I have been thinking about your problem and, though I don't have any experience with it, I would like to make a suggestion. This is my philosophy and it has worked well for me in other situations:
                             When you can't change the situation, change your attitude
    Now, in your case, if you can't convince your husband to get some help, why not reconsider your position on sleeping in separate rooms. Is it really that important where you do your sleeping? This is not to say you don't spend time together at bedtime - tuck him in, hug, kiss, make love, all the things you normally do together in bed. But, when it's time to sleep, slip off to another room.
    Make that room your sanctuary - fill it with the things you love, paint it pink, add ruffles if you like. Make it as inviting as that vacation spot you dream about. You should have no regrets about going there to get your sleep.
    And, if either of you wake up missing the other, sneak off for a midnight rendez-vous. Could be pretty exciting couldn't it?
    Separate bedrooms doesn't have to be a big deal. Don't let a wall between you cause a wall between you!

Lana Byorne ([email protected])
Author, HOW TO GET MORE SEX