| LIBRA |
| November 23 - October 22 |
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| Element Air Quality Cardinal Planet Venus Stone Opal Color Pale Blue and Green Animal Turtledove Flower Hydrangea Gift Cooperation Challenge Romantic Fantasy |
| As a Libran you understand balance. It is your gift to be able to understand the subtleties of life. You are the artists of the zodiac - the art of the impressionists is a Libran's dream. By not acknowledging and using your power you waste a lot of time. Your gift of cooperation is not to give up your power. It's to be actively responding with all your power to make something work. Just trying to be a good person must be replaced with making loving decisions even when there is stress involved. Confusion comes when you're learning a karmic lesson. By taking responsibility for your part of the karma, confusion fades and your good mind comes back with the answers you need. Your opposite sign, Aries, has the elements that you need to come into balance. Remember, by nature your male and female qualities are balanced. Libra is not a passive sign. Learning how to make strategies is an important part of your evolvement. You are a warrior of justice and yet you have a tender, compassionate heart. When you know that you are love, then you can make the concrete demands that you so rightly deserve. Libra' Nature Self Your Nature is Airy and Thoughtful You are an air sign, which rules the thinking function. You want everything to add up mentally. As a Libran, you not only have the male attribute of thinking but also the feminine attributes of grace and balance. These two components whirl in a constant dance, creating a highly intelligent objectivity. You naturally understand there are two sides to every situation and you also like to negotiate a resolution. You are very frustrated when your partner isn't as objective as y6u are. Even if your partner is an air sign, you like to duel mentally and you really like to win. Librans want to be right and the truth is you most often are. But you must lighten up or your lover will get turned off. Let someone else win every now and then. The air signs like to relate life experiences to a preconceived framework of ideas. You have a highly developed mind, a sense of fairness, and an appreciation of structure and system. You adhere to principle and have a marked refinement in everyday life. You believe in justice and are exceedingly objective in everything you do. As a thinker you want all the facts. Oddly this is the sign that has a hard time making decisions. You like to be right but you don't want to enforce it. As a thinker emotions can overwhelm you. Feelings and emotions can't be classified, they aren't logical. This isn't to say that you aren't sensitive, you have very tender feelings. That's why it's easier to stay in your head. In this world of wounded relationships those who know how to relate emotionally are in the minority. Libra' Soul Level The Chinese symbol of the yin, a feminine principle, and the yang, a masculine principle, is ruled by Libra You have seen the symbol many times: a black-and-white circular design that seems to whirl in a timeless dance. Yang, heaven, combines with yin, earth, to create all that comes to be. Your soul is perfectly balanced and it is sacred. It's a personal sense of incompleteness that draws you to a relationship. We are always balancing the ego and the self. It is a constant process. The longing you have for a partner really wants to join with the other half of your own human wholeness. When you are balanced within yourself and the ego has made peace with the soul, you are able to be with someone else and experience joy. Joy is an exultation of spirit and it is always there, waiting for your delight. On the other hand, happiness is fleeting; it is short-lived. If we are pursuing it, we never have it in our hands. As we live our lives we have happy moments, but to really enjoy our lives we must look deep within for a sacred space where we are balanced mentally and emotionally. If the purpose of life is to experience joy, then our goal must be to learn how to move into this peaceful dimension where joy resides. Libra rules soulful acts of balance, yet it takes a leap of faith to bond with another person. You are looking for a sense of being mutually complete. You must have respect for the complexities of others and look for the soul of your commitment, where trust and commitment will weather all challenges and setbacks. When you can go to this space of true understanding, then love isn't such a risk, and you will be better off together than apart. Although your air sign rules commitment, if the pressure is too extreme, you become emotionally pulled apart and bow out. It's hard for you to confront what you don't like, so you either evade or hold back emotionally. One of Libra's gifts is compromise, but it must be without losing decisiveness or personal integrity. When you're indecisive your life becomes so confused it becomes very difficult. Oddly, Libra always has to learn how to have personal relationships. You'll never be really happy on a soul level without a commitment. The answer is to move past the indecision - surrender the outcome and open your heart to the message of your soul. When this happens you magnetically attract just the right one. Armed Yourself From Love Love is what a Libra thinks about, and in your secret heart of hearts, you long for the perfect romance. Fanciful dreams are an important part of their psyche. When a person