1. Introduction
“If somebody says that men spend a third of his life waiting for women, he is probably right, because patience is often required in fishing. However, situation can be quite different when the other round happens, which is what I am going to tell …”
1.1
Objectives
This work is written in full faith for my love
journey, which also serves as a versatile document. The intentions of the work
are manifold: not only to put into writings what this pair of marathoners have
experienced in the past ten years, but more importantly to signify a full
punctuation and finalise the mutual destination by officially and devotedly
proposing a marriage to my beloved co-runner, Miss Cindy Tan Bee Khee.
1.2
Background
This story starts with the most refreshing moments in my mind ten years ago. With the most astonishing characteristics in her 16, we met in a supermarket as colleagues. I was so attracted to her charms and grace that soon I found myself carrying her back with my Honda C70 (still with 2 ‘L’ plates hanging, one in the front and the other at the rear). Things just went so natural, and without our realise, we both appointed each other as the closest friends. The natural feeling of being together is fantastic, which after so many years, I still can remember the joy when I was on my way to meet her at the bus stop. Things had been hard for these little couple, our road has been winding. In the worst times, I often used my heart to write down my missing for her, of course, sealed with a kiss before sending. Then after all, this tired yacht came back and parked at the quay, and there were some wonderful occasions that we would not mind spending forever. The quiet quay was peaceful and calm, and every thing was simply wonderful. However, this novice sailor was too eager to see the world, realizing that this is not the reason why men built ships for; and with the navigator on board, on one fine day the young yacht sailed again, to the ocean to experience the weathers; to the universe to explore the four corners of the world, and to the darkness to build a better tomorrow…
1.3
Outlines of this Proposal
This proposal is specially tailored to my proposal, and hence, the first scene introduces the commence of this romance with my intentions clearly stated. Then, it carries us to the details of our marathon run, signifying our willingness and readiness to be considered as a whole entity onwards. The third portion reveals my promises and pledges for our beautiful future. And lastly, and the most importantly, the final section concludes this proposal with my most sincere invitation to my darling for joining the journey to our destiny.
2.
The
Marathon in Picturesque Winding Road
“… the road never gets too long, as long as there is
accompany…”
2.1
The Unforced Errors
Many years back, the Big Bang happened and created the universe. Many years later, it is believed that interception of meteor and planet Earth brought Jurassic era to an end, and started men’s civilizations. Not many years ago, like an orbital intersection, we came into each other’s way by accidents. However, I personally believe that there is a way to account for this randomly occurring and mutually influencing event: the interception of infinity destiny orbits by somehow rather vague, undefined pre-determined way… or in short, the fate. We often define error as deviation from expectation, so the above events happened unexpectedly and are all errors. Anyway, practically, we would like to call them unforced errors, but these are very different from which are used in tennis matches: it simply isn’t an indicator of inefficiency. That is all about what I know for now, the unforced error.
2.2
The Advancement and the Evolution
Evolution starts without the record of
history, but there are traces that we can recall, which we often think that
they are fascinating and worth-remembering. Starting from the first sight, the
so-called chemical reaction started unconsciously (but somehow recorded in an
organized and everlasting history journal called human brain) and drove two
young, naive teenagers to start their endless journey to the final destiny.
Talking to each other would definitely prolong the chemical reaction (onwards to be referred as stimulation) and
the light wave of romance certainly ignites the love, the passion and the
strong desires of belonging. I don’t need much effort (although I do need some
time) to brush up my memory about the old Honda cup C70 (squared head lamp, not
rounded one), on which we enjoyed the first ride together; there were stars in
the deep blue sky, there were breezes whispering around our ears, and there
were two hearts pounding in the melody of romance, which resides in our hearts
till… (still remained unknown to publishing date). So, the long journey starts
at the time we share the hobbies we don’t share, we like the things we don’t
like before; and, it is not very hard to discover that these seem to be quite
enjoyable, especially in the symphony of fury and shouts. …… no, it is not a
boring one, and every day new things keep popping up, we never get bored until
now; and we will never get bored in the bifringence of two coherence light
sources (interference).
3.
