Hope Gillihan wrote:
> Dear Guy ,
> You dont know me My name is Hope Gillihan I am Kristy Gillihans mom And 
> I havent seen my girl in 26 mo. its breaking my heart Why why is she 
> hurting me like this I love her so much If you have been her friend for 
> 6 yr. then you must know Please I cant live like this Shes my baby girl 
> Please help me is she Ok ? Will i ever see her again ? And why ?  Hope

Mrs Gillihan, if and when your daughter decides to contact you it will be on her terms and not mine. Kristy may be stubborn, but I have not known her to hold a grudge against anyone without a reason for doing so. I have not directly asked for a reason for why she dislikes you, but from what I gather this has been building up for quite some time as she planned to leave home when she was 18, almost 3 years ago.
It's easy to concentrate on how this is making us feel, but the question must be, what is it that she is feeling. She felt too controlled and caged in, that she was being treated like a child, being told to do chores rather than asked, having her personal effects browsed through while she was not present, these are just a few things off the top of my head. I'm sure what happened to her brother didn't help either.

Yes she is well, she has a house and a job that pays well, and most importantly she is fairly happy. As for if you will ever see her again, that's something I cannot comment on, if it takes her another 3 years to initiate a dialog then that's how long it will take, I'm not prepared to diminish the bond of trust that we share or put her into a situation she is not ready for.

As her mother I think it would be best to respect her independence and leave her the space in which to make the first move, she is no longer a child and whatever decision she may come to, we must respect that decision.