hanging by a moment

It's really amusing how all this is effecting me. I hate to be writing so much about relationships in here but it's hard not to, when it's what I'm dealing with off the page.

I hung out with K. and had an interesting talk about our favorite topic: relationships.We talk about characteristics that we look for in prospects. We talk about a lot of people we know...and how there seems to be a lack of real drive. A lot of the people our age are just floating along in life, doing the minimum to end up with the Typical Life. Graduating from college and working are all they ask for. And once they graduate, they're home free. No more learning. No more bettering of yourself because hey, no one's grading you anymore. You no longer have to list any extracurricular interests or resumes on any applications.

I totally agreed. Okay, the majority of my friends are living life to the minimum (let's call them "mini") and I love them. There is nothing wrong with them as individuals and many of them have huge hearts. But when you look for your soulmate, you can't go for the minis if you categorize them as such. If you yourself are a mini, you wouldn't know there was anything called a mini. Someone with low expectations out of life can go for someone with similar low expectations but someone with high expectations can't. There's no challenge...the two in a couple must challenge each other, yet learn from one another.

I don't see myself as a mini, yet it's not like guys are lining up to go after me. "Am I not girly enough? How come guys don't like me?" I asked aloud out of curiosity. He didn't really give a detailed answer, but he said something like "Maybe you have to act like a girl more. Flirt more." Ugh. Not a good answer. But now that I think about it, Mr. Typical Asian (or whatever race) would probably go for the flirtations of Ms. Typical Asian...but that is not who I am, and Mr. Typical is not who I want...so that means I don't have to use the Typical Tactics. Ahh....problem solved.

So yes, my pearls of wisdom for Wednesday, January 16 is to not be a mini, don't be Ms. or Mr. Typical, and always, always "live deep and suck the marrow out of life." Sssllluuuuuurrppp....