Stuff
expands to fill house
On The Bright Side
By Kay Hafner
Remember when comedian George Carlin first called a house a
place for your stuff? I�ve been thinking more and more about
that description in the past couple months as I�ve continued
to weed out disused, unneeded and unwanted items from our
home.
My most recent triumph was consolidating my daughter�s
worldly possessions into her bedroom, rather than allowing
toys and craft projects, books and papers to take over her
"playroom" (which most people would use as a living
room).
It�s amazing. We�ve gained a whole (nearly empty) room.
Without building an addition or buying a bigger house. Just by
storing or passing along or throwing away stuff.
We live in a time when whatever we want, whatever we can
imagine, if we can afford it, we can buy it. Internet
searches, specialty catalogs, mega-malls. Somewhere, somehow
it�s out there.
A few years ago I attended a talk given by Helen Volk, an
Albany area consultant whose business, Beyond Clutter, aims to
help people manage their stuff. As she pointed out, each new
possession�even a rock-bottom bargain�has an additional
price tag in terms of time and money to store, repair and
maintain.
More clothes lead to more laundry, ironing and mending.
Also, more hangers or other storage containers.
More knickknacks mean it takes longer to dust.
More photographs require the purchase�and use�of more
photo albums or storage boxes.
I�d someday like a hot tub, but even if we could afford
it and could make a place for it today, I�d have to be
honest and say that I�m not really ready for the extra
upkeep it would take.
My philosophy about money ("You tend to spend what you
make.") is similar to how I feel about house size: You
tend to fill up what you�ve got. Unless you continue to
purge as you buy, eventually you�re going to run out of
room.
Perhaps it�s human nature to think, "Hmmm. I better
keep that. I might need it someday." After all, when you
figure in the additional cost�in money as well as time�of
having to go out and buy a duplicate item, it�s easy to
conclude that it�s better to just hold on to the original.
If your house is so cluttered that you can�t find the
item when you really do need it, what�s the difference? You
might as well not have it at all.
I grew up in a two-bedroom apartment and there wasn�t a
lot of room to store extras. My mother taught me to be
efficient in deciding what to keep and what to toss.
"Have you used it in the past year? Are you likely to use
it in the next year?" were the major questions she asked
when things started getting a little too crowded.
In contrast, my mother-in-law, like many people who lived
through the Great Depression, raised her children to
"waste not, want not". She seemed to have saved
everything. I once found a badminton shuttlecock in her large,
wooden fold-out sewing chest, even though it�d been a decade
or more since anyone in the house had strung up a net in the
backyard. I started to give her a ribbing about this but
stopped when she observed that my daughter, a toddler at the
time, was enjoying it as a toy.
It�s hard to argue against something that�s keeping a
child quiet and amused, but I still thought that it was an odd
thing to have stored in a sewing box all those years.
The more often you move, the easier it is to keep extra
stuff to a minimum, especially if you�re doing the heavy
lifting yourself. After six years of moving every year or two,
we finally settled in one spot. Once we passed the three-year
mark, the real accumulation began. Eventually, more things
came into our house than left it.
Now that I�m close to weeding out every room in the
house, I know it will be a continual process not to get it
cluttered up again.
Just after I helped my daughter go through her stuff, I was
grocery shopping at Hannaford�s and my eye caught a neat
Harry Potter jigsaw puzzle that I knew she�d like. There
were actually several scenes to choose from and I at first
wanted to by two of them. Then, I narrowed it down to just
one. As I finished the rest of my shopping I thought about the
two other unopened jigsaw puzzles she owns. By the time I
reached the registers I�d decided it wouldn�t be too
instructive of me to add another one to the collection.
I put it back on the shelf.
Whether you live in a studio apartment or a grand mansion,
it�s all just "a place for your stuff." Then
again, the same can be said for rental storage rooms, not to
mention warehouses and museums. I guess it�s what you do
with your stuff that matters the most.
On the Bright Side can be found in the Arts|Life section of
The Post-Star every other Thursday. Kay Hafner, a writer from
Queensbury, can be reached via email at [email protected].