| So how much is in "the closet"? Who knows! It's been five weeks since he's come out and just now he tries to figure it out. Ther'es the main dilema with people who are coming out of their closet. They are going to come completely outlandish. Be prepared for them to be everything you thought they weren't. The gay part of the person is not the only part in the closet. The ENTIRE person is in the closet and trying to live in an "accepted" identity. When they finally break out they will have to searchfor a new identity all over again. The person is never going to be what you think of as "themselves." This is the hardest part for me: understanding the change that I see while he is figuring out who he REALLY is. I want him to stay the way he was, but that is all a part of his closet. To truly escape their closet, the person needs to create new morals, new ideas, new options. While those of us who are straight figured out who we were in highschool and college, they figured out how to hide themselves. Thus they hid themselves from themselves. Now they can find who they really are and stop hiding from their own heart. Get ready for some frustration once they realize this. |