This page expands on some aspects of my article on how I focus. It was inspired by the kind, loving feedback[1] of many people, esp. the K5 community.
"Do everything - be open to every opportunity. "Ask and you shall receive". Ask for what you want and accept the bonuses as well."
- previous version of "How I Focus"
Trying to please everyone is surely not a sustainable way of life, but this is what "Do everything" might seem to suggest.
The latter part of this section is actually the operational part - ask for what you want and accept the bonuses as well. I wrote this because often, I would complain about something, then say something like "oh, well, what can I do?" and move on... and then an opportunity would come to change it, but I would lapse, or doubt the feasibilty of realising change, or whatever, and miss it.
That comes from a contradiction internally - on the one hand, I say "I want", and on the other hand, I said "I don't expect". You should expect what you want to happen to happen, and live the wonderful life you are worthy of living.
Assuming that you have problems perceiving opportunities without hindsight (again, a problem I faced), defaulting to "action" rather than "closed-minded dismissal" would assure that more opportunities are not prematurely, and tragically, missed.
(Despite the title, this section is really all about me... self-focused, aren't I?)
Fairly recently, I got sick. This was because I was working in service to ideals which were part of my false self, the me I felt that others expected to be, and not living according to the direction of my higher self.
At the time, I recognized the situation but ignored it in order to complete a project... which I didn't complete because I overworked.
The quantity of work was not too much, but because I wasn't coherent within myselves, failure resulted.
Oh, and, the flu was stirring, also... and if anyone asks, that's what it really was, and I'm perfect and handling life just fine.
Anyhow, my sickness was actually an opportunity for self-examination, and I came out of it with a much stronger sense of self that I've had. Ever.
Now, the crisis is over, and I continue to recover, rebuild, and follow through on my grand plan to be me.
A bit of semantics and how they affect your flow of emotional energy.
Saying "I need x" implies that
Saying "I have [situation which requires something you don't currently have]", on the other hand, allows the implict need to be understood while focusing on a clear and present advantage.
Example:
"I need a girl"
vs.
"I have mad love to give"
Guess which type is more attractive.
K31. Thursday, 21 Nov. Y2.
[1] "kind, loving feedback": actually, it was mostly just polite/professional.