India is famous for its holy scriptures that teach us how to live a life of liberation, but it is likely that we have lagged behind in getting their wisdom due to our disturbed and distracted state of mind. We are aware that our children defy us in most of the matters concerning them, considering us archaic, following the rituals which have been trickling down to us since ages. In this world of modernization where the experts have experimented with new ideas that deliver ideal life in comparison to ours; we still think these old customs have been devised by God and going astray from them is to invite anguish. We are either too rigid to change or change we think is not healthier, is without any basis to validate it.
It is good news for friends to discern that shortly we are entering Satyug after this intervening period of two Yuga�s, Satyug and Kalyug. There are indications in our holy books that tell us about the dawn of Satyug in the near future. These drastic events of murders, rapes, children going astray, use of drugs, killing fellow students, having no love for their intimate relations, and having too much pressure of cut-throat competitions with no respite to think and act are its indications. Let us be ready to welcome Satyug, where God, who is formless or a pure soul will come down to earth and we can listen to Him though the mouth of a liberated soul, and we must scrub ourselves clean to receive Him. We shall feel positive vibrations all around us and our children will automatically move in that atmosphere.
Let us consider the problem of our children critically. I think we should not vindicate ourselves as we always tell them that they are good for nothing fellows, scoring less marks in the examination by wasting much of their time with friends. Had they devoted enough time to their studies they would have scored better marks and offend them further with our negative attitude. Thus criticism has become dominant in child-parent relationship, which sends negative vibrations and the child instead of mending himself becomes too obstinate to follow parent�s instructions. Their intentions are good but the method adopted by them is not in consonance with their virtuous thoughts that might send positive vibrations to get them fully energized.
Accordingly what we are required to do is think positive, speak positive and seek positive to send right signal to our kids. Our convictions that we are negative in our behavior are fully truthful, and thus we shouldn�t hesitate to take the blame on us for disobedience of our children. In Western countries the law is against physical punishment of the child for which we are thinking very late to incorporate it to set in place the abuse of children. There is no doubt in saying that children of today are much superior to our times, and are farsighted. Can�t we say them that they are good to achieve their aim and will definitely go ahead to fulfill their wish of scoring more marks instead of scolding and discouraging them. It doesn�t mean our guidance is not perfect but we need to rectify our parenting skills.
Why do we remain worried about our social status realizing how friends and relations will think about our child? We think him imbecile not coping up to the high standard set by the university. We feel small when the child doesn�t come with flying colours in the examination. Why don�t we give them our unconditional love which can give them positive energy? Let us experiment with innovated ideas which have already proven their worth to achieve success. These are Concentration, Determination and to get set on one�s seat. Let us get them gain positive energy which is sure to pull them out of the mire, if by chance they have fallen low in their life. Parents must read what their wards think and nurture them accordingly. Do guide them with affection without imposing our directions which barricade their independent growth. Students in foreign universities are taught to behave or suffer. They are very well aware that to work hard is the mission of their life, but sometimes either luck or their observance doesn�t behave well with them.
When we feel sick and are hospitalized we instruct our relations not to visit us there. Why do we do that? This is because we fear to receive virus from them. No doubt they are our well-wishers but we shouldn�t like them to be extra careful about us, as we remain anxious for our wayward children. We are more worried about our social relations thinking not to hurt them in the beauty of their dreams. The time is ripe when we shall think this practice to our advantage. We must remain cautious that the patient may not get viral from visitors; the relations must not get infected because of so many patients in the hospital, and think of hospital authorities not to get offended with too much crowd of callers which is an unnecessary evil. Let us focus on innovation, experiment incessantly to let the right thing emerge which could restore the parent child relationship.
Several difficult cases of errant students have been eased off by adopting positive attitude and discarding curt remarks which make them inflexible giving more pain to the parents. Experts have brought clarity to the fog in which this clueless subject is enveloped and their research along with our efforts will continue to benefit us. Though we lack in getting cent percent positive result but our continued efforts are sure to redeem us of all the ills including the agony of our wards. Experiment with innovated techniques and taking remedial steps are sure to confirm our hope of getting better results in our endeavour of stitching the parent- child relationship. We should not feel upset because after fixing some of the minor things there will not be any problem to have a smooth sailing.
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