with qualities that you admire appears and you fall in love, you fall hard. Your opposite sign, Aries, is at play here giving you that spark of interest that gets you moving. As the sign of unity and balance you are naturally open to relationships. Without a partner you feel lost - there is something missing in being alone that you never really fulfil by yourself. Your cohort, Gemini, another air sign, has some of this also; they like to be coupled. Gemini is looking for fun events to share; however, you Librans are much more serious than that - you want soul connection. Libras don't fall in love too easily; you are very discriminating about who is right for you. When someone comes along who is on your vibration, you want to check it out. You instinctively know that two hearts are better than one. Librans never date casually. Many times you are looking for the ring and planning the marriage after the first kiss. That is where the challenge of romantic fantasy begins. You have the right idea in some way; why waste your time on casual dating? You usually know what you need and want in a relationship from day one. You understand that intention is everything. You also know to only date people who are good marriage material, especially ones who are available, and you know that a good rule of thumb is that most people let you know very early in a relationship what their intentions are. The problem is that because you are such a linear thinker you move ahead of the phase you're in and go all the way to commitment after a few successful dates. This type of thinking brings several different scenarios that can ruin the relationship. You go into fantasy and assume that your partner is feeling the same without real spoken verification. You shut down out of fear of rejection and become emotionally frozen; you hide out in your head, wanting to rush into commitment, then hold back until you're too confused to make a decision. There are some Librans who can't make a commitment at all and need professional help. You need to let the relationship unfold on its own, through the normal relationship checkpoints, then the fear goes away. These reactions can be changed when you learn to give up romantic notions in early courtship and let it unfold naturally. This is definitely possible with a Libra. You are a patient and considerate person first of all, but you must learn to be as considerate of yourself as you are of others. Remember, until a relationship is bonded, dating is more about you than anything else. True love is created. There are magic moments in courtship, but true love evolves with time and trust, based on reality. If you want to hurry and shortcut this stage of discrimination, it comes back to haunt you. When you honestly face the humanness - the frailties -of your partner and love him anyway, you really fall in love. A real bond is forged. It's important to say at this time that there are Librans who are such perfectionists that they give up on finding a relationship, yet seldom is a Libran really happy without a commitment of some sort. Your expectations are very high and not many people can fit your picture of what you expect from a mate. When this occurs over and over it is plain to see that your perspective is off. Relationships are created, they don't come fully developed. This creates great unhappiness and needs to be addressed by seeking professional help. When your mind is so programmed by early childhood dysfunctions or you've suffered from a lot of unhappy relationships, it's hard to sort it out by yourself. Your nature is to be happy with a partner. Some of the healing can come from just following the phases of a courtship and understanding where you are. Of course good communication is always the answer. As the lover of the zodiac, you must learn how to hold on to your own identity. Libra rules balance. You are always striving to see what is needed in order to maintain harmony and poise. In this process it's very important for you to realize that wholeness includes yourself. With your adaptable nature and your loving ways you can give too much and throw yourself off balance. The love of peace has an underlying meaning of winning a battle. The battle of integrating your mind with your feelings is a prerequisite to having a good relationship. After this hard-won battle you are equipped to join the battle of the sexes, which is alive and well on earth at this time. Libra wants to see the good and doesn't like to face the disharmony that the vulnerability of love enacts. Yet it is in this very act of love and the stress that it opens up, that our ego is refined with the soul. |
| When Libra Fall In Love When you love someone, that person is lucky indeed, for there is no one who could be more attentive and solicitous than you. You abhor unpleasant things and avoid confrontation when you can. Yet there is a dichotomy here; by being so positive you give the impression of being unaware of what's going on around you. Nothing could be further from the truth. Your mind is like a laser with such piercing insight that you never miss a thing. People matter more to you than facts and data. Your nature is patient and kind; you would do anything not to make waves. It's live and let live in your life. Librans seem to have a deep inner knowing that there is a divine plan in life and that it unfolds moment by moment. Although Libra is an air sign, there is a strong connection with the water element. Venus is exalted in Pisces, a water sign, which signifies unconditional love