This Is For All The Mothers Who DIDN"T Win
Mother of the Year in 1999. All the runners-up and
all the wannabes. The mothers too tired to enter, or
too busy to care.
This is for all the mothers who froze their buns off
on metal bleachers at soccer games Friday night
instead of watching from cars, so that when their
kids asked, "Did you see my goal?" they could say,
"Of course, wouldn't have missed it for the world,"
and mean it.
This is for all the mothers who have sat up all night
with sick toddlers in their arms, wiping up barf
laced with Oscar Mayer wieners and Cherry Kool-Aid
saying, "It's okay honey, Mommy's here."
This is for all the mothers of Kosovo who fled in the
night and can't find their children.
This is for the mothers who gave birth to babies
they'll never see. And the mothers who took those
babies and made them homes.
For all the mothers of the victims of the Colorado
shooting, and the mothers of the murderers. For the
mothers of the survivors, and the mothers who sat in
front of their TVs in horror, hugging their child who
just came home from school safely.
For all the mothers who run carpools and make cookies
and sew Halloween costumes. And all the mothers who
DON'T.
What makes a good mother anyway? Is it patience?
Compassion? Broad hips? The ability to nurse a baby,
cook dinner, and sew a button on a shirt, all at the
same time? Or, is it heart?
Is it the ache you feel when you watch your son or
daughter disappear down the street, walking to school
alone for the very first time? The jolt that takes
you from sleep to dread, from bed to crib at 2 a.m. to put your hand on the back of a sleeping baby? The need to flee from wherever you are
and hug your child when you hear news of a school
shooting, a fire, a car accident, a baby dying? I
think so.
This is for all the mothers who sat down with their
children and explained all about making babies. And
for all the mothers who wanted to but just
couldn't.
This is for reading "Goodnight, Moon" twice a night
for a year. And, then reading it again, "Just one
more time."
This is for all the mothers who mess up. Who yell at
their kids in the grocery store and swat them in
despair, and stomp their feet like a tired 2-year-old
who wants ice cream before dinner.
This is for all the mothers who taught their
daughters to tie their shoelaces before they started
school. And for all the mothers who opted for Velcro
instead.
For all the mothers who bite their lips - sometimes
until they bleed - when their 14-year-olds dye their
hair green. Who lock themselves in the bathroom when
babies keep crying and won't stop.
This is for all the mothers who show up at work with
spit-up in their hair and milk stains on their
blouses and diapers in their purse.
This is for all the mothers who teach their sons to
cook and their daughters to sink a jump shot.
This is for all mothers whose heads turn
automatically when a little voice calls, "Mom?" in a
crowd, even though they know their own offspring are
at home.
This is for mothers who put pinwheels and teddy bears
on their children's graves.
This is for mothers whose children have gone astray,
who can't find the words to reach them.
This is for all the mothers who sent their kids to
school with stomach aches, assuring them they'd be
just FINE once they got there, only to get
calls from the school nurse an hour later asking them
to please pick them up. Right away.
This is for young mothers stumbling through diaper
changes and sleep deprivation. And mature mothers
learning to let go.
For working mothers and stay-at-home mothers. Single
mothers and married mothers. Mothers with money,
mothers without.
This is for you all. So hang in there!
Please pass along to all the moms in your life!
"Home is what catches you when we fall - and we all
fall."