Marriage...

Marriage….hurmm….urmmm…urmmm……

I have no idea what marriage life is all about but I would like to share with you some of my senior…. married and ummi to be adviced….hehe….

a.
Always remember this: Marriage is an Ibadah..so approach it that way!! Making each other happy (with sincerity and honesty) would mean that u r making Allah happy..when things get difficult keep this in mind. Constantly remind yourself this..insya Allah..u will always keep your calm..and present your best smile to your spouse always and in return when u see your spouse returning your smile..the feeling u'll experience..no words can describe.

b.
Classic text book theories: Always be sincere, honest, patience and understanding. U may get tired reading these four words over & over again but trust me..THESE four words should be constantly on your mind always and always.

Eg: the way we approach things..when there r things that one of us did that the other one did not really prefer..instead of the normal "merajuk", getting angry or annoyed, we would make the effort to keep calm, take some time to ponder and then sit down and discuss with each other how we both feel and most importantly discuss how we could both improve things. It’s not about the blaming game. What would u get from blaming each other? Pain..it may be satisfying at first to make the other suffer but in the long run u will both lose. Why not...make each other happy by sharing how u feel, figure out a way together how to improve things..and in return u will both end up happy...and satisfied insya Allah.

c.
RESPECT. this is soo important… the way to treat your significant other. As a woman, we have soo many weaknesses..emotionally i must admit. A man sbould never make her wife feel weak or helpless..he should listens to ideas..how bogus it may be..and respects his wife views though they may not be relevant to the particular context..and most particularly…..the husband should always been giving  motivation to keep hanging on..to keep on fighting and most importantly to keep on reaching for the goals though the circumstances around  are limiting  from doing so..Yes, respect…..i love man when he shows respect to woman and in return…the woman will indeed respect the man….

d.
Love & Humour..
Love..no need to explain further because the time will come… HUMOUR that u must have in your marriage..look at how the Prophet Muhammad S.A.W used to entertain his beloved wife Aisyah..that's how u should spend your time enjoying your marriage with your husband.....Truely laughter is the best medicine. Again making your husband or wife happy is an Ibadah..

Well these are just the few basic tips i'd like to share with u guys.

Anyways...she said…. she could basically sum up her story as "LOVE AFTER MARRIAGE".. has been sweet & wonderful. When everything is HALAL..and having no restrictions with the relationship….the getting to know each other phase has been loads of fun….

Hurmmm……. I know, holding any of my friends down is not the answer..to truely love your girl friends is to finally let them go..giving them the encouragement to fly..and spread their wings..letting them move on to a new beginning. So…I would like to wish

SELAMAT PENGANTIN BARU BUAT SAHABAT-SAHABAT YANG BAKAL MENDIRIKAN RUMAH TANGGA DAN UNTUK YG SUDAH MENDIRIKAN RUMAH TANGGA…WELL…KISAH PENGANTIN LAMA…SEMOGA KEHIDUPAN DIPENUHI MAWADAH DAN RAHMAH DI DUNIA DAN AKHIRAT…

My Private wish:

To KAk Sara... who carry out a HUGE duty for Allah..I wish u well....I pray that you and your baby will be healthy and safe... yes...what you said once is true indeed....Love Allah above all else..and soon Allah will show u with HIS love through people around u.....

	Blog Classification: friend Date Blogged: 2006 July 30 Time Blogged: 12:06 Acknowledgement : kak sara