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The Hunt

Sponsored by Bound By Desire (Women Only!)
October 10-11-12, Austin, Texas

"The Hunt is Bound by Desire's annual leather run. Each year we gather in the beautiful Central Texas, for a weekend campout including safe, sane and consensual S/M play. This is an all-women's event.

We meet on a large private campground with fishing, and accessible indoor showers and toilets. Both tent and RV sites are available on a first-come, first served basis. There is a 16 room bunkhouse and covered pavilion where our play equipement will be set up.

Clothing is optional.

This years Hunt will feature a silent auction for great scene related toys and services, a live auction during dessert for two really fine prizes, a raffle for an extraordinarily great prize, BD/SM carnival games (with prizes!),a catered dinner, and a few fun surprises!

We hold a general membership meeting at 11:00 a.m. on Sunday.

Our S/m 101 seminar is held at 11:00 a.m. on Saturday.

Attendance at one of the two 101 seminars held annually is a requirement of membership.

The highlight of the weekend is The Hunt.

This is where willing submissives/bottoms and others hide in the woods until captured by the Tops.
Play is then negotiated."

About Me

My Background
My Basic Requirements
My definition of a "slave" and why I need such a girl
Why is this search taking so long?
My concept of service slavery, and what a typical day in service to me might be like

My Background

I am a partnered lesbian woman, 33, who has been in the Scene for about 15 years now. I am an active member of EROS and Houston PEP (People Exchanging Power), among other organizations and enjoy a good reputation. I am in good health and am comfortable with my sexuality and content with my life in general. I also have a personal page - here. It will show you a bit more about myself, and what BDSM means to me personally, and why I am seeking much more than 'free maid help' - that is, why I seek a lesbian slave. These pages are merely a synopsis of this search and an overview of what I am looking for specifically..

My partner, R* (a woman), lives with me full-time and although I consider her property in a D/s -based relationship with her, she is not my slave and is not collared to me.

My Basic Requirements - The Standard Ad

This is the standard ad, variations of which appear in several places: alt.com, bondage.com, and all sorts of other places that may or may not allow kinky language in their sanitized pages.

This is whom I seek:

I seek a permanent, live-in, service-oriented lesbian slave, 25-40, flexible enough to kneel/move, who has references (of any type), is sexually settled (i.e. not conflicted about being gay), intelligent, honest and fun to be with. Smoking/drinking is OK IF she is healthy.

This slave would belong to me, and only me. IDEALLY, the slave would be a masochistic 'boi' type, very driven to serve, and comfortable in polyamorous situations.

However, a femme (though not necessarily "high femme") would also be acceptable to me. I am open and flexible with whom the Universe provides. Generally, intent and a service orientation are highly important to me.

You think this is a simple request..? No. I am very, very selective.

Since beginning this search three years ago, my screener, slave linden, and I have interviewed, screened out, called, faxed, arranged to visit and/or emailed over 220 applicants. Most of these applicants (about 90%) have been the clearly unsuitable. For the remaining 10%, women who seem to fit the criteria, much time, effort and money has been spent on this extensive search. Most of these applicants are good-intentioned, but uninformed about several things, spelled out in these pages. Please be sure that you understand all that I am saying before you contact the slave who serves me as screener; the time you will save will be gratefully appreciated by all.

My Definitions

Your mileage may vary! But this is what _I_ mean by these terms in this ad and in my own understanding:

The difference between being a submissive and a slave.

This basic distinction is one that is endlessly discussed, over and over again, through newsgroups and web boards, in-person discussion groups and articles in various fetish publications. I do not see why. To me, there are very clear distinctions.

Although some will say dramatically that a slave may be modified bodily or psychologically in any way that the Owner decides, or may lose the right to her income and savings to the Owner (retains no financial responsibility), I am not such an extreme Owner. I have an interest in keeping my slave healthy and integrated well with the "real world".

In my opinion, to be slave is:

A serious lifestyle choice of commitment, devotion, obedience and dedication to someone whom you trust and respect.. not just because they say they are a "Master"...
Often involves real work, and isn't always fantasy playtime
Not an assurance that attention and affection will be given you, even though you give so much - you are not a girlfriend or spouse
Not an escape from the responsibilities that come from being an adult (in fact, slavery often increases your responsibilities, to yourself, your Master and those she assigns to your care)
Not a refuge from the truth about yourself
Not a way to avoid thinking and making decisions
I also strongly believe that a slave's Owner should not act as a therapist and cannot heal psychological problems you might have (most often, you need qualified help for that)

This isn't play. This is the very minimum of what I expect and demand.