and compassion. The sea is a symbol of the subconscious workings of the mind, the psyche, and the deep emotional levels. Foam, which is water intertwined with air, represents a soft approach, the blending of form and matter. As a Venusian you have the ability to adapt yourself to ever changing conditions. Venus rules the curves that make the body sensual as well as the arches in architecture that create beauty and harmony. She depicts the power of response and receptivity. In astrology she rules what is most valued, how you give and receive love. Venus rules the attraction of the sexes. Venus is magnetic, and as Venusians you want to love and be loved. You are very alluring. It is the essential core of your being. Everything connected with love and commitment is of interest to you. You love old-fashioned courtship; the flowers, the candy, the movie or theatre tickets - all of these small things mean a lot to you and if someone wants to impress you that person needs to know this about you. And let's not forget good food! Librans are connoisseurs and enjoy the best things in life. Even though you are basically a sagacious thinker, when it comes to love you throw caution to the wind and jump in. You are very romantic and you get caught up in expectations. Slow down and give it the time it needs. Go with the flow; don't project what you want on a relationship until it's had time to unfold naturally. Librans are irresistible to the opposite sex. You know how to charm and when you want to meet someone you are fearless in your approach. Your good mind always has a plan ready. But you must be careful, there is a tendency to let your f imagination run unabated and picture only what you want to see. Cupid's arrows can really get the adrenaline going and good judgment falls by the wayside. Naivet� in relationships creates disappointment. It's funny how fast you can jump into a relationship when you're so slow in making other commitments. Not that you're so easy to please. There is no one on earth who meets your ideals exactly, and rarely does anyone fulfil your expectations. Be sure you look before you leap. Romantic fantasy is a trap. As long as you see what you want to see, you'll be disappointed and pay a sad price for your imaginings. Without the ability to evaluate the situation realistically, you will always be looking for love, lamenting about a lost love, or in a problematic relationship. It is hard for you as a thinking type to trust your instincts, and yet for all that, in your heart of hearts you know that love is worth the risk. There is a natural rhythm to relationships that takes you naturally to commitment, if there is enough compatibility there. Why you vacillate is probably because you are always looking for the perfect one, and there is no such thing. Or this hesitation comes from knowing that you're not perfect either and your lover will surely reject you. You are good at sitting on your side of the fence waiting for your partner to make the first move. Fear of rejection and just plain not knowing how to move forward romantically can ruin a relationship. When emotions come into the picture, they tip your bucket. We humans are all emotional creatures and live our lives through our feelings. This fear of emotion has to be dealt with. Listen to your heart. Learn to express your true feelings - let others know you at your deepest level. You are good at writing. Write a poem or a note for your lover and let it tell your deepest wishes and fears. The words will come and it gets easier after a while to be there for yourself and own your feelings. True love has movement - it must move forward or it stagnates. There is divine order in the universe, and when you are able to get into the flow of this perfect order, you attract everything you need. Trust your ability to make good decisions and all that comes with that. A good marriage between two adults and the intimacy that ensues is a profound stirring of the soul. Yet it's sort of like opening Pandora's box. Often all the things you set great store in before marriage slowly disintegrate. You have no recourse but to honour the mysteries that are in each person's behaviour. Libra is a very profound sign and it is your soul purpose to find the balancing point. Do not be swayed by sentiment. Remember Venus is from the sea, a symbol of emotion, and your intuitive body will support you unerringly if you don't try to interfere with or attempt to control it. With all your consuming interest in love you may come to find out that relationships are basically problematic. A relationship that starts out so well, even after there is a certain amount of surety, can suddenly go south. You may never know why. Even the best of romances have their down time or just end suddenly. We learn more about ourselves in a relationship than we do in any other way. Maybe that is why we have so many of them. We learn more from the ones that don't work. But there is a time when you graduate from trying to make love happen and then your chances go up into the higher percentages of success. You have a fighting chance of creating something lasting when you are mature enough to be honest with yourself. Work on freeing yourself of ambivalence and fantasy. Remember there is no one more loving than you. A good self-image is essential to tolerate the anxieties that a courtship brings for everybody. Sooner or later, good comes to those who do good; joy comes to those who bring humour to others; opportunity comes to those who persist in their dreams. |