Marc was a regular columnist for Gay SA Magazine (1998-1999). Below are three of his published articles
Article
#1 taken from:
GAY SA Magazine
November 1998
Vol.
3
Isuue 16
Johannesburg
South Africa
Let's
look at the pros and cons of getting involved with three different types of men:
The
New Yorker; The Amsterdamer and the Jo-burger!
The
New Yorker: (My birthplace and home for 24
years).
Pros:
- Generally speaking, some of the sexiest men
I've ever encountered. - They tend to have a sophisticated charm with a street
edge which can be quite "cool".
- The New Yorker also has an unfair advantage:
"New York City!" Purely by taking advantage of the city's numerous activities
and venues, he can easily become one of the most exciting dates you've had.
-
Many New Yorkers have a nice sense of humor along with being fairly sensitive
and independent.
- Very P.C. (Politically Correct), and fashion conscious.
They're like an invaluable accessory, suitable for most occassions and functions.
Cons: - Competition is fierce in the city and unless you are having a one-night
stand or dating a man who is 40 or over, your relationship may be short-lived.
- The city is fast paced and attention sspan is short, resulting in rapid loss
and understanding over a small time span.
- Because New York City is a media
culture extraordinaire, many of the personalities are mere imitations of these
media icons and not authentic at all, in which case they can be very phoney.
-
Superficial.
Best Advice: Have little expectations and enjoy the moment
while it lasts.
The Amsterdamer: (My
second home for 3 1/2 years; 1993 - 1996).
Pros:
- If you like
them big, these are your men, (refering to height of course).
- The Amsterdamer
has a comfortable, nonchalant attitude towards sex and sexuality in general. Close
encounters of the sexual kind tend to be less intimidating because of this.
-
The sexual comfort you will most probably find with these men make it more of
a possibility to release inhibitions and indulge in sexual fantasies. You might
otherwise find it embarrassing.
- The Amsterdamer is also one of the most
intelligent and well-rounded of men. Able to talk about anything from politics
to good wine to a good rave and probably able to do so in three different languages.
Cons:
- Drugs are diverse and abundant. Many Amsterdamers overuse them
to the point where if they are not physically addicted to them, they may be emotionally
attached to them for "a fabu1ous night out." The very advantage of the "nonchalant"
sense of sexuality also becomes a disadvantage when trying to have a committed
relationship. Being so care-free can inhibit monogamy.
- Being too emotional
or sensitive may get you into problems. It's a very rationa1 society; science
vs. spirituality, practicality vs. passion, real extacy vs real emotion. Being
too "expressionistic" is viewed with uncertainty and fear. Be on the safe side,
if you're naturally energetic and enthusiastic, tone it down till you have only
half of your energy level. You'll fit it by appearing to be laid back.
- Passion
does not exist, at least not in the "latin" sense of the word. Though it may find
its way often enough in the bedroom, but once outside it quickly regains its senses
and readjust itself into its former self ... practicality.
Best Advice:
"What the hell ... Go Dutch!"
The Jo 'burger: (My
third home for 2 years; (1996 till present).
Pros:
- On the
average, pretty smooth operators.
- Survivors. - Fairly approachable.
- Enigmatic. "Damn that was hard! Could you tell? There's a saying a native Jo'burger
once told me, "The men here, you crazy, they're f****d up!" From my experience
... Yes, it's been difficult, very difficult."
Cons:
- Communication
is lacking.
- Talking about emotions is like talking about "the martian law
of science" ... What's that?(Exactly!)!
- Many gay Jo'burgers have difficulty
accepting their sexuality even to themselves.
- Jo'burg is so small, love
affairs can be downright incestuous.
- Lack of fidelity.
- Not enough
know what they want or maybe they do and just say the opposite.
Best
Advice: "Be careful ... very careful."
In every city I've ever
been in, people are always disturbed by the lack of good, solid partners available,
thinking that the grass is greener on the other side... Wishing you all the right
probability.
marc boone
Article
#2 taken from:
GAY SA Magazine
December 1998
Vol
3
Issue 17
Johannesburg
South Africa
Recently I went to a party.
It was mostly attended by gays and lesbians. The party was disappointing. The
sound system was terrible, so most people were sitting around talking or munching
on food set out on the snack table. So I did what any sensible South African would
do....I headed for the kitchen (that's where all the booze was) and nestled comfortably
in one of the many cliques that had formed.
As the party got progressively
more boring, my clique, which consisted of three other gay men, found ourselves
in a small room with the door closed (to shut out the bad sound system) and talking
among ourselves. We began talking about the 'gay life,' and I told them I wrote
for GAY SA. I suggested doing an interview with all three of them. "About
what?" they asked. "About the gay life, of course," I answered.We
were all a bit drunk in a very good mood and they readily agreed.
THOMAS
is a 32 year old black male. He works as a bank teller.
KEVIN is a 38
year old white male who is a sound engineer for SABC radio station.
VUSI
is a 24 year old black male presently unemployed.
What do you like least
about the Jo'burg gay community?
THOMAS: The bitchiness
and there's hardly any place for gay black men. And it's always the same old faces.
VUSI:
I agree, plus there's the situation that everyone is out to use you, like for
a fast f****, money or a place to stay, whatever they can get out of you. There's
also a lot of hustlers in gay clubs. Oh yeah, there's way too many queens and
not enough kings!
KEVIN: I agree with Vusi about the
hustlers. I get hit on by a lot of black hustlers. They think I'm rich because
I'm white. But I don't agree with Thomas. Gay clubs are not exclusively white
anymore, so he has as many, if not more, venues to choose from as me.
