| Thoughts Of Love |
| Some people think that love... - is a feeling - an emotion, - something that you "fall into", and - sometimes "fall out of", - something that just "happens", - something you really can't control. I believe that love is so much more than that. I believe that love is very definitely a feeling, but not exclusively a feeling. Love is also a descision, a behavior, a conscious choice. What first stirs feelings of love within us for another is recognizing the beauty, the goodness, the specialness that God created within that person. The beauty never changes, that specialness never diminishes. Sometimes we just lose sight of it. Sometimes we focus on a person's behavior; they may be acting angry, depressed, selfish, defensive, sarcastic. It is the behavior that we dislike. But the behavior is not the person. They are two very separate entities. And we need to consciously remeber to keep these entities separate. The reason, then, why we sometimes feel that we have "fallen out of love" is because we choose to focus on that person's behavior (behavior that we may dislike or disapprove of) rahter than on who they are inside. We lose sight of the "E.L.F." within each one of us - The ETERNAL LIFE FORCE, the very ESSENCE of who we are. And that ESSENCE IS GOD. - And GOD IS PURE LOVE. Loving someone means not only feeling love, but also treating that person every day in a loving way. To love someone is care enough about them to do what is best for them, even when the feeling of love is not apparent. This takes a concious effort every day. This is the decision to love. To say "I love you", is easy. - To live "I love you", is not. Relationships are not about being "in love". - Relationships are about being a loving person. To become a loving person is the greatest reward in life. Copyright - 1996 - Janet Pfeiffer, Author |
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