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Hi J-Girls! Love it or Hate it!!! It's a part of a discussion I had with my japanese friend a few days ago. I wanna share it with you. I think its something ALL GIRLS SHOULD KNOW. It's little LONG but you gonna LOVE reading it, you gonna HATE reading it. Before writing the discussion, I would like to tell you a little bit about myself. I am a professional guy and have been in Tokyo for about 3 years. I met many people, japanese & foreigners, in office and outside, observed japanese people (both guys & girls), tried to understand their culture and way of thinking, craziness of SOME girls for foreigners and their relationships etc. -For those who don't understand the meaning of craziness, its "foolish or senseless behavior". - Well, I am a fun loving guy. I love having fun, drinks, excitement, adventure, romance, flirting etc. But I also believe that we should always keep our Long Term Goals in our mind. What I am going to share with you is something Serious . Enough!!! Coming back to the discussion ... So many GIRLS start DATING in their TEENS and they keep on doing it in their 20's and 30's. They MAKE and BREAK several EMOTIONAL and PHYSICAL relationships. The weekends come with a NEW HOPE of meeting a nice-friend or a future Boyfriend; sometimes its very EXCITING and FUN but relationships comes to an END in a few weeks/months; and sometimes its really a BAD experience, the weekend ends in a DEPRESSION. Haven't you felt that kind of FUN, EXCITEMENT, CRAZINESS, DEPRESSION, STRESS, FRUSTRATION and LONELINESS? These ups and downs go on for several years until WOMEN (well, they are not "girls" now) realize that they are already in mid/late 30's and getting OLDER day by day. And now they are DESPERATE to get MARRIED and ready to COMPROMISE with below standard guys. I don't need to write more on it as you can see it by yourself. * Do YOU want to be in a SIMILAR situation? * Having a loving Boyfriend and having an exciting relationship, does it depends on LUCK, PYSICAL BEAUTY or SOMETHING ELSE? You might feel/think that - 10 years (when you are in 20's) are more than enough to find a guy of your choice for a long term-relationship - you are not like other stupid and ugly girls (you are charming, funny and more), so you can easily find the guy of your choice - you have had great relationship(s) with guys but you brokeup for you own reasons (i.e. it was your decision to drop him!) - guys are easily attracted to you so it's easy for you to control guys and to maintain relationship - you are cute, sexy and attractive ... you often get these kind of compliments from guys. You know very well that the guys are always chasing you You may have other 100 reasons to believe that you are right! Try to ask a woman in her late 30's, "If you can live your life again, would you like to get married in late 20's or would you like to be single as you are today?" Thelife and our way of thinking changes much faster than we think; we realize it only after loosing a great OPPURTUNITIES or TIME. Life is different in teens, in early 20's, in mid 20's and in late 20's. And it's entirely different when a girl in single in her 30's. Each person is different but I would like write a little about. It's not true for every one but one may analyse oneself how his/her life and way of thinking has been changing. It could be of a great help in understanding ourself and taking the right decision. Teens: Carelessness and Fun! They are just growing kids! Early 20's: Hum ... I should have a boyfrinend. I wanna save money, have fun, travel around the world, music, movies, learn new things, make and meet many people! It's pretty easy for them to make a boyfriend and have fun with. At this age, the girls have a lot of energy. They are, perhaps, most fun, cute, energetic, experimental, sexy and attractive (well, different guys prefer girlfriends of different age group!). They are little mature and little childish, a perfect combination! They want to experience more what they have learnt, and they are open to learn and experience new things. They have less prejudice, they are less adamant. They want to explore and they want to be explored more! They are like a bird who has just learnt how to fly; new wings and open sky, they wanna fly high and high! Mid 20's: I should have a boyfrinend for long term relationship. To be updated ... Late 20's: To be updated ... 30's: To be updated ... (It might be better not to write anything about girls in 30's. The single girls already in 30's may not feel confortable about it!) A lot of girls think that they are Cute, Attractive, Honest, Sweet, Shy, Sexy, Educated, Sensual, Loving and the list goes on and on .... aren't you ONE OF THEM? I have met a few average looking girls but they think of themselves to be super model, cute and sexy. I was surprised what made them think like that? And I got the answer later. Maybe, you already know it! Hum ... when guys are looking for sexual favour, they give these kind of compliments to any girl. If you have all those qualities, then why don't you have a STEADY special BOYFRIEND or NICE FRIENDS till now? If you are so wonderful, why is it so DIFFICULT to make GOOD FRIENDS, to have exciting relationships, to have a wonderful LOVE-LIFE and SEX-LIFE? And when you had the RIGHT GUY with you, why couldn't you HOLD HIM and maintain the RELATIONSHIP? If it's the guy who brokeup, WHY? If the guy was cheating, WHY? Are you just waiting for the moment when somehow, somewhere your dream-guy will find you and sweep you off your feet? Don't you think all the good guys are already taken by other girls? And rest of the guys are stupid, ugly, boring, playboys and not interested in love/longterm-relationship, they just want sex? * It's high TIME to STOP BLAMING guys, and to look into MIRROR and ANALYSE yourself! * You MAY think you are SPECIAL but there are MORE THAN A MILLION GIRLS who think who are MORE SPECIAL THAN YOU! * It doesn't matter how special you think you are! What matters is FEELINGS of your Friends/Boyfriend for you. (Mind you, I said "FEELINGS". Don't get confused with what he thinks and what he says!) * You MAY think you don't have a Boyfriend because you aren't SERIOUS about it, you are BUSY or you are focusing on you CARRIER ... you will wake up someday and you will find yourself in 30's! Understanding the relationship becomes more complex when you want to make GAIJIN friends or a GAIJIN-BOYFRIEND. A lot of girls want to have a wonderful Boyfriend; Caring, Confident, Charming, Financially Secure, Smart, Sexy, Lovely, Tall, Handsome, Attractive, Sesual and the list goes on and on ... aren't you ONE OF THEM? You often ask, where are the guys of your type? Have they gone on Mars or Venus? Think about it ... How manytimes you discussed this kind of topics with guys? How many guy-friends do you have to openly and frankly talk about it, what guys want and about sexuality of guys? How much you know about yourself, about guys and about maintaining exciting relationship? Do you know how to please a guy and how to control him? Just placing/reading ads on internet, hitting a few of them, exchanging emails, learning english and dating new guys in weekends is not going to work. It's not HIT and TRIAL. It's not a game of NUMBERS. It's not just LUCK. You need to understand yourself, guys and how to maintain relationship. Being busy won't give you anything, having a CUTE face, very SEXY and ATTRACTIVE body MAY give you company of PLAYBOYS and SEXUAL pleasure, but NOT your TRUE boyfriend. I will update it in my free time, if you are interested in reading, please VISIT AGAIN. I will end it for now with a final note. Remember that girls and guys live in their OWN REALITY, and their reality is DIFFERENT. A lot of girls don't understand reality of guys, and a lot of guys don't understand the reality of girls. Unless you know the reality of guys, it's pretty difficult for you to have a wonderful love/sex-life, to have a satisfactory longterm relationship. To be updated ... Have fun, a wonderful, romantic and exciting love and sex-file! PS: - Your suggestion/comments are welcome. - If you have any questions, pl. do ask. Anything from friendship, relationships, sex problems or getting more pleasure out of it, more fun and excitement, mental or psychological problems are welcome! Very Attractive & Sexy Vrs. Cute & Sweet Girl! It's incomplete ... I will write more in my free time ... please VISIT AGAIN. It may be surprising but its true. The VERY ATTRACTIVE and SEXY girls face more emotional ups and downs in thier life. Being attractive and charming makes them feel proud of themselves and they attract guys easily. BUT it DOESN'T mean that they are emotionally more stable, they have less breakups or they can maintain better relationship than average looking girls. Not at all!!! They do feel kind of HOLE, EMPTINESS in relationships as most of the guys they meet are attracted by their physical beauty. The guys get more interested in their body, and they seldom try to understand their TRUE PERSONALITY. These type of girls need to put extra efforts to maintain their relationship as guys do have more expectations from them. These girls often pretent to be a different person, like a show-piece, more smarter then they really are, more choosy, more sophisticated. They are always concious about their beauty, appearance, dressing style, talking, walking, eating and everything else ... unknowingly they start doing things what others expect them to do rather than enjoying their own life, their own style. To be updated ... Seeking E/J Exchange Partner or Cheating yourself? Believe it or not! But please be true to yourself! Have you met a few GUYS for Language Exchange? How manytimes the GUYS were really interested in E/J exchange? How serious the GUYS were about Language Exchange? AND how serious YOU were about it? Well, I CAN'T GENERALIZE it as each person is different but I did observe something strange. I noticed that it doesn't matter how Serious you and your friend are in Language Exchange. What matters the most is whether you people are LIKING each other or not. Of course, the two should like each other for language exchange or to be friends, but the meaning of LIKING is little DIFFERENT here. This LIKING often turns into Physical Relationship with in FIRST 3 MEETINGS. And this Physical Relationship could be anything from a simple Lip-Kiss to a whole night Bedroom Fun. I wonder if you girls are interested in learning language or you are seeking a sex cum language exchange partner? Are you really so easy going? I THINK the REASONS of going for sex are very different and most of the times girls don't realize it!!! To be updated ... How important is sex in relationships? & useful tips ... To be updated ... Finally ... * Love your Enemies. It really Pisses them off! * I really don't have any Enemies. But there are few Friends who don't like me! * I am not seeking a Lover, I just need a Friend. I know, "Good Friendship often ends in Love!"
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