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about superdate
î Başa Want to be sexier, more popular and irresistibly attractive? Take a flick through this funky guide to flirting and body language. Tracey Cox, presenter of BBCTV’s Would Like to Meet and undisputed queen of dating, teaches you how to read a person like a book by using her simple but remarkably effective techniques.
Superdate is the ultimate reference guide to reading the signs, signals and subtle movements which constantly reveal our innermost desires. Armed with this body language bible, you’ll find out what your date really thinks of you – and learn how to control the situation in the blink of an eye.
Fascinating funny and unputdownable, Superdate shows you how to make all the right moves and – even more importantly – which ones to avoid. Top tips from an expert guaranteed to turn you into a superdate in seconds.
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• The
basics, stand, sit, walk and move like a winner
• The meeting –spot if they
like you from the flash of an eyebrow and a flick of their hair
• The chat up
– vital clues from the direction they look and lean, to how, when and where they
cross their legs.
• The date – hand-holding signals and devilishly clever
tips to take you from dinner to bed and beyond
• Cheeky, chatty and
oh-so-releaving, this must-have makeover manual tells you exactly what to do in
dating situations. The quintessential speed-dating handbook, superdate teaches
you how to spot, size up and seduce in a second
î Başa making an entrance
1. Uncross everything, relax your shoulders and push your hips forwards.
Point your torso towards the centre of the room.
2. A head held high is a
typical high-status display of a dominant individual. It forces others to look
up to you when meeting your gaze.
3. Pause in the doorway to allow people
in the room to get a good view of you. Let them see you looking your best.. (We
all tend to sag as the night goes on!).
4. Make eye contact with the
people closest to you and smile. If they don’t smile back, shift your gaze
elsewhere.
5. Keeping your hands in view means honesty, don’t be tempted
to hide them in your pockets and don’t fiddle!
6. Make for the centre of
the room and people’s first impression of you will then be one of
confidence.
î Başa how to sit
Sitting pretty Choose the posture that you feel comfortable with, then adapt it to send out the appropriate message. Here, the raised head, and pointing left foot both show interest, while the smile and relaxed hand display confidence. The crossed left arm and supporting right arm form an inviting diagonal directed towards her date.
Both the torso and the right foot face neutrally forwards. Liker casual suit, her body language gives the impression of someone who is friendly and approachable but in control.
The relaxed left hand and leg both cross towards the other person, but the inside of the wrist is hidden. She isn’t flirting yet.
We point with our feet at what we like or where we want to go. A loose kicking motions suggests boredom but a slow flexing or circling of the foot signals intellectual or physical pleasure.
î Başa how not to sit
Are you sitting comfortably? Adopt a neutral but open posture that is easy to change. Abrupt movements send out the message that you’re uncomfortable.
Sit back into the centre of the chair, so that your back is supported, don’t
perch.
Raise your head and drop your shoulders, and incline your torso
towards the person you’re with. Check your body language throughout the date to
see how your boby naturally responds to your date.
Nervous knees When wer’e nervous we point our toes inwards and bring our knees together in a protective gesture that shields our lower body. Uneven posture with the knees at different heights suggest you’re unsure of yourself. Fix it by checking the balance of your body asa you sit down. Make sure it’s symmetrical, then cross your legs towards your partner as you relax.
What not to wear Don’t let your clothes distract from what your body is saying. Body language is a much subtler, but also more effective way of communicating that what you wear. Keep your style simple in the first date. Check that you’ll be comfortable in your outfit by spending a few moments in front of a mirror going through a range of postures before you leave.
î Başa play space invaders
If you’re not sure if they fancy you, try pushing something over “their” side of the table – it could be your wine glass, or even the salt or pepper shaker. If they fancy you they’ll probably leave it there. Up the stakes higher by starting to play with the object you’ve pushed over their side, amplify the message be leaning in towards them. If they fancy you, they’ll lean forward too and when you stop playing with the object, they’ll start playing with it themselves. If they don’t fancy you they’ll lean back and often push the object back over your side of the table.
You don’t need to be seated to play this one, it’ll also work standing up. You can lean in towards your date and see what they’re reaction is. If they stay where they are, it’s a good sign, We often displace our feelings towards the person wer’e with onto the objects that surround us. Be aware of objects around you that you can use to communicate silently and see if they respond by doing the same.
