Throwing
out what doesn't fit
On The Bright Side
By Kay Hafner
I�ve lost about 25 pounds since last September and I
recently decided that my closet could do with some weight loss
as well. So, I cleared out the clothes that are, or soon will
be, too big.
For the first time in years, I have an exact inventory of
what�s in there. I can report that I own four skirts, three
dresses and 15 t-shirts. I have way too many turtlenecks, and
am severely lacking in the pants department.
This was more than just a massive spring cleaning
reorganization. It was a major thinning of the herd. A total
ridding of dead weight. I�d allowed everything I owned to
congregate and intermingle, regardless of whether it fit, how
often I wore it or even if I liked it. The result was a
tangled mess of clothes hung haphazardly on bent or bending
wire hangers.
When I did the necessary pruning it was a very swift and
efficient operation. With the stoic neutrality of a drill
sergeant, I examined every item in the closet and yanked
whatever didn�t meet specifications. Anything whose tag read
above a certain size was piled in my extra bedroom, awaiting
further inspection and classification. Whatever I can�t sell
at an upcoming garage sale I�ll pass along to charity. I don�t
ever want to wear those numbers again.
It was a great catharsis to rid myself of clothes that don�t
fit. Like a snake shedding its skin, I�ve outgrown the need
for them. Not just their size, although that was my main
criterion. Many of the colors, patterns or styles aren�t
even something I�d pick again if I were replacing the entire
collection tomorrow.
On the other hand, I�m a rather sentimental person and it�s
hard to set aside some of these things without recalling the
memories they hold and the stories they could tell. Like:
- the indestructible dress that I wore to two weddings in
six weeks, one in California and one in Georgia, which
went thousands of miles in a garment bag without needing
to be ironed;
- the red shorts I wore twice to The Great Escape,
forgetting (until it was too late) the second time that
they turned my underwear red when I got soaked on the
Raging River;
- the pant suit and the wool jacket my mother-in-law gave
me the Christmas before she died.
Most likely what I�ll do is box up these and other
memorable items�well, maybe I�ll skip the red shorts�and
set them aside for future reminiscing.
The flip side of this somewhat bittersweet process is the
fun I�m having going through boxes and bags filled with
clothes in a variety of smaller sizes. I�m nowhere near
being able to wear many of them, but it�s great to get
acquainted with some old friends. Like:
- the outfit I wore as a "date" to my friend�s
office Christmas party;
- my first, and only, 100% linen purchase;
- a pair of floral print jeans and matching cotton jacket.
Digging through yet another box I find more t-shirts than I
ever knew I�d possessed. Concert souvenirs. Shirts
advertising former employers. College-era shirts with risqu�
dorm slogans. Going back still farther, I find I still have
the olive drab t-shirt I wore to celebrate/lament the final
episode of M*A*S*H.
Why do I keep some of these clothes, particularly the ones
that I know I�ll never wear again, even if they fit? I guess
it�s because as symbols of my life they are irreplaceable.
Being able to wear them isn�t important as being able to
recall, "I wore this when . . ."
Many families pass down quilts made from scraps of worn out
clothes and other fabrics filled with family memories, stories
and history. For most of the things I�ve stored away I
couldn�t see doing that. I�ve kept them intact for a
reason: that way, the memories are full-size and full-color. I�d
hate to see them reduced to four-by-four squares.
Back to the half-empty closet. I�m coming upon a sizable
gap in my inventory where I gained a bunch of weight during
pregnancy and wore nothing but stretch maternity pants and
tops. So, there�s no doubt I�ll have to do some shopping
in the coming months to fill things out a bit and get through
the summer without feeling like I�m wearing the same thing
every other day.
Before I spend any money on clothing, though, I�m going
to start with the basics: no more wire hangers!
Kay Hafner, a writer from Queensbury, can be contacted via
the Internet at her website: www.kayhafner.com.