SCA Customs and Courtesies

1) This is a generalized view on Customs & Courtesies from an Atlantian’s
   point of view
   a)  SCA Customs and Courtesies are medieval interactions with modern human
       beings.
       i)  While some traditions are trying follow medieval examples, often
           the way someone will react will be with a modern thought process.
   b)  Forms of address have been given in an easier to remember format
       however, they are not the only way.
   c)  Different Kingdoms have different customs
       i)  Sumptuary laws
           (1)  Period practice-during the Elizabethan age there were laws
                stating only people of certain rank could wear certain types
                of cloth or certain types of regalia.
           (2)	Atlantia doesn’t have any other than those specified by Copora.
                (a)  Copora only specifies regalia for Peers, Royal Peers,
                     Baronage. 
                (b)  Atlantian customs
                     (i)  Atlantia follows many of the generic SCA wide
                          customs, unofficially.  Meaning if you wear X, it's
                          going to be ASSUMED you're a __________.
                     (ii)  Officially, we haven’t any sumptuary laws; there
                           won’t be any either.
(2) Who’s who and how do you recognize them
   a)  Lord/Ladies
       i)  How to recognize one
           (1)  Can wear a plain circlet of silver or gold metal worn around
                the head.
       ii)  What to call them
            (1)	When speaking to one/ about one
                (a)  Lord ___________
                (b)  Lady ___________
       iii)  THL vs Lord/Lady
             (1)  The Honorable Lord / Lady is someone who has a Grant of Arms.
             (2)  Still referred to as Lord / Lady
             (3)  Can wear a circlet with a stone in front of band
   b)  Baron/Baroness
       i)  How to recognize one
           (1)  Coronet with either six “pearls” around the top or six stones
                set around the band.
           (2)  Some versions of Baronial coronets are very...unique.
       ii)  What to call them
            (1)	 When speaking to one
                 (a)  Your Excellency
            (2)	 When speaking about one
                 (a)  Baron(ess)_________, Their/His/Her Excellency
   c)  Count / Countess
       i)  How to recognize one
           (1)  Coronet with embattled top edge (like a chess rook). 
       ii)  What to call them
            (1)  When speaking to one
                 (a)  Your Excellency
            (2)	 When speaking about one
                 (a)  Count(ess)________, Thier/His/Her Excellency.
                 (b)  Yes, there is often confusion between references to
                      Counts/Barons.     
       iii)  Earl / Jarl / Yorl / Grafin / Etc.
             (1)  Different ways of saying Count(ess) for different cultures.
   d)  Duke/Duchess
       i)  How to recognize one
           (1)  Coronet with clusters of three strawberry leaves around the
                band.
       ii)  What to call them
            (1)	 When speaking to one
                 (a)  Your Grace
            (2)	 When speaking about one
                 (a)  Duke / Duchess _________, Their/His/Her Grace
       iii)  There are other ways to say Duke or Duchess depending on the
             culture His/Her Grace's persona is from.  Usually they'll let you
             know how to say it.
   e)  Laurels
       i)  How to recognize one
           (1)  Usually a medallion of a laurel wreath worn about the neck.
                (a)  Very stylized toward the particular Laurel
           (2)  Sometimes a Roman style laurel wreath worn around the head.
           (3)  Sometimes a cape with a laurel wreath on the back.
       ii)  What to call them
            (1)  When speaking to one/ about one
                 (a)  Master
                 (b)  Mistress / Dame
                 (c)  Again, depending on the persona's culture/country they
                      may choose to use another way to say Master/Mistress.
   f)  Pelicans
       i)  How to recognize one
           (1)	Usually a medallion of a “pelican in her piety worn about the
                neck.
                (a)  Looks like a bird pecking at her chest to draw drops of
                     blood to feed her young gathered around her.
