licks with the tip of your tongue. Find a rhythm, but don't stick with the same thing too long. One good thing I've heard to do is to "write" the letters of the alphabet with your tongue on her clitoris. Eventually you will want to get into a bit more of a rhythm and increase your pace. Reach up and play with her breasts, run your hands down her leg, even insert a finger into her vagina. And, speaking of vagina, don't be afraid to "tongue-fuck" her. Basically, take your tongue, and stick it in her vagina as far as you can get it, and move it in and out a few times. This feels sublime for the girl, like nothing else you could imagine. But don't forget, it's that clitoris that will give her the orgasm, so get back there! Basically remember - not too hard, not too soft, and ask for her input! Tell her that if she can tell you what to do, it will make it easier for you to please her, and it will turn you on too (even if that's not entirely true...).
Once you have basically mastered the basics and have her writhing and groaning and using your ears as handles, here are some other things you can try:
- Whipped cream -- the old standard. Two things to remember - don't use too much or you'll get a stomachache, and don't shoot it up into her if you use the canister variety. The cream could curdle up there if it doesn't get flushed out naturally (YUCK) and the tips of the nozzle could scratch her insides (OUCH!).
- Use an ice cube on her -- either held in your hand or in your mouth to make your tongue cold. Or, you could put the ice cube into her vagina too.
- Menthol cough drops. Suck on one for a minute and give her oral sex, and it will make her feel extra sensitive and tingly. I personally find the sensation a little too much to bear, but I have had other girls tell me they enjoy it thoroughly. Give it a try, in any case.
- Hot fudge. Not TOO hot, for heaven's sake, though! The warmth is quite tittilating.
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