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Almost 7 years ago I became a stepmom to a beautiful baby girl named Stephanie. When Stephanie was approximately 4 years of age, her biological mother basically walked out of her life. Of course, there was some court issues with child abuse, neglect, drugs and prostitution but all in all, this mother walked away from her baby girl. From that moment on, I made a promise to that beautiful baby girl that I would love her, nurturer her, and treat her as if she was my natural child. I have kept my promise. Stephanie is now going to be celebrating her 7th birthday. She is a very smart, intelligent, loving and well-mannered child. Stephanie is one to always look on the bright side of things no matter what.
Of course Stephanie has no memories of her biologic mother. Her father and I have been married for over 7 years. I am the one Stephanie calls MOMMY. I am the one that never left her and never will.
To this day, I cry for Stephanie, thinking someday my husband and I will have to tell her the truth of how her mother left her and treated her so badly. My opinion is that the biologic mother must have a heart of stone not to fight everyday of her living and breathing life to see her child.
If you are a mother or father, you know that just the thought of being away from your child for a minute kills you. True parents would walk across fire, swim the ocean, and hike to the top of the highest mountain to see their child for just one moment. I know I would!
Well, now I am trying to adopt Stephanie. With adoption, Stephanie will always know I did whatever I could to make sure that she is mine in every legal way. Also, I would never have to worry about her biological mother treating MY daughter like trash ever again.
With adoption, Social Services gets involved, and they have to talk to the biological mother of Stephanie. This means that suddenly the biological mother gets to influence a huge decision in MY daughter's life. This is NOT understandable and will not and should not be excepted.
We tried to get the Biological mother (Karen) to sign for this adoption, but guess what -- again she shows her lack of true love for Stephanie by saying No!! She will fight this adoption. She would rather save her pride in front of her family then do what's best for her daughter. Even 5 years later, she has not changed. She still puts herself before her children.
Can anyone tell me why after all these years does our court system still allow people (mothers or fathers) that have been out of their child or children's life for so long to come back in? If this adoption does not go through, I am afraid that the courts will let this trashy mother around my baby girl again. You ask why would they??? Well, because she gave up a few hours of her life to lay down and give birth to this child. But yet, I gave my life, my heart and my soul to this child forever. Yet, I am the one on trial to see if the California court system will allow me to adopt what is already has been mine for so long. I feel I have done everything possible for this child and I should not have to show or prove to anyone I am a great mother. Stephanie and her brother know it and that's all that matters to me. Because of my husband, our families and myself, (and of course a great lawyer) Stephanie has had a great life with us.
So the question I have for YOU, the American people, is - Why would any court think that just because someone gives birth or helps conceive a child, they should always have their right as a biological parent to come and disturb a child's life and then leave whenever they want. We as Americans and Parents need to change the laws so they serve for the best interest of are children not the parent that abandoned them.
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Stephanie's MOM
Robert A. Davis - Deadbeat Dad