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| Links: (websites I enjoy, nothing really to do with the monthly topics) |
| http://www.howstuffworks.com/ This is an interesting website where you can have fun educating yourself�good website too if you have absolutely nothing to do but want to learn something useful. |
| http://www.bahiker.com/ Excellent website about where to hike around the San Francisco Bay Area. Great description of trails and plenty of pictures. |
| If you have any comments, suggestions, thoughts, etc. about this website, please email me at [email protected] Thank you! |
| http://news.bbc.co.uk/ Good website to news events in different parts of the world. |
| February already? I just barely got used to writing 2004 on my checks. I hope you are doing well so far this month. Thank you for checking my website. This month, the topic is why it's so hard to admit wrong. Lik-See, 02-05-04 In varying degrees, most if not all of us hate to admit when we've done something wrong. Something in us 'naturally' kicks in and becomes defensive, argumentative, deceptive and sometimes even childish when we're confronted with our wrongdoing...saying that alone is not much of an observation. Here's the question: why is this defense mechanism so ingrained in each of us? I'll share more thoughts to this question next month*, particularly to how it may relate to overall life issues, but let me throw this idea out there: we are defensive because we perceive that there is a big gain in not admitting wrong (see Question of the Month below), but have you ever thought about what can be gained when you do admit your wrong? What you gain (or may gain) from admitting when you are wrong: -ability to see your self more realistically - with limitations and faults - not thinking you are better or superior to others. -freedom from the pressure of trying to be inauthentic or phony to yourself or others. -less insecurity and worry about what others think of you. -clearer path to correct your wrongs by first admitting you've done something wrong, instead of justifying or running away from it. -clearer path to correct your actions by being honest to those who may be able to help you correct your wrong. -freedom from guilt; a clear conscience. -ability to see who your 'true' friends are, those who accept you, inspite of your faults. |
| WHY THIS WEBSITE EXISTS: To share and stimulate thought and insight on life issues we can relate to. |
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| Quotes: Men occasionally stumble over the truth, but most of them pick themselves up and hurry off as if nothing ever happened. -- Winston Churchill Admitting errors clears the score and proves you wiser than before. -- Arthur Guiterman The purpose of quotes on this website is to provoke thought and may or may not be an endorsement of the person being quoted and his or her beliefs. |
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| Question of the month: What factor makes you the most defensive or unwilling to admit when you've done something wrong? If I admit that I'm wrong, then: a) People I like or want to like me will look down on me. b) I will feel bad or worse about myself, if my faults and weaknesses get out in the open. c) I'll come across as weak, not strong. People out there are just ready to make you look stupid and foolish for being weak. d) I can't change who I am, even if I am wrong, so what's the point of admitting it? It'll just depress me and give me an unnecessary guilt trip. e) I feel that people in general don't accept me if they know my faults and weaknesses. f) Other factors |
| General Note: just to let you know, I'll put a new topic each month. This means I'll update this website once a month, usually at the beginning of the month. Sometimes, I'll add new things mid-month. Click here for *archive* to past website/topics. |
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| LSC's basement: For this month, here's another one of my favorites: in terms of a car, I really like the 2004 Acura TSX. On another note, I'll plan to start a new section in March, which will be an on-going list of my pet peeves...stay tuned. |
| http://photosbymartin.com/index.htm This website contains beautiful pictures of different places in the world. |
| You know you hate to admit when you're wrong when you: 1) enjoy and spend too much time criticizing and complaining about other people's faults. 2) respond to someone who points out your wrong behavior or action with extreme silence or extreme shouting. 3) when you defend yourself by lying. 4) when you defend yourself by lying and don't care that you lied. 5) joke around too much because you hate to deal with serious issues, i.e., admitting and correcting your faults and wrong. I'll add 5 more to this list next month. Lik-See, 02-05-04. |
| *Note: I'll do the same topic for March, with additional and new thoughts on why it's hard to admit wrong. |
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