Letters From Cutters

Letters From Cutters The purpose of this site is to show people that teen depression is caused primarily by emotionally abusive parents, especially mothers. Please download this book and read it very carefully. Letters from Cutters You can send in your own letter by using this forum http://lettersfromcutters.boards.net/thread/2/letters Thanks, Paul



Jade's Story This isn't easy for me, but I feel I need to share my story with the rest of you. It all started in Mid-November. School wasn't great, and my grades started slipping. I was in a fight with my parents. They were calling me names like "dumbass" and "Nasty Little Bitch" and a few others, and my dad smacked me. I felt like shit, so I ran up to my room, and took out my razon. I made a deep slice in my hip, that bled for a while. But I covered it up, for a week or so, until my problems started again. It got to a point where I was failing, and cutting every night. I was depressed often, and felt it wasn't worth living,. I would have taken my life, but felt it was better if I stayed. Plus I didn't want my loved ones to be sad. So I covered up by wearing baggy pants, and long sleeve shirts, and putting a smile on everyday. But that only made me more depressed inside. I closed myself up from the world, and my only escape was through watching myself bleed. I wanted to tell someone, but didn't. It was my drug, my antidone. My stress reliever, my only escape.So, this went on for about 3 months. Then, a friend from school saw my cuts, and told the guidence councelor. I was called down, and I denyed everything. I got home, and denyed it all agin, to my own mother. Then, my mom saw my cuts, and knew it was true. I now atend therapy weekly, and am trying to stop. I still feel the urge to take out my razor, but I don't, even though I know, it will haunt me forever. -Jade -- Jade's Friend Abby's Reaction This is my story about how I re-acted to Jade's cutting and the things I regret saying. In the beginning of the year, Jade wore bright coloured clothes, and wasn't depressed. I can't tell you when exactly the depression started, but I do think I was a few weeks after the first day of school. When she started wearing all black, and skulls, etc. etc, I thought it was a style. But then she was depressed. I didn't seem to think anything of it. I should have. Jade & I were talking over IM (instant messenger) one night. She informed me that she had inteintionally cut her hip. I was utterly shocked. I turned on my Caps Lock, and was typing messages like: "WHAT? HOW COULD YOU DO THAT TO YOURSELF?" She told me she had just said that to see how I would re-act. I let it go. Things quited down, on my side at least. Jade's story was a bit different. A guess a girl at school found out that Jade had been cutting. Jade informed me during home-room. I immedittly snatched her wrist. Then I was told that she had cut on her hip. I let go. I was informed she was taking counsling, and thought I should stay out of it. But I couldn't stop caring. So I tagged along closely with her in her friends. Asking her if she was okay when she looked depressed. One day during GT (Gifted & Talented) class, she asked me to be her therapist. I agreeded, but took that as a shock. One day I found out that she had made a new cut (after taking therpy from a professinal) and thought about the subject more. I made the site, hoping to let her, and anyone like her deal with it, while cutting, or recovering, or former 'cutters' to talk to others. -- So, you're friend is cutting? (From Abby) I do have a friend that was cutting, Jade. I can't really tell you what to do, but I can give you a bit of advice on how to confront a 'cutter' or make em' feel better. -Don't get mad, or yell. That won't make your friend want to talk, nor will it make them feel any better. I made this mistake. I advise you not to. -Ask them if they are ok. If they reply 'no' ask 'what's wrong?' It may be nosy, but it does show concern. Note from Paul- Try asking "How Ok" they are, from zero to ten. Then if they say something kind of low like 6 ask "Why 6?" This tends to give more and better information than just are you ok. Cuz for one thing, lots of people will say Yeah when they really are not "ok". -Let them lean on you. Be there. This is probably the best thing you can do. ~Abby Aug 2014 I tried to contact Jade and Abby but got this.. A message that you sent could not be delivered to one or more of its recipients. This is a permanent error. The following address failed: "cuttinginfo at yahoo.com":
From Paul Here is some advice on choosing friends Are they a good listener? Do they give u hugs? Do you trust them at a very high level? Do they believe it is important to tell an adult / teacher etc that you cut? If they do then I recommend you be very careful in what you tell them.
What makes a good listener... Please send your suggestions to jps14 at gmx.com
Suggestions from Paul When Trying to Help a Friend Don't debate with them. Don't argue with them. First, it takes energy to debate, argue, fight, defend yourself. When you are depressed you just don't have that energy. Second, by debating/arguing your friend is not gonna feel understood. You want them to feel UNDERSTOOD by u. That is WAY more important than them understanding whatever you are trying to convince them of.
My name is ____. I'm 14 years old, 15 on the 31st of May... I've been reading your website, for about 3 or 4 months; thinking about whether I should write to you guys or not. I decided that I should, I need help, emotional support, but first I need help understanding myself on the inside. I've been self harming, trying to commit suicide and in low moods, I have no one to talk to... I told my best friend that I self harm just so I knew there was someone to trust, but she went and told the teachers in school and they called my parents and my parents were really angry, they beat me and shouted at me. Is it wrong what I do? I used to do it on my arm but since the school found out I've got to speak to a guidance Councillor but I never tell her what the truth is because if I told her I still self harm or my parents beat me or I'll be taken to a mental hospital. I do it on my legs now, it's really painful but that's what I like. The pain. I deserve it, I've got two brothers; I've always wanted a sister, a girl in the house? Someone who'd maybe understand me, or try to. I can't trust anyone, last time I self harmed was two days ago, the cuts were quite deep and it was even more painful that usual because I already had cuts on there, I've got more than 1,000 cuts and scars on my body... I've counted every time I cut. I don't know what to say really I've tried to kill myself about 8 times but the closest I've got to death is passing out and being in hospital... I've stopped eating normally, I'm avoiding everyone but not on purpose just because people are happier when I'm not there. I've lost my friends and now my family, I've be dragged into a totally different world. It's weird, this feeling of emptiness and isolation. I'm scared to say something to someone because they'll think I'm being an attention seeker. I get attention sometimes, but not the good kind, life's just like one big nightmare and I can't wait until it's over. I feel so alone, so empty I wish that killing yourself was not so hard because I'd do it... I'm sorry...