RELATIONSHIPS
There are some people in your life that need to be loved from a distance. It`s amazing what you can accomplish when you let go of or
at least minimize your time with draining, negative, incompatible,
not-going-anywhere relationships.
Observe the relationships around you. Pay attention. Which ones lift
and which ones lean? Which ones encourage and which ones discourage?
Which ones are on a path of growth uphill and which ones are going
downhill? When you leave certain people do you feel better or feel
worse? Which ones always have drama or don`t really understand, know,
or how appreciate you? The more you seek quality, respect, growth, peace of mind, love and truth around you...the easier it will become for you to decide who gets to sit in the front row and who should be moved to the balcony.
An African proverb states, "Before you get married, keep both eyes
open, and after you marry, close one eye." Before you get involved and
make a commitment to someone, don`t let lust, desperation, immaturity,
ignorance, pressure from others or a low self-esteem make you blind to the warning signs. Keep your eyes open, and don`t fool yourself that you can change someone or that what you see as faults aren`t really that important.
Once you decide to commit to someone, over time their flaws, vulnerabilities, pet peeves, and differences will become more obvious. If you love your mate and want the relationship to grow and evolve, you`ve got to learn how to close one eye and not let every little thing bother you. You and your mate have many different expectations, emotional needs, values, dreams, weaknesses, and strengths.
You are two unique individual children of God who have decided to share a life together. Neither one of you are perfect, but are you perfect for each other? Do you bring out the best in each other? Do you compliment and compromise with each other, or do you compete, compare and control? What do you bring to the relationship? Do you bring past relationships, past hurt, past
mistrust, past pain? You can`t take someone to the altar to alter them. You can`t make someone love you or make someone stay. If you develop self- esteem, spiritual discernment, and "a life" you won`t find yourself making someone else responsible for your happiness or responsible for your pain.
Manipulation, control, jealousy, neediness, and selfishness are not
the ingredients of a thriving, healthy, loving and lasting relationship. Seeking status, sex, and security are the wrong reasons
to be in a relationship. What keeps a relationship strong?
1. Communication
2. Intimacy
3. A sense of humor
4. Sharing household tasks
5. Some getaway time without business or children
6. Daily exchanges (a shared activity, meal, a hug, a call, a touch,a note)
7. Sharing common goals and interests
8. Giving each other space to grow without feeling insecure, giving each other a sense of belonging and assurances of commitment
9. Asking God to be the center of your relationship!
If these qualities are missing, the relationship will erode as resentful, withdrawal, abuse, neglect, dishonesty and pain "WILL"
replace the passion."
Reach high, for stars lie hidden in your soul.
Dream deep, for every dream precedes the goal.
Work like you don`t need money, Love like you`ve never been hurt, And dance like no one`s watching.
anonymous...
I�ve been told from jump that the devil is a liar well then shit u were his incarnate
How do u explain being able to look into my eyes and profess undying love then turn around and say the same to the next bitch
How do u explain my overlooking of your faults in the sake of love
To only have u throw mine in my face
U told me time and time again, u never knew of such a real love
Next I hear, u feeling the same thing with another
I never knew love could be so interchangeable
Least of all I didn�t think u would be the one to break my heart
When I had my doubts, u would say, why can�t u believe in what we have?
I conceded, and now wanna retreat it, all the time invested in you
U would even tack your last name to mine
Can�t believe being fucked in the mind
My heart and soul,
And here I thought I was wrong for wanting some sort of control
Once I let go, it turned out u was jerking me from the start; I never should have let go of my heart
Call me crazy, I even thought of having your baby
I thought if we prayed, �we� would never change, but we obviously had different agendas in mind
I gave it all, and now I want it back
Give me all my tears, all my money, all my time, all my sex, all my hope, I want it all
I don�t know what consumes me more, pain or anger
FUCK YOU
I think its anger this time around
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