YanZi's Message
Title: For Better Or Worse
hallo,
I just came back from a trip with 4 of my girlfriends of 12 years. As expected, it was filled with non-stop shopping and feasting and shopping and pigging.
It is one thing to see each other over a lunch or dinner, it's another, to spend 4 days, all 24 hours of each, being with one another. Naturally, we had our differences. We had differences in food, in clothes, in "what the room temperature should be", how we should spend the afternoon, how long we should tan, what time we should wake up....
On one particular shopping excursion, we decided to break into different groups and meet up after an hour.
W: "Good thing we split up, I think we were looking at really different things."
Turns out the 'gorgeous' mock-croc clutch bag was, "not very practical, I can hardly put my wallet in but thanks anyway guys!" She ends up with a bag she feels pressurized to carry when we go out together next time.
When we assume that what we have is better than what another person has, should we try to change their mind? Should we try to tell them that their 'precious' is "dull and uninspiring" and that they are NOT better off when in fact, their senses tells them that they are? Who is better off?
Say if I hate durians, and someone tells me I'm missing out because they are sweet and fragrant. Am I still missing out if I think they are gross? (FYI: I like durians)
A not so recent article wrote that the Africans, though having marginally less material comforts than most developed countries, were happier people. Who is better off?
Something for you guys to chew on.
see u later alligators.
Love
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