| My SUBCONCIOUS WANTS AND DESIRES THAT DRIVE My CHOICES AND ATTITUDE: * You tend to be a traditionalist, and you will enjoy the social environment best if it is stabel and predictable. You dislike sudden decisions about what to do and where to go, preferring to think things out first. * You tend to be loyal to others. Your loyalty shows in varrious ways including your "staying power" with relationships and activities. * You have the basic need to be supportive of others. You will agree with others even if it is sometimes not what you really want. * You tend to dislike sudden or abrupt changes, You prefer things the way they are. Your motto might be, "if it's not broken, don't fix it." * You prefer a warm, friendly environment, free of conflict and hostility. In that environment you prefer reassurance of envolvement and self worth. * You are a good friend ans always willing to help others you consider to be your friends. You also show strong ties, and will become uncomfortable if separated from your friends for an extended perion. * Because of your leinient and complacent nature, others with fewer scruples may take advantage of you. You could perhaps benefit from greater assertiveness. * Others may precieve you as being undemonstrative and self-controlled. Not wanting to be the center of attention, you generally support others. * You may develope a possitive possessiveness by developing strong attachments; however, you will not be overly involved as some others tend to do. The COMMUNICATION STYLE WITH WHICH i AM MOST COMFORTABLE: * Plan sufficient time to talk and listen * Start with a personal comment to "break the ice." * Move casually/informally * Find areas of common interest and involvement * Leave plenty of time for socializing and relating * Offer opinions and ideas that are stimulating * Offer immediate awards for accomplishments * Show sincere interest as a person * Be stimulating, fun-loving and fast moving * Ask "how" questions to draw out options The NATURAL BEHAVIOR i BRING TO AN INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIP. BODY LANGUAGE, FACIAL EXPRESSION, VERBAL TONE, AND CHOICE OF WORDS WERE COMBINED HERE: * You have a communications style which many people are comfortable with almost immediately. You are sincere, a good listener, not pushy and overall a comfortable person to be near. * In a group you may support the group leader rather than vie for the leadership position yourself. As a result, the group leader will usually appreciate the support you bring. * Others will notice that you are a sincere person about what you say and do. This trait, along with the exellent listening skills, creates an individual whom most people find pleasant to be with and a calming type person. * In communicating with others you may support the mainstream idea rather than trailblazing activities. You may prefer the stable and traditional activities. * You tend to internalize conflict. As a result, if something is bothering you about another person, you may bottle-up feelings and keep them inside. SPACIFIC STRENGHTS and/or PERSONAL CHARACTORISTICS i BRING TO RELATIONSHIPS: * Good at motivating others towards positive goals * Optimistic and tend to make others feel good about themselves * Generally very patient with other people * Very supportive of other people * Tend to be a very calming influence in heated situations * Meet new people easily and tend to make them feel welcome * Usually enthusiastic about activities and planning * Tend to work hard at making sure other people are happy * Tend to enjoy life and share that enjoyment with others * Very sincere in actions and words * Have an exellent sence of humor and tend to see humor in events spontaneously My SUBCONCIOUS NEEDS AND WANTS: * To feel safe and secure in social situations * To feel important but not the leader * Status quo * Partners who practice listening and participation * An audience to perform to and entertain * A support system to help you get things done * No sudden or abrupt changes in the situation * Freedom from any controls or limitations on creativity * Recognition of skills and abilities? * Clear responsibility and clear lines of who makes decisions ? |
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