           (2)  Sometimes a cloak with the Pelican badge on the back.
       ii)  What to call them
            (1)	 When speaking to one/ about one
                 (a)  Master
                 (b)  Mistress / Dame
                 (c)  Other alternative as culturally correct.
   g)  Knights
       i)  How to recognize one
           (1)  White belt
           (2)  Unadorned gold chain
           (3)  Spurs
                (a)  Members of the equestrian guild wear spurs too, but
                     they're usually just prick spurs without rondelles
       ii)  What to call them
            (1)  When speaking to one/ about one
                 (a)  Sir
                 (b)  Dame
   h)  Prince and Princess
       i)  How to recognize one
           (1)  Learn to recognize the appropriate crowns
                (a)  Flat silver bands, smaller shells, no stones 
           (2)  Learn to recognize the faces
                (a)  Watch for almost everyone bowing to them as they go by.
       ii)  What to call them
            (1)  When speaking to one
                 (a)  Your Highness
            (2)	When speaking about one
                 (a)  Prince/ Princess __________
                 (b)  Thier Highnesses, His Highness, Her Highness
   i)  King and Queen
       i)  How to recognize one
           (1)  Crowns-too many to try to describe
           (2)  Everyone bowing to them as they go by, trailed by several
                ladies-in-waiting and guards
           (3)  Learn to recognize the faces
                (a)  Cover of the Acorn sometimes has a picture of some
                     sort of the new King and Queen.
                (b)  Look for posts to the Merry Rose for pics from Crown
                     Tourney.
       ii)  What to call them
            (1)  When speaking to one
                 (a)  Your Majesty
            (2)  When speaking about one
                 (a)  King / Queen ____________
                 (b)  Their Majesties, His Majesty, Her Majesty
   j)  Students
       i)  Highly individual methods of recognition, often up to what the Peer
           wants to do.
       ii)  Squires
            (1)  Can wear red belts
                 (a)  Some Knights have their squires wear spurs or silver
                      chains
                 (b)  Often wear tabards that are similar, but not exactly the
                      same as their Knight's.
       iii)  Apprentices
             (1)  Can wear green belts
       iv)  Protégés
            (1)  Can wear gold belts
3) Proper greetings
   a)  "Reverence" generally means some way of showing respect to those higher
       in rank than yourself.  There are a lot of ways to do this depending on
       cultures/customs, etc.
   b)  Always reverence to the person of highest rank first
       i)  When approaching someone of higher rank than you, you reverence
           first, they may or may not acknowledge you.
           (1)  Often not out of rudeness, just they are very busy or very
                distracted.
   c)  People you bow/ curtsey to if you’re Lord John Q Public:
       i)  King/ Queen
       ii)  Prince/Princess
       iii)  Baron/Baroness who’s lands you’re in
       iv)  Dukes/ Duchesses
   d)  Bowing
       i)  Done by males, male personas, females when not wearing skirts or
           dresses.
   e)  Curtsying
       i)  Done by females
       ii)  Hard to do when not wearing a skirt or dress so bowing will be
            fine. 
   f)  Pecking order
       i)  King/Queen
       ii)  Landed Baronage in their barony
       iii)  Prince/Princess
       iv)  Dukes/Duchesses
       v)  Counts/Countesses 
       vi)  Other Landed Baronage
       vii)  Peers/Court Baronage
       viii)  THL
       ix)  Lord/Ladies
   g)  Stand when King/Queen or Baronage holding the land you’re currently in
       walk into a room or if they walk close to you.
4) Avoiding mundanities
   a)  It helps make the general atmosphere of the event feel more medieval.
       i)  Soda cans
       ii)  Stereos that are out in the open or especially playing mundane
            music
       iii)  Smoking when requested not to
       iv)  Mundane clothing when you really should have garb on.
            (1)  Different feelings on this subject, some say as soon as you
                 arrive.  In general right after you troll is best.
            (2)  Bring scut garb for set-up/ Friday night.  Who cares how nice
                 your garb is.