THOMAS:
Yeah, but those clubs you're talking about are geared for white people. It's mostly
rave music which doesn't really appeal to black people.
KEVIN:
Well, music is not my first concern when I go to a club.
VUSI:
Well, right there is the difference between whites and blacks. Music is always
our first concern when clubbing!
KEVIN: Well, my concern is being
around other gay men. But I do have a problem with the extacy and coke going around
in predominantly white clubs. The rave culture seems to depend on it.
Do
you think Jo'burgs gay community will get better?
VUSI:
It has to. It's the most tolerant place in South Africa.
KEVIN:
That's not true, Cape Town is. There are some amazing clubs there.
THOMAS:
Yeah, for whites and coloureds, definitely not for blacks.
So many things
seem to depend on race in South Africa. Would any of you date another race?
THOMAS:
Welcome to the R.S.A. which stands for Racist Society Association. What I'm saying
is that whites have more things to choose from over-all. Even the magazine you
write for is more for whites than blacks. I'm not taking anything away from someone
who got it honestly. But if things are divided, I'm definitely for seperate but
equal....and yes, I would date a white man, but not as easily as a black man,
and more than likely, they'd be a foreigner.
KEVIN: I would and
have dated black men. Even during apartheid.
VUSI: I haven't
but would date a white man.
I think we understand each person's point.
Let's skip over politics and get into something else. I'd like to give this conversation
a different direction. My question is...Which two areas of a man's body excites
you most?
VUSI: His cock and his ass.
THOMAS:
His bum and his nipples.
KEVIN: Thick thighs and a hairy butt.
What
two areas on a man's body excite you least?
VUSI: There
aren't any. Maybe if something's really out of shape or a bit deformed.But overall,
I like all parts of a man's body.
THOMAS: Dirty fingernails or
one long pinky fingernail.
KEVIN: His feet..that's it, I like
everyhting else.
On a scale of 12 inches, how much does the size of
a man's penis matter?
VUSI: For visual effects, I'd say
12 inches.
THOMAS: I'm moreof an ass man, so I'd say about 6
inches.
KEVIN: About 5 inches with a great technique and 9-10
inches with a bad technique.
Do you get emotional satisfaction from
one-night stands?
VUSI: Emotional satisfaction? I thought
it was about getting physical satisfaction!
KEVIN: I guess if
they were sensitive and really seemed to like me, even if it is just one night.
THOMAS:
Yeah, Because it's about the ego.
What's the sexiest thing a man can
wear to turn you on?
KEVIN: Bikini briefs
VUSI:
Thick white socks and nothing else.
THOMAS: Levis 501.
What
would you change about sex if you could?
THOMAS: I'd lengthen
the time of an orgasm to about 30 minutes!
KEVIN: I was going
to say something else, but that sounds great!
VUSI: I agree!
What
could a lover do that would make you loose respect for them?
KEVIN:
I hate when they whine.
THOMAS: Cheat.
VUSI:
Lie to his friends.
Take your most extreme fantasy, if given the chance,
would you actually go through with it?
VUSI: Right now,
right this moment, I'd say yes!
KEVIN: No, it involves S&M.
I think it's better left as a fantasy.
THOMAS: Ive already done
it and yes, I'd do it again.
Name two things better than sex.
VUSI:
I know the answer to this one....ummm, hmmm, oh yeah, Foreplay and an Orgasm!
KEVIN:
But seriously, that I can't answer.
THOMAS: Me either. Your questions
are getting too difficult at this time.
I take the hint and stop the interrogation.
It was a good party after-all.
marc boone
Article
#3 taken from:
GAY SA Magazine
April
1999
Vol 4
Issue 19
Johannesburg
South Africa
I recently
got together with ten other gay men and asked what it is that attracts them to
other men?
Their responses were: 1 Personality; 2 Humour; 3
Looks; 4 A great smile; 5 A nice body; 6 Money; 7
Dress style; 8 Intelligence; 9His car and lastly, his attitude.
I then asked if they could sum it up in one word. They needed two - SEX
APPEAL
So let's break it down, what is sex appeal?
The
dictionary's definition of sex appeal is: attraction for the opposite sex / popular
attraction or appeal.
We thought those definitions sucked and decided not to
take Webster's word on that one, so here's ours:
1 A combination of a few
powerful characteristics in a person, that makes you want to f***k them
2
The power to attract others on a sexual level
3 Desirability; and lastly, screwability.
According to the ten men surveyed, sex appeal is mostly an attitude - a way
of being. It's the way a person carries himself and the lust he inspires in others.
It's also got less to do with what you look like and more to do with how you work
what you have.
So, how can you get it?
Anyone can have it because
sex appeal is subjective. You know the old saying, "Beauty is in the eyes of the
beholder." Well, sex appeal is in the loins of the one being turned on. Each of
the ten men had different sexual types that interested them and therefor different
views on what sex appeal was. Although we agreed, "to each, his own," we tried
to make the question of sex appeal less enigmatic by agreeing on a few ingredients
we consider the right stuff, such as:
Naturalness - because whatever
persona one has, it really only works if it's natural.
Humour - because
who doesn't like to laugh?
Confidence (not conceit!) - because a man
who knows what he wants and how he wants it, is a real turn on.
A good
conversationalist - because every romance begins with a conversation (unless
it a quicky in the darkroom).
Passion - because everything is better
when you do it with passion.
Mystery - because it is invaluable in
the true art of seduction.
Finally, the last words on the subject...
That's simple... Either you have it or you don't... Here's hoping you do.
marc boone
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