For many working parents, telecommuting or a home business may
seem like the answer to your prayers. You want to have more time with your kids
and greater flexibility, so you take the leap, install a second phone line, and
set up a computer in the dining room.
But the first thing you may discover is that working from home includes many
unexpected distractions. Children, your spouse, neighbors, and the family dog
come and go. They make loud noises, ask for your help, or interrupt to ask a
“quick question,” always just long enough to break your concentration.
Your family and friends don't seem to understand that you're working. They ask
you to run errands, expect you to handle chores, and want to chat on the phone.
When you see the pile of laundry or stack of dishes sitting there waiting, you
may be tempted to take time out from work to clean up a bit.
You’d like to keep your house livable and be available to the people you care
about, but it's just too much for one person to manage. When can you get any
work done?
The way out of this dilemma is to set clear boundaries on your space, time, and
responsibilities. If your office has a door, try having "open-door"
time and "closed-door" time. When your door is open, the kids can come
say hello, ask questions, or tell you about their day. When the door is closed,
it means "Do Not Disturb."
A good way to explain this to children is to tell them you need some private
time, not just that you are busy. If your office doesn't have a door, you need
one! Try to find another place in your home where you can create some private
space for at least part of the day.
Setting regular working hours will help you manage your time better as well as
give some guidelines to your family. Build your hours around the family
activities that are important to you. If your kids get home at 2:00, for
example, set up your work day from 8:30 to 2:00 and 4:00 to 6:00.
Your schedule can change each week to allow for your children’s activities,
when necessary. Choose how many work hours per week makes sense for you, design
a schedule, and post it on your office door. Highlight the open times, and let
everyone know that's when you are available to them.
If your family expects you to run errands and handle chores during your work
day, it may be time to hold a family meeting. Explain to your children (and
remind your spouse) that it may look like mommy or daddy is playing on the
computer or chatting on the phone, but this is his or her job, and it
contributes to the family's income.
Start by listing all the jobs that need to be done for the household, and who
does them now. Instead of assigning chores, try asking each family member to
volunteer for something. If there are lots of tasks left over, be sure to ask if
they really need to be done, or done as often. (Dusting, for example, may need
to go by the wayside.) If you are doing chores during time you could be making
money, consider hiring someone else to clean your house, service the car, or
drive the kids to after-school activities.
When one of your boundaries gets tested, learn to hold the line. If you give in
even once, don't expect the boundary to hold up. Try making the closed door,
posted schedule, or job roster the bad guy instead of yourself.
Instead of, "I'm too busy to talk right now -- you'll have to wait,"
say, "The door is closed now, would you please come back when it's
open?" When friends phone during work time, ask them to call back after
hours. And when someone doesn't do one of their chores, don't do it for them.
Serving a meal on dirty dishes may seem extreme, but it will get the message
across.
C.J. Hayden is the author of Get Hired Now! and Get Clients Now! Since 1992, she has helped thousands of professionals make a better living doing what they love. C.J. is a Master Certified Coach who leads workshops internationally – in person, on the phone, and on the web. Find out more about C.J. and get a free copy of “How to Find a Job in 28 Days or Less” at http://www.gethirednow.com.
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