5) Social no-no’s
   a)  Cursing loudly in public
   b)  Anything usually not acceptable in public
       i)  Farting
       ii)  Belching
       iii)  Picking bodily orifices
       iv)  Blowing your nose without a tissue
       v)  Chewing tobacco
       vi)  Use your imagination
   c)  Even though there aren’t actual sumptuary laws, if you wear a piece of
       regalia above your station you’ll get anything from a polite “You
       shouldn’t do that” to someone chewing your hiney out.
   d)  Not showing proper respect for those above you.
6) Respect for Ladies
   a)  Give a lady your seat if none are available
   b)  Opening doors
   c)  Offer to carry items for her, wait for her to accept the offer.
   d)  Kissing of hands
       i)  NO TONGUE!!!
       ii)  Don’t slobber on the poor woman
   e)  Serving ladies first at feast
   f)  Escorting ladies
       i)  You are acting as bodyguard, while very rare there have been
           occasions where a lady was taken advantage of, especially if she
           was very inebriated at the time.  Your job is to get her from point
           A to point B in one piece, safely.
   g)  For the ladies
       i)  A male showing you courtesy isn’t saying you’re weak or ineffective
           or that they want sex.
       ii)  Show some grace and let them help you
       iii)  If you absolutely don’t want help just use a firm, but polite “no
             thank you”
7) Getting friendly or Not
   a)  Don’t touch unless person lets you know you can
       i)  Many people in the SCA are very “huggy”
       ii)  Don’t assume because the past 20 people don’t mind contact that
            the 21st won’t either.
   b)  Gossip either giving or receiving
       i)  Old ties are not always obvious-unless you’ve been around a while
           you may not know if the person you’re talking to is a friend of the
           gossip victim or not.
       ii)  Old mistakes last forever in the SCA.  All it takes it one person
            to remember you spread rumors about someone to bite you in the
            backside in the future.
8) Court etiquette
   a)  If you’re watching a court-Baronial or Kingdom
       i)  Rise when Presence walks down aisle
           (1)  Bow/ Curtsey as they walk by you
           (2)  Sit when the court herald tells you to
       ii)  Keep conversations to a low whisper
       iii)  Try not to be obvious about distractions
             (1)  We all realize sometimes you go to court just to go and if
                  you don’t recognize anyone getting awards it can get boring.
             (2)  It’s all right to entertain yourself if you do it very
                  subtlety.
                  (a)  Such as not if you’re in the first 4-5 rows.
       iv)  Vivats
            (1)	We use it to sort of mean congratulations
            (2)	Shouted in sets of three
                (a)  After someone gets an award
                (b)  At the end of court
                (c)  The proper plural of "vivat" is "vivant" not "vivats"
   b)  If you’re called into court
       i)  Herald calls your name
           (1)  Disarm yourself if you haven’t been given an AOA yet.
       ii)  Walk down aisle
            (1)  Stop where rows of seats end
       iii)  Bow or curtsey
             (1)  Reverence to the highest ranking first, then the next
                  highest, and on down the line to everyone seated up front.
       iv)  Approach Persons
       v)  Kneel on cushions provided
           (1)  If herald didn’t specify which to kneel in front of look at
                both Majesties and subtly signal your questioning who to kneel
                in front of.
           (2)  The cushions are there for people to kneel on, regardless of
                how pretty they are, that's their function in court.
           (3)	When you can’t
                (a)  Medical conditions causing pain or dizziness
                     (i)  Bad knees / hips/ back
                     (ii)  Pregnancy
                     (iii)  Recent surgery
                (b)  Request permission to stand
                     (i)  Speak in a low voice directly to Their Majesties/
                          Excellencies; make it very brief.  They don’t need to
                          know how long you’ve had a problem or why.
                     (ii)  This is a hobby, worsening your medical condition
                           not needed or impressive.
       vi)  Talk with Persons
            (1)	Thank them for award
       vii)  Stand up when dismissed
       viii)  Walk backward
              (1)  Stop where rows of seats start
       ix)  Bow/ curtsey
       x)  Turn and walk back to seat
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