Some traditional families in India believe in arranged marriages, but to select a partner is the hell of a job. There are multifarious aspirations growing within the minds of parents, but the aspirants believe in different theories, almost contrary to that of their parents. This is due to a generation gap, which has invaded our society since we got the exposure from western countries. They want adjusting, well educated, and well chiseled partners, giving preference to inner beauty which they believe is long lasting. Intelligent female partners having a sense of peace and tranquility chase partners who are affectionate and loving. The pattern of study has also changed and the youngsters want to go for professional and technical courses which are in great demand for the fast development of our country, having an ability to compete globally. The females have entered all the fields, which were previously dominated by men and most of them are top notch in various fields. In some cases they stand taller than men and the management is happy with the honesty, civility and resoluteness they have shown in the guiding lights of their existence. Simply admiring them before the mirror is out of their frame of reference, but being females they have different sets of emotions. Right to look attractive, adore their partners and to realize them with terrible clarity is their inheritance.
During their rendezvous both the parties remain confused, considering whether they would get a positive reply or the other party would remain indecisive while giving an appropriate response. There is also a fear of interference of relations who spoil the show. They hesitate to push them along the stream of their thoughts, and poke their nose to point out the flaws which spoil the budding relationship. With sly glances the aspirants look at each other to fix their image on their mind, and to study them later in the presence of their friends and relations. They delay the decision to gain time and if there is scope to push the relationship they meet on subsequent occasions to finalize the significant issue of their life. In fact much of it depends on the concerned partners who make their mind in their very first meeting, but withhold their decision to get a positive reply from the other partner. Sensing negative response they start feeling agitated and remain in a state of confusion till the outcome of their meeting comes to their belief. Expecting �Yes� dance in their eyes and with positive reply they feel polished and pampered with great pride. With negative response they want to be critical of the choice in their priorities. Despite the calm and tranquil ambiance of the meeting place, they remain baffled until good news sends a pleasure down their spine. Decision making is not as simple as it looks.
Parents remain worried and want to have a unique partner for their offspring. Most of the people hide the confusion and do not open up. Their start is cold in a quite hush atmosphere for getting the desired information that makes them either happy or their little amusement fades away. Partners or their parents can�t study them inside out in such a short time, but even an occasional low laugh on their face reveals the track of their decision. They sit to study the feasibility and are not sure about the outcome. If the end result is not to their liking, they should not feel frenzied; rather feel free to look for another partner. Dating is necessary to study the compatibility and behaviour of the partners who wants to enact a play of their life. Parents earlier wanted an unruffled partner who might remain under their thumb, which is impossible in civilized society. Difference of opinion to some extent is a sign of growing love between the couples, but the advice of friends at the right moment carries weight to change the course of their life. Aspirants need some time to become normal without anybody�s interference, and want to return the dedication cementing their allegiance for all times to come. Young people if properly guided would completely douse the fire of uneasiness burning in their heart, rather than allowing the link to be shattered even before they start their lives.
The whisper of participants is like the rustle of thousand leaves when they consult each other in the presence of the other members, which looks very odd. Why don�t they open up in a healthy manner and discharge their function in a straightforward manner? If the things are not to their liking, they can dispose the other party by uttering few kind words without feeling agitated. No doubt they are deciding the issue of their loved ones which require thorough probing to decide about their compatibility. Dough it in whirling emotions is really not what they need while establishing relationship or to cry for instinctual motion while willing themselves to remain firm. The past few days of their struggle were a blur of brisk activity giving them mental agony, which will remain until the things are finally settled enabling them to figure out what to do next. They want to put everything together into a coherent whole participating actively to solve the tangle of this vital issue concerning the life of two persons and thus need some time to settle issues in their right perspective. They allow their gaze on each other, knowing well they have come for an agreement which depends on various legitimacies. Their anxiety goes up a notch if they don�t come closer to each other.
The procedures people agree to these days are a mixture of traditional and modernism, being followed in west. Dating is one such criterion to understand each other before tying a knot. Uncertainty keeps the parents guessing and baffled. It is still a moot point whether the involvement of parents is necessary or the youth may use their own discretion.
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