.:tests results:.

------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------

"E" stands for Extroversion.

Extroversion is an attitude in which interest, value and meaning are attached primarily to external objects. Inner matters are habitually not valued or are difficult for the extrovert. Extroversion is the opposite of Introversion.

"S" stands for Sensation.

One of Jung's four psychic functions (Thinking, Feeling, Sensation, and Intuition). Sensation means that the internal and external world is perceived through the five senses. Sensory types focus on the present and on concrete information gained from the physical senses.

"F" stands for Feeling.

One of Jung's four psychic functions (Thinking, Feeling, Sensation, and Intuition). Feeling is the ability to make evaluations and judgments based on values. Jung said that the Feeling function is essential for determining whether or not something is agreeable or not agreeable, likable or not likable, important or not important. In this case Feeling is not to be confused with emotions or affect, which cut across all four functions. The Feeling function is the opposite of the Thinking function, which is the ability to make evaluations and judgments based on logical categories and ideas.

"J" stands for Judging.

Judging is a way of making decisions based on various facts. Jung called it a "rational" function in the sense that it compares and contrasts various options. In the case of a Thinking-based Judgment, decisions are based upon the logic of a situation. In the case of a Feeling-based Judgment, decisions are based on the relative values in a situation. People with strong Judging tendencies tend to like for things to be planned and organized.

Year of Release: 1987
Most Memorable Quote: "I love you." --Ronny Cammareri (Nicolas Cage)

Postponement and Avoidance: This is about realizing that you don't have forever to get what you want. This story, illustrated by the movies An Affair to Remember, Sleepless in Seattle and Forever Young, is about the willingness to take a big risk for love and having the faith that things will work out. The hero or heroine must struggle against his or her tendency to avoid intimacy and commitment. The story is tied to the recognition of mortality. People who avoid getting romantically involved often live in the fantasy that they will stay forever young. They won't acknowledge that time is passing, and unconsciously they think that avoiding commitment will keep them from growing old. Others cynically avoid love by believing that everyone else is hopelessly flawed and naive. Avoiders, postponers and cynics share many qualities, most notably living as if time is suspended.

In the end, finding the courage to love is more likely to give us a feeling of immortality because it makes us feel connected, and through that connection we will always live on in the people we have loved. In contrast, people who avoid commitment usually discover they've lost their lives because they have watched the important experiences from the sidelines, and their lives have gone by unlived.

And just for fun, three more lines from learn-to-love movies that we all enjoyed:

"Destiny is something we've invented because we can't stand the fact that everything that happens is accidental." --Annie, played by Meg Ryan Sleepless in Seattle

"Maggie, when you grow up and are incredibly beautiful and intelligent and possess a certain sweetness that's, that's like a distant promise to the brave, to the worthy, could you please not beat to a pulp every miserable bastard that comes your way simply because you can? Could you not do that?" --Jack Taylor played by George Clooney in
One Fine Day (1996)

"Michael ... I love you. I've loved you for nine years, I've just been too arrogant and scared to realize it, and, well, now I'm just scared. So, I realize this comes at a very inopportune time, but I really have this gigantic favor to ask of you. Choose me. Marry me. Let me make you happy. Oh, that sounds like three favors, doesn't it?" --Julianne "Jules" Potte played by Julia Roberts in
My Best Friend's Wedding (1997)

Congratulations! Your relationship is healthy, and you know it -- because you work hard at making it so. You are honest, communicate clearly and are self-confident -- the ingredients of a successful marriage or long-term relationship. No one's perfect, and you can admit that about yourself AND cut your mate some slack when he makes a mistake

Logical or Sensible love involves partners who see their relationship in a practical way and express their love in a commonsense manner. Led more by their heads than their hearts, they share interests and life goals. The upside: Every relationship needs common goals and commitments. The downside: In the long run, love is neither logical nor sensible.

Friendship love means that you put emphasis on friendship in a loving relationship and would probably find your lover to also be your closest friend. The upside: Every relationship needs good communication and moments of deep personal sharing. The downside: Even the best of friends have to keep the passion alive.

Other-Directed or a Thou-Focused love is a love that is centered on your partner's happiness, your respect for him or her, and your ability to endure and overcome obstacles in a relationship. The upside: Every relationship needs respect. The downside: You don't want to be a clingy lover or inspire someone to depend on you too much.

You are the uber-romantic. To you the world is one big Harlequin novel -- or it should be. You love, love, love all the romantic accoutrements: flowers, candy, moonlit dances, poetry and more. Not for you is the notion that once a couple settles in, it's okay if their life together becomes routine. Rather, your view is that lovers should always aim to keep a "snap, crackle and pop" in their relationship.

This is wonderful in the sense that you will never take a man for granted. You will always wear sexy undies to bed, plan special surprises for his birthday and harbor a yen for intimate conversations by candlelight.

This is not so wonderful in the sense that you have a tendency toward idealizing love. Remember that you really need to get to know a person before you proclaim to him, and the world, that the two of you are soul mates. And once you're a unit, don't expect your partner to always be in the mood to put on a "show" for you (with candies, presents, etc.) He is not Super Romantic Man (sorry, but no man is -- except, occasionally, on the Hollywood big screen). Sometimes he just wants to watch TV, grab fast food (versus a gourmet meal) or chill by himself in the den. This doesn't say anything bad about you or your relationship. It's a statement that he feels comfortable enough in the relationship to be himself. Now isn't that romantic?

