All About Love
submitted by: Dennis Ting
Somebody once told me that finding the right
person is very hard and very wrong. It is best to be the right person for the
one you love and start from there. You'll always end up disappointed when you
set standards and define a "right person" for you. And don't rush things 'coz
somewhere, somehow God is preparing somebody for you.
You can never be perfect, the person you love can never be perfect. But both of
you can be perfect through love and prayers, and your love can be perfect
through the two of you. But, no relationship is complete without God -- that is
why we have marriage. It's a bond not only between you and your loved one but
also with God.
Our relationships fail not because (s)he's not the right person - it's because
we expected too much and we decided on our own. Let God do the work. You may
call it "waiting time" but while you are waiting... pray. Let God guide you
always. He knows better.... No, He knows best.
Love is not what you think it is. Sometimes we mistakenly feel that our first
relationship will be our last. Because we are overwhelmed with joy and romance,
we forget to learn the meaning of true love.
Some are saying that love is unselfish, blind, unconditional or simply denying
one self for the sake of someone very important in our life. Others are saying
love is immortal and can never be defined.
When we think we're in love, the first thing we almost wanted the whole world to
know is that our love for someone very special can never be taken away from us.
We say this phrase: "You are the most wonderful gift from GOD I have ever
received!" But after a terrible fight or sometimes even a petty quarrel we then
say: "You are the biggest mistake I've ever made in my entire life!" Now, how do
you say and spell the word L-O-V-E? Are you really deeply into it?
Nobody can tell what love really is until experience speaks and whispers right
into our ears. Most of the time, these love promises like "Forever", "Till Death
do us apart", etc. would end up "Never", "We should part ways...", "I'm no
longer happy with you", "My love for you is DEAD!" Many times after having
committed to someone and your trust to one another freezes down to zero
degree,we thought: "He/She ain't the right one. I should probably wait for the
right one to come." But the big question anyone could not answer is "Is he/she
the right one?" and "When is the right time?" That makes us stick to whom we are
with.
Will you always be waiting for the right person to come and the right time to
commit? A big YES is the answer. Don't be in a hurry to get into a relationship
because you can never find love if you insist that you are already into it. Try
to find time to really understand your real feelings, to know who you really
are, and what you really want in a relationship. There is no such thing as a
perfect relationship, but there's a compatible partnership that goes along with
it.
If you already knew that you're too big to fit into a small sized t-shirt, don't
give it a try. You'll probably break it and pay for the damages you have made.
If you knew and felt that the relationship will not last, don't go deeper into
it. You'll just suffer the consequences and live like hell the rest of your
life. It's really hard to say goodbye though, but you can't make it any better
by just pretending you still have the same feelings. Try to let go and give
yourself a chance to live life to the fullest. Give yourself a chance to grow
and give your heart a much needed attention. Then you will find that you have
made the right decision and you made it all by yourself. More fluently than not,
we all act in a hypocritical manner for some reason.
We call it love when we can't leave someone and see them crying as we try to let
go. We are wrong, its just pity.
We call it love when we're too attached and think that losing the one we love
will somehow make us weak and unable to face the storms of life. We
misunderstood, its just that we're too much dependent to them.
We call it love when we give our whole life to them, the wholeness of us and
imagined that if they leave, no one would accept us and our past. We are
mistaken, its just insecurity. But no matter what the definition is, the truth
still remains that love isn't something you can buy nor beg. It is real and
existing. You can't touch it but you can feel it in your heart. You can't find
it, but it will knock before you when you least expect it to come. It can make
you the happiest soul in heaven, but don't forget that it also can make you the
most miserable person in the whole galaxy