The
Pledge and the Future
“With my sincerity, you are going to come with me, and I can almost be sure that we will be crusading towards prosperity and happiness, and we both will do that without a hesitate, like the canon being played during the wedding march……”
3.1
The JB Treaty 2000
“It is not always true that peace treaty is signed only
when a battle is lost or the security is threatened. Sometimes, we do it for
fun, and for love.”
We have come into agreement that we should record down our promises and words for future reference. This in fact is my fiancée’s idea, as I often escape from keeping my words by being “absent minded”. I am quite agreeable to that and therefore have come out with a comprehensive set of solution for what I intend to do in order to keep our relationship.
1.
I have
to remember my words.
2.
I cannot
make you cry; heavy penalty such as buying jewelries would be imposed in the
case of unintentional accident.
3.
I have
to take care of you as long as my existence in your life, unconditionally.
4.
I have
no say in managing my finance in any sense, no question should be asked about
the way you spend my money.
5.
I should
be ashamed of my ability of earning money, always.
6.
I am let
free as long as the above are not concerned.
7.
I have
to keep writing this treaty and have it signed timely, in conjunction with (1).
3.2
The Perfect Vision, 2020
“Some time in the future, I drive in the evening as
usual, knowing that my dinner is awaiting and that we are going to cinema for a
good movie to celebrate harmony and abundance in life. We know that not far
away from now, we will reach the place where we see it every day in our hearts.
With our future in my eyes, I learn to dream.”
To form a long-term relationship like
marriage, of course some careful planning about the future is mandatory. But
the time frame must be duly opted so that it is appropriate, beyond which it
becomes trivial and below which its possibility of being successful becomes
questionable. So 2020 is chosen to be our review timing in the favour of Dr. M.
Not only this projected time gives ample degrees of freedom in management, it
provides sufficient tolerance for the expectations. …… I close my eyes and I
can feel the joyful sentiment on my way home. Although puzzled by heavy load of
work, I have clear directions into which my career is carrying me. The new car
cruises steadily on the highway, and the traffic relieves as the sun sets in
twilight. I have to go back before dark, because my wife is waiting for me,
having the dining table laid. We have not had much time left, as we have to rush
for a movie at 9, in our celebration of 10th anniversary. Yesterday
has passed, today is busy, and tomorrow will always come.
4.
The
Proposal
“I am so glad that I am now in the position to fulfil my dreams, after a long waiting of 10 years. I want to let you know that I love you so much and that I want to spend the rest of my time with you. I realise that life becomes meaningless without you, and I promise to take care of you as long as I am still breathing. I know where my mistakes are, and I will correct them one by one in your witness. I know there isn’t enough care from me, but I guarantee you my faithfulness and sincerity. I know there isn’t many reasons left for you to say no, and I want to propose to you now, to be my accompany when there are ups and downs; to be my friends when encouragement is needed; to be my guardian when I am off the track; to be my competitor to keep me in pace; and, to be my wife when I am home.”
4.1
A Brand New Start without Ending
“Although the crusade never ends, I am
actually running out of paper. Things get tangled up as they are all running
out from my mind, and I feel upset not to have them all recorded down for your
reading perusal. I have less and less space to write and I have more and more
words to tell……, so agree with me that this is a good ending and it signifies a
good starting at the same time.”
4.2
On My Foot Prints
“Try not to look back
when in anxiety, as I am always beside you; we walk along the remaining shine
of the day, the oncoming scene seems never-ending and we just stroll joyfully
in the mild drizzle. There are surely hard times such as storms and uphills,
but we know that they are all going to be a wonderful drizzle and golden beach
after we get over, …… please don’t ask why sometimes you don’t see my
footprints, as I would need to carry you in our long journey.”
4.3
My Ultimate Destiny
“With love and commitment, backed-up
by my presence of the long march, I would like to present you my intentions, so
that when seeing rain, we could walk together under umbrella; so that when
harvesting, we can share our fruits and savour the sweetness and bitterness; so
that when dying, we can have a warm hand and smiling face to keep ourselves
accompanied.”
I hereby propose to you for a
marriage, “Would you marry me, please?”
For
my vision and love,
__________________________
(Lim Chee Yen)