Which Goddess Are You?

Each of us has aspects of all seven goddesses in her personality. Some women may have more Demeter than Athena, some more Aphrodite than Hera. But to achieve a healthy balance we all need to integrate characteristics of each of the goddesses into our lives. By identifying the qualities of the goddesses in yourself, you can recognize needs you have left unfulfilled; by attending to those needs, you can become happier and more self-confident.

Note: Scores are rounded to one decimal place and therefore may not total 100%

You scored 25% Hera
If you possess many of Hera's qualities, you tend to find fulfillment in relationships and look on marriage as a permanent union. In marriage, you feel no sense of frustration or resentment, because you are an equal partner with your spouse. You are confident and have no trouble asserting your authority in and out of the relationships. You seek men who are self-confident and successful, because you are comfortable with the concept that you can be fulfilled through him (and him through you). As long as your partner honors the marriage as much as you do and appreciates you, you will be happy. If he doesn't, you must concentrate on your own growth and discover an identity independent of him.

You scored 25% Aphrodite
If you are ruled mostly by Aphrodite, your femininity and passionate spirit are the controlling forces in your life. You tend to be charismatic and self-assured, comfortable with your body and unrestrained sexually. Men are drawn to you like bees to flowers, which satisfies your erotic nature. However, you tend not to form permanent attachments with lovers because you value your sexual freedom, which may leave you feeling lonely and even depleted once a relationship ends. To find and form a more lasting relationship, you need to add more of the goddess Hera to your life.

You scored 16.7% Hestia
If you embody the qualities of Hestia, you understand the value of having your own sacred place, whether it's an actual room or simply a time of day when you free your mind of busy thoughts and experience peace of mind. There's no doubt this place is at home -- where you feel the most joy. Home is your sanctuary. You are at home with yourself wherever you are, though, and no matter whom you are with. You know that the meaning of your life springs from your spiritual center. This brings you a great sense of security. You do not crave attention or material possessions; you nurture your friends and family with your unconditional love.

You scored 16.7% Persephone
If you exemplify the qualities of Persephone, you have most likely experienced great loss in your life -- the loss of your health or your emotional or physical security, the betrayal of a friend or lover, the loss of a child, your own divorce or that of your parents. This experience has forced you to face the dark, unenlightened side of yourself (the side that blames other people or circumstances for your own suffering) and transform yourself into a stronger, more independent, more accepting and more loving person. It may have also led you down a spiritual path, and moved you to place great emphasis on inner calm and on close connections with friends. You are capable of embracing, integrating and accepting difficult experiences. Because of that skill, you offer others the gift of empathy -- you know where they are or have been.

You scored 8.3% Artemis
If you are ruled by Artemis, your independent spirit belongs to no one but yourself. Your body is vibrant, your attitude robust and your manner vigorous and alive. You are driven by physical rather than mental energy. You feel complete without a man in your life and would never compromise your essential nature for a romantic partner. You are skilled at establishing personal boundaries and enter into relationships on your own terms -- in short, you can take care of yourself. This attitude may at times put men off. But if what you're looking for is an equal, loving relationship, take some tips from Hera.

You scored 8.3% Athena
If you are ruled by Athena, you are bright-eyed, shrewd, resourceful and inventive. With friends, you are the wise counselor -- always ready with an empowering message. You are believe strongly that women can accomplish anything men can. No wonder you put so much time into your career. Athena women tend to be ruled by their head, not by their heart. You carefully guard your intimate side, protecting your emotions and vulnerability. If you want to awaken your unexpressed womanliness, you'll have to use the same passion you apply to your intellectual achievements. It's important that you work to integrate your strong masculine side with your feminine side -- bringing together your strength with your vulnerability, your creativity with caring, your intelligence with imagination. Otherwise, you risk coming off as unaffectionate and self-righteous.

You scored 0% Demeter
If you fit the Demeter archetype, you are a nurturer and caretaker. You have a generous heart and enjoy extending your love to others. You are motivated by the most powerful of instincts -- to give life -- and selflessly devote yourself to the life you create. You feel compelled to care for all those around you, even if they are not your own children. In short, you feel the need to be all things to all people and, therefore, your own needs sometimes go unmet. You must learn to say no, and apply Artemis's sense of boundaries and Aphrodite's ability to put herself first. That way, you can give to others from an overflowing rather than a half-full cup.

ARE YOU WEDDING OBSESSED?

RESULT:

WISE WEDDING PLANNER [97-14 points]

sure, you're excited about slipping into a white dress one day, but you aren't exactly sprinting to the altar. "you have high self-esteem and good perspective", says Wolf. "you know there's time to find Mr. Right, so you're able to be happy for other people at the wedding stage without grumbling to yourself, "Why isn't that me?" Of course, you may occasionally fantasy-plan, but you do it realistically, not because you're pining for a reception worthy of the Lifestyle Network. Ironically, it's your nuptial nonchalance that makes you a prime candidate for proposals. "If you give off the honest impression that you don't need a husband to validate yourself, it makes men more drawn to you," says Wolf.

ARE YOU CONCEITED? (OR JUST CONFIDENT?)

RESULT:

LEVEL-HEADED [17-23]

You've managed to be confident without being cocky. You can show off your assets without an in-your-face attitude, and you know there are some areas in your life that could use some work. but that's okay, nobody's perfect.

.:NEXT:.