Why is this search taking so long?

Perhaps you are one of the dozens of daily visitors to this page - someone who has stumbled across it via a newsgroup, or one of the many ads slave linden has placed on my behalf. You wonder why this search has taken so long - so many applicants, and so many rejections. This is typical of someone who cares about the quality of the applicant, as well as the degree of "fit" of the applicant in my household. I don't want to commit to someone less than serious - neither should you.

The best is worth waiting for.

Closely examine your attraction to slavery - be honest with yourself about your expectations. Everyone interested in being or having a slave has them; what you must ask yourself is if you are realistic and if you can really attain what you desire.

Do you want to run away from your life as it is, and have someone take care of you forever? There is no forever, and your responsibilities will follow you. Do you want penance for a real or imagined crime from the hand of an angry Dominant? Heal yourself first - and I am not an angry Master. Do you want unconditional love? Love isn't guaranteed from your Master if you are a slave. Are you ready for the work? Or do you think that you'll simply be asked to do labor if you feel like it, and then it's playtime? Think hard about what it is that attracts you to service slavery.

To me, slaves and submissives are two different types of people: some say that some people are born slaves, but I am not sure if I agree. At any rate, my basic definitions are:

Submissive	Slave
Someone who takes pleasure in the act of submitting to another (sometimes temporarily, or permanently).	A submissive who is owned. Submission isn't always pleasurable, but obedience is.
Possesses rights of personhood, i.e. right to privacy, separate "space", right to bodily privacy.	Possesses no rights of negotiation, no rights to privacy, self-determination, preference, etc.

Please note, that I do not object to a woman entering service in me through being a submissive, as a test period for the both of us. I am realistic and patient. However, owning a slave is my final goal and endless game-playing bores and tires me. You will be eventually asked to come to a decision or be released, should it come to that.

The concept of service-oriented slavery

This is something that has received very little attention in the vast panoply of "slave types" written about. But to me, it is a basic assumption that any slave will perform useful services for my behalf, at least from time to time, no matter how specialized or exotic they may be (or conceive themselves).

Service-oriented slaves, however, are a step beyond this. To me, these are the cream of the crop. They enjoy being "useful", often giving or serving before they are told what to do, and often exceed the expectations outlined for them by their Owner. Many of them are workaholics and perfectionists. Often, service-oriented slaves find different ways than conventional ones in which to develop more perfect service, like taking classes in cooking, reading books on household management, or the like. Books like the Miss Abernathy series highlight and describe the development of this type of slave.

I have little interest in a beautiful slave who reclines all day on her mat, in shimmering chains, waiting to be noticed and catered to. I have more interest in the kitchen-girl, stained with sweat and her hair tied back, stirring soup or kneading bread - and smiling. I don't care if you're beautiful, a little overweight, or ugly.

Intent and service - those are the jewels in any slave's collar.

What a typical, actual slave's life is like, and one specifically in service to me

It's important to be able to distinguish from books and fantasy novels and what actual slavery is like. Even though books like those in The Marketplace series by Laura Antoniou present a more realistic picture of the immense amount of work and sometimes sheer drudgery inherent to a life of true service to an Owner, they're still fiction. Slavery means that you lose choice: most basically, to decide how to lead your life - and that, most likely, your life won't be a series of play parties. You may not even be physically "collared" or marked, while in the meantime you prove your sincerity to me to earn the privilege of the collar.

You may sleep in your own room; at the foot of my bed; or sometimes, not at all. I will rely on you to complete each task, whether it is serving naked in chains or making a sandwich, with equal attentive mindfulness. What you must rid yourself of, first and foremost, are preconceived notions of how your service will (or "should") be.

In addition to your own job (which you will be required to have), your service to me will surely involve the following, similar to being an au pair, i.e. :

+ Basic housekeeping: such as menu and meal planning, cleaning, basic household accounting (keeping a budget, balancing a checkbook).

+ Basic, occasional child care (older children)

+ Formal and informal attendance and service at local and national leather events (I have a very active social life)

If it seems like a lot of work, this is why they call it "slavery".. ;)

In short, the primary qualification lies in the self-fulfillment that comes from the complete service given in a D/s relationship. You should be driven by the spiritual intensity that is derived from serving a Dominant. Your nature also needs to be as such that you are not weak of spirit, but rather understand that the forms of submission are decided by the Dominant, not by the preconceived ideals of the submissive.

Contact me only through slave linden. All other emails